SEX SENSATIONAL . . . SEDUCTIVE . . . DESTRUCTIVE???
First comes love . . . Then comes marriage . . . Then comes pushing the baby carriage . . .
Where do babies come from? What were you told???
Let’s be anonymously honest . . . Most of my early “sexual” knowledge came from my: • Mother • Father • Siblings • Friends • Movies/books/magazines
I feel like that my sexual attitudes have been affected mostly by: • My peers • My parents • My religious or spiritual beliefs • My own sense of self respect • My environment and society
In my lifetime, I have had sexual intercourse with: • No one • Only one person • 2-3 people • 4-5 people • More than 5
In the past month, I have had sexual intercourse with: • No one • Only one person • 2-3 people • 4-5 people • More than 5
I have had participated in oral sex at some point in my life: • Yes • No • Can’t remember
I consider oral sex “sex” • Yes • No • Not sure
When I have been sexually engaged alcohol or marijuana or some other drug was part of the scene. • Yes • No
The most common type of protection that I use when sexually active is: • Birth control pills • Patch • Condoms • Other • I am not sexually active
I have personally experienced some type of sexually transmitted disease. • Yes • No • Don’t know for sure
If I were to become pregnant as a single person or if I were to get someone pregnant, I would most likely take the following option: • Keep the baby and raise it myself • Keep the baby and let a relative help raise it • Put the baby up for adoption • Get an abortion
In case we lose sight of the real “purpose” of sex . . . here are some factual reminders
Sensational Sexual Reproductive Facts about the Male • Beginning around age12 to 13 testosterone causes the beginning of sperm production in the testicles suspended from the body in the scrotum so that the temperature is kept lower than body temperature. • A healthy young male will produce about 100,000,000 sperm each day!!! One thousand sperm per second!!! • A single ejaculation may contain up to 500 million sperm!
Sensational Reproductive Facts about the Female • Typically around age 11 to 14 estrogen will cause the breasts to begin forming, hips will widen and menstruation and ovulation will begin • The menstrual cycle occurs about every 28 days as the uterus continually prepares to nurture a fertilized egg • A woman will typically menstruate 400 times in a lifetime usually until her 40’s or 50’s when menopause sets in
More female fascinating facts • Each month about 14 days before the next menstrual cycle a ripened egg from one or both ovaries is released (ovulation) • Females do not continue to produce new eggs • An unborn baby girl will have about five million eggs in her ovaries • By early teenage years, she will have about 300,000 eggs . . . Still more than needed for the 400 ovulations
Females often have irregular cycles making ovulation unpredictable and meaning she could become pregnant almost any time she has intercourse • The released egg in the fallopian tube must be fertilized by the sperm within 24 hours • The millions of sperm racing to fertilize the egg can actually live for 3 to 5 days
The “Race” for life http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jvanNDQhlYI&feature=related http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aR-Qa_LD2m4&feature=related
BINGO – Conception!! • When the head of a single winning sperm penetrates the egg the chemical composition changes immediately making it impossible for other sperm to penetrate • The 23 chromosomes from the sperm and the egg are instantly joined together and the child’s genetic makeup determined • A sperm carrying a Y chromosome = boy • A sperm carrying an X chromosome = girl
Signs of Pregnancy • Home tests are fairly reliable if done correctly. They are designed to detect the presence of human chorionic gonadotropin (HCG). • Missed menstrual period • Slight bleeding • Nausea • Breast tenderness • Increased urination • Sleepiness, fatigue, increased emotion
Fabulous Fetal Facts • 12 hours after conception the tiny single cell (smaller than a grain of salt) divides into two cells and continues to do so every 12-15 hours • About 5 to 8 days after conception the fertilized egg will plant itself inside the rich uterine lining – now about 200 cells • Days 10 to 14 – misses first menstrual period
Day 21 – the heart begins to beat • 4 weeks – Embryo is ¼ inch long. The brain and backbone are forming with blood pumping to the liver • 5 to 6 weeks – Embryo is just over ½ inch. The skeleton is complete and the eyes, nose, and mouth have formed. The arms and legs are very short at this stage, but ten fingers are now developing • 8 weeks – Every organ is now functioning and the embryo is called a fetus (Latin for young one) 1 ½ inches long, .5 ounce
10-12 weeks – 3 inches long, moves tiny legs and arms. It sleeps, awakens, sucks its thumb, gets the hiccups & urinates. It makes facial expressions. End of first trimester • 4 months – 4 inches long, actively kicks, swims, & turns somersaults. Hands can now grasp each other and fingernails begin to appear. The eyes have now closed and won’t open again until 7 months. It is now obvious whether boy or girl • Mother is beginning to look pregnant
5 months – pregnancy halfway over, mother begins to feel movements, outer ear is fully formed and the fetus responds to sound. It has colored hair on its head and eyebrows • 6 months – now weighs over 1 pound with a chance of survival if born (Second trimester ends at 26 weeks marks beginning of third trimester) • 7 months – now weighs over 2 pounds & will gain about .5 pound per week, recognizes voices
8 months – the delicate skin begins to thicken. The baby is now about 18 inches long and weighs almost 4 pounds • 9 months – baby moves to head down position and movements are more restricted, average baby weighs about 7 pounds and is 20 inches long
Prenatal Care • Regular checkups • Blood Tests • Diagnostic Tests for abnormalities • Ultrasonography • Amniocentesis • Chorionic villus sampling (CVS) • Triple marker screen (TMS) • Nutrition • Eating for two is true • Vitamin B Folic Acid to prevent neural tube defects • Activity & Exercise (Kegel exercises to strengthen the pelvic floor)
Avoiding Drugs • Teratogen – an agent or influence that causes physical defects in a developing fetus • First trimester most critical period • Smoking – increased risk of miscarriage, chromosomal damage, infant death • Caffeine – increase risk of miscarriage • Getting drunk once during pregnancy can cause fetal brain damage • Fetal Alcohol Syndrome – result of high level of alcohol consumption during pregnancy – small head & body, unusual facial characteristics, congenital heart defects, joint problems, mental impairment & abnormal behaviors
Childbirth • First Stage – average of 13 hours • Cervical effacement and dilation to 10 centimeters • Contractions last about 30 sec. and occur every 15-20 min. • Small amount of bleeding and amniotic sac may rupture • Transition – stronger and more frequent contractions 60-90 sec. every 1-3 min.; dilation is complete; typically lasts for 30-60 min. • Second Stage – involves the actual delivery • Intense pushing/bearing down with contractions forcing baby through the pelvic area and vagina with the head “crowning” at the vaginal opening
As the baby is squeezed through the pelvis, cervix and vagina the fluid in the lungs is forced out and as the baby emerges the chest expands and fills with air for the first time • The umbilical cord is not cut until it stops pulsating • The baby is wet and covered with a milky substance • Third Stage • 5-10 min. when the placenta is expelled • Baby is assessed with an Apgar score 5 min. after birth on a scale of 0-10 with 7-10 being normal Breastfeeding is recommended for at least first 6 months. Currently 60% of mothers breastfeed.
