EMPATHY October 2, 2006 Charles Nesson
serve chocolates be living not dying
facts in context Context is crucial to how we see facts. The meaning we give to facts often varies with our point of view. There may be multiple ways to see facts, depending on what (or whose) viewpoint we take.
CyberOnefirst stone – daniel gilbert our reasons and our pains are more palpable, more obvious and real, than are the reasons and pains of others
EMPATHIZE it means to sense the hurt or the pleasure of another as s/he senses it and to perceive the causes thereof as s/he perceives them
- carl rogers but without ever losing the recognition that it is *as if* you were hurt or pleased
empathy To perceive the internal frame of reference of another with accuracy and with the emotional components and meanings which pertain thereto as if one were the person,
but never losing the "as if" condition.
empathy in dispute resolution wooing the undecided [[homework food for thought: discuss the “as if” condition]]
to court • chose your client’s best story • start where your client’s story starts.
empathy in issue identification • exams • interviewing client
empathy in dispute resolution wooing the other
to other • serve chocolates • start with the other’s story • draw the other’s attention in • empathize so that the other understands that you understand
break • serve chocolates