Must Familiarity Breed Erotic Boredom?

1. Must Familiarity Breed Erotic Boredom? Dr. Leanna Wolfe November 18, 2013

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6. American Culture • Adolescent Perspective on Romantic Love • Valentines Day • Contrast to Uganda • Ideal Spouse is One’s Best Friend • And a Soul Mate • French and Italians • More Deception and More Passion • Americans seek a Quixotic Paradox • Trust PLUS Enduring Erotic Excitement

7. Brain Chemistry of Romantic Love Attraction phase Attachment phase Lust

8. Europe in the Middle Ages • Adultery is idealized as the highest form of love among the aristocracy • It is impossible for true love to exist amongst people who are married to each other • Any man in love with his wife is a man so dull that no one else can love him – Montaigne • Nothing is more impure that to love one’s wife as if she were a mistress

9. Low Sexual Desire in America • Difficult to Fix • Hormonal Imbalance • More common in Women • Boredom • 15% success rate for couples seeking treatment

10. Solutions? • Separate Lives • Generate More Mystery • Date Nights • Build up anticipation with texting; little notes • Push the Envelope! • Humans are Novelty Junkies • Jack Morin’s, The Erotic Mind • The Spouse-Sibling Dilemma • Difficult to consider engaging the Mother of One’s Children in Fantasy Role Play, BDSM & Anal Sex • Serial Monogamy

11. Non-Monogamy • Cheating • Always Secret • Don’t Ask; Don’t Tell • Presumption that there are secrets, but retain bond • Monogamish • Explorations with some disclosure • Swinging • Recreational Sex done as a couple • Many variations • Polyamory • Full Disclosure • Tribal Bonding with a variety of sources for excitement and erotic release