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Effective Communication:. Helping Parents Find Their Voice Stephen J. Bavolek, Ph.D. Author of the Nurturing Parenting Programs ®. Focus of the Training. Adult Learning Strategies Empowerment Communication. Adult Learning Strategies. Andragogy:

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    1. Effective Communication: Helping Parents Find Their Voice Stephen J. Bavolek, Ph.D. Author of the Nurturing Parenting Programs®

    2. Focus of the Training • Adult Learning Strategies • Empowerment • Communication

    3. Adult Learning Strategies

    4. Andragogy: “The art and science of helping adults learn.”

    5. Keep in mind that adults generally remember … • 10% of what they read • 20% of what they hear • 30% of what they see • 50% of what they see and hear • 70% of what they say and write • 90% of what they say as they do (Explained by Edgar Dale –Dale’s Cone of Experience, 1960)

    6. Cone of Experience, Edgar Dale (1946) in “AudioVisual Methods of Teaching”

    7. Knowles, Holton and Swanson (1998) discuss six assumptions of andragogy: • The Adult’s Need to Know • The Adult’s Self-Concept • The Role of the Adult’s Experience • The Adult’s Orientation to Learning • The Adult’s Readiness to Learn • The Adult’s Motivation to Learn

    8. The Adult’s Need to Know • Adults need to know why they should learn something and how it will benefit them. • Learning for immediate use is better than learning for future use. • What do you expect to learn? • How might the information be useful for them?

    9. The Adult’s Self-Concept • Adults resent and resist situations in which they feel others are imposing their wills on them. • Self-Concept as a learner is influenced by successes and failures in school. • Self-Concept as a learner is also related to the person’s level of empowerment and motivation.

    10. The Role of the Adult’s Experience • Based on a lifetime of experiences, adult learners are more heterogeneous than younger learners. • Adults’ personal identity is often tied to their experiences with biases and habits. • Reflective learning helps adults reassess the impact of experiences and prepare them for change.

    11. The Adult’s Readiness to Learn • Adults are ready to learn when they experience a need to learn something in order to cope with real life tasks or problems.

    12. The Adult’s Orientation to Learning • Adults are life, task, or problem-centered in their orientation. • Learning needs to use real life situations. • Flexibility in the lesson allows for personal experiences.

    13. The Adult’s Motivation to Learn • Adults’ internal priorities are more important than external priorities. • Incentives such as self-esteem, quality of life, and satisfaction are most important. • Adults’ input into the development of lessons or prioritization of topics can encourage adults to take ownership of the learning process.

    14. There are Four Elements to Learning • Motivation • Retention • Reinforcement • Transference

    15. Motivation • A key aspect of learning. • Teaching to unmotivated adults is a waste of the instructor’s time. • A friendly and open atmosphere helps build motivation. • The learning environment needs an appropriate level of concern and stress. • Appropriate level of difficulty. • Provide relevance.

    16. Retention • Practice through role play • Repetition • Sequenced lesson • Practical use experiences

    17. Reinforcement • Encourage learning • Positive better than negative • Support for students

    18. Transference • Learners can associate new information with something they know. • Learners can find similarities between the new information and something they know. • Learners have a high degree of original learning (self-discovery). • Learners need information for a critical reason.

    19. Summary of Major Points • Discover why adults would want to learn something new. • Adults need to learn experientially. • Approach topic as problem-solving. • Repeatedly emphasize relevance of topic. • Involve the adult in the planning, learning and evaluation. • Adults will need to process and reflect.

    20. Empowering Adults

    21. Empowerment involves helping others build their own power bases.

    22. Empowerment is a feeling of capability.

    23. In Nurturing philosophy, empowerment is referred to as Personal Power.

    24. Personal Power is defined as “the life energy within everyone that influences their quality of life.” Everyone has Personal Power.

    25. Personal Power is … • The drive to accomplish • The choices we make • The will to love • The energy to explore, create and question • The commitment to nurture ourselves and others • Our personal perceptions and self-worth

    26. Personal Power can be positive or negative.

    27. Positive use of Personal Power enhances our life, the lives of others, and builds positive self-worth.

    28. Negative use of Personal Power detracts and injures our life, the lives of others, and builds negative self-worth.

    29. The negative use of Personal Power is the mission of the victim and perpetrator personality traits within all of us.

    30. The positive use of Personal Power is the mission of the Nurturer and the Nurtured personality traits within all of us.

    31. Over time, personality traits turn into full-blown personalities with diseased or healthy neurological networks.

    32. Powerlessness is a feeling of learned helplessness which is related to drug and alcohol use, depression, domestic violence, influence of peer pressure, high levels of stress and anger, and family dysfunction.

