Opening prayer. Family Life Ministry Q1 Theme FAMILY VALUES & QUALITY OF RELATIONSHIPS.
FAMILY VALUES & QUALITY OF RELATIONSHIPS
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Effective Family Finance Management
1 Peter 3:8-12
8Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:
9Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.
10For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile:
11Let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it.
12For the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous, and his ears are open unto their prayers: but the face of the Lord is against them that do evil.
Text: 1 Peter 3:8-12 (KJV)
Relationship as defined in dictionary.com is a connection, association or involvement.
Relationship is a connection between persons by blood or marriage.
Relationship is an emotional or other connection between people.
Relationship could also mean an affair.
Pastor and Congregation Exodus 32:7-14 , Deuteronomy 10:6 , 1Peter5:2-4 , 1Peter4:11
Friends (David and Jonathan) 1 Samuel 18:3 , 1Samuel23:16
Employer and Employee 1Peter3:15
Teacher and student Proverbs23:12(good news version says pay attention to your teachers and learn all you can)psalm25:12
