springhill counselling group blog, How to Have an Effective Counseling
You don’t need a good counselor alone to make counseling effective, it’s a two way street. The person receiving the counseling needs to be cooperative because a good counselor couldn’t do his job if the person receiving the counseling wouldn’t participate. And it needs commitment to make complex changes in behavior or thinking patterns.
From the beginning you need to know your goal and what is it that you wanted to achieve with your counselor, it should be clearly defined before you even start. Plan a realistic time frame for reaching your goals with your counselor. And also it is important that you both agree on how you will measure your progress.
Though it is the counselors’ responsibility to gain your trust and build rapport, you have to do your part as well and be honest. It is very important that you and your counselor to establish a good relationship so that it will allow you to be completely honest about your thoughts and feelings. It is vital to built rapport because the situation often entails an elusive “chemistry” between both of you in which you feel comfortable with your counselor’s personality, approach and style. This is very important that if after few sessions you don’t feel this chemistry, look for another counselor with whom you feel more comfortable because that’s the first step of the effective results.
And if you are wondering hoe to tell if you have found an effective counselor here are some signs to spot.
An effective counselor can help identify the obstacles in your way but you are still in charge for making changes in your life. If you have power over these obstacles, a counselor can put forward behavioral changes to help you conquer them. Your counselor can coach you on coping mechanisms that will encourage your well being in trying circumstances if these obstructions entail factors out of your control.