Now that we’ve reviewed the facts on where babies come from . . . What if? The comes before
So what after a positive pregnancy test are the options????? • Marriage – increasingly less of a selected option; one-third of teenage marriages end in divorce after 5 years • Single Parenting – as statistics point out an increasingly acceptable option; increases likelihood of being economically disadvantage; many negative implications for the child; often imposes on extended families
Consider this . . . • In 2004 1.5 million babies were born to unwed mothers • 55% of births for ages 20-24 were to unwed mothers • Almost 28% for ages 25-29 • Of unwed births 24% were from teens • Two-thirds of girls ages 15-19 say it’s okay for an unwed woman to have a child
Adoption – a very positive option demonstrating strength and sacrificial love “It’s nice to know that if you’re not ready to be a mom . . . Someone else is!” • Abortion – controversial option made legal in 1973 by the Supreme Court with Roe vs. Wade • As of May 2005, in Georgia there is a mandated 24 hour waiting period after being informed by a physician of gestational stage, options, consequences and parents/legal guardians of minors must be informed prior to abortion
Abortion Stats • At current rates, about 40% of American women will have had at least one abortion by the time they are 45 years old! • The typical American woman having an abortion is age 20-30, has a previous birth, has never been married, is poor, lives in a metropolitan area, and is Christian!
Abortion Methods • Suction curettage (vacuum aspiration) • 6th to 12th week of pregnancy • Used in 90% of abortions • Manual vacuum aspiration (MVA) • Used in earliest stage of pregnancy • Medical Abortion • Drug – mifepristone (UR-486) • Given 49 days following last menstrual period under medical supervision (a second dose two days later) • Can take between a few hours to several weeks • Dilation and Evacuation (D & E) • Commonly used after 12th week of pregnancy • Involves surgery and aspiration • Partial birth abortion is a type of D & E
Seductive Sex • Music lyrics • Movies/TV • Magazines • Advertisements/Commercials • Clubs • Internet • Sports heroes • Movie stars • Fashion
A Quick Glance at Sexy TV The latest Kaiser Family Foundation survey reveals: • 70% of shows have sexual content • Average of 5 sex scenes per hour • 68% talked about sex • 35% demonstrated sexual behaviors • 11% involved intercourse This Fall 2008 16 of the lead roles in prime time TV will be homosexual or bisexual
How easy is it to get caught up in the “sex” trap???? • Are we playing with “fire”???? • Walking through a dangerous mine field???? • De-sensitization = Destruction
Destructive Sex PID pregnancy gonorrhea Herpes Crabs Syphilis Chlamydia Hepatitis B HPV Abuse Abortion Destroyed Dreams AIDS Emotional Scars
The truths about the totally non-sexy, dark side of sex • 18 million Americans get an STD each year, 25% of them are teens • Nearly 2/3rds of all people who acquire STDs are under 25 • 20% of all Americans age 12 and older have genital herpes (estimate). • By age 24, at least one in three sexually active people are estimated to have an STD. • Up to 85% of those infected with certain STDs are asymptomatic (no signs – no symptoms – contagious)
UWG Statistics from 2009 • 74% reported engaging in sexual intercourse within the past year • 16% used alcohol the last time they had intercourse • 46% considered it a “great risk” to consume alcohol prior to sex • 50% considered it a “great risk” to regularly engage in unprotected sex with a single partner • 79% considered it a “great risk” to regularly engage in unprotected sex with multiple partners
Playing with sex is like playing with Playing with sex and alcohol is like playing with Be careful . . . You might blow up your future!
What is “Friends With Benefits”? Are the “benefits” worth the risks? Maybe we should be looking for “Friends With Brains” . . . A better FWB!!!
Recent Survey of College Students You all THINK you are more sexually active than your really ARE! • 34% of the men report being virgins • 18% of the women report being virgins • 76% report no sex or sex with one partner over the past 12 months while 82% THINK others have had 2 or more partners.
Is Oral Sex . . . Sex? • Acceptable? Bill Clinton & Monica Lewinsky • Trends? • Risks?