    33. Power struggles are the personal desires of adults, teens and children to use one’s life energy to influence their lives.

    34. Ways to Build Personal Power in Self and Clients • Increase your level of self-awareness and model this behavior with your family and clients.

    35. Ways to Build Personal Power in Self and Clients • PraiseothersforBeing: unconditional regard. Often referred to as Unconditional Love. • Praise your self for Being and model this behavior with your family and clients.

    36. Ways to Build Personal Power in Self and Clients • Praise others for Doing: conditional regard with focus on behavior. • Provide opportunities for success to boost self-confidence. • Praise your self for Doing and model this with your family and clients. Focus on your behavior – not your intentions.

    37. Ways to Build Personal Power in Self and Clients • Brainstorm choices with clients and possible positive and negative consequences. Write these consequences down and give the list to the clients.

    38. Ways to Build Personal Power in Self and Clients • Build anger management strategies: • Increase understanding of anger. • Focus on anger “cues” (related to attunement skills). • Brainstorm with clients ways to express anger energy in healthy, positive ways. • Emphasize the importance of modeling appropriate anger expression skills with children.

    39. Ways to Build Personal Power in Self and Clients • Build stress management strategies: • Increase understanding of stress and distress • Focus on stress “cues” (related to attunement skills). • Brainstorm with clients ways to express stress energy in healthy, positive ways. • Brainstorm with clients ways to reduce stress.

    40. Ways to Build Personal Power in Self and Clients • Increase self-awareness. List self traits that are desirable and undesirable and a plan to replace undesirable traits with desirable ones.

    41. Ways to Build Personal Power in Self and Clients • Increase self-worth: • Personal Power • Praise for Being and Doing • Self-Awareness • Accept praise from others • Offer self praise • Change negative self-labels for positive ones • Have appropriate and realistic expectations for self

    42. Ways to Build Personal Power in Self and Clients • Treat others with dignity by developing Empathy.

    43. Empathy Empathy is the ability to perceive and accept the subjective experiences of others and to respond in a caring, dignified way. • Comes from the Greek word “empatheia” which means feeling into. • Brainstorm with clients ways to build empathy: caring for objects (clothes, home, car, etc.); caring for self (hygiene, diet, exercise, personal references/labels, etc.); caring for others (plants, pets, children, etc).

    44. Ways to Build Personal Power in Self and Clients • Build communication skills: • Taking responsibility for one’s behavior: no blaming. • Confronting and not criticizing: using “I” statements” and no name calling. • Brainstorm possibilities/causes/reasons to situations and events.

    45. Problem Solving and Decision Making Problem Solving - What is the problem? - Whose problem is it - What have you tried? Decision Making - What would you like to see instead? - Brainstorm three ways you can achieve your goals. - Try your solutions and evaluate the effectiveness. - If the problem persists, begin the process over. Negotiate and Compromise - When problem solving leaves both people at a stalemate.

    46. Communication

    47. Barriers to Listening • Focusing on Personal Agenda: Formulating our next thought while speaker is still talking. • Emotional Noise: Appearance; non-verbal cues. • Criticizing Speaker: Focus on the message and not on the messenger. • Speech Rate v. Thought Rate: Speech rate (125 wpm) is much slower than the rate at which we think (500-800 wpm). • Information Overload: Too much information. • External Noise: TV, cell phones, too hot or too cold room. • Feeling Sick: Headache, stomach ache, pain, discomfort

    48. Strategies for Listening • Focus on the person, their thoughts and feelings. • Pay attention to the person. • Listen for the essence of the message. • Be empathic and imagine how you would feel. • Ask questions for clarification.

    49. Barriers to Accurate Perceptions • Intense emotional state: anger, sadness, fear, etc. • Holding preconceptions about people or events. • Misconceptions generated from making assumptions and ignoring details. • Focusing on the negative aspects is a common habit. • Assuming others have a similar interpretation without checking how others interpret a situation. • Sending or receiving incongruent communication (behavioral) cues, i.e. body language that contradicts verbal message.

    50. Strategies for Improving Perceptions • Reality is nothing more than perceptions at moment. • All realities are the subjective interpretation of the moment. There is no objective world. • Question your perceptions and think about how they are formed. • Observe carefully and attentively – be completely involved in the moment. • Be aware of the meanings you attach to your perceptions. • Increased self-awareness will lead to awareness of the barriers used in perceptions. • Develop your level of empathy and work on focusing on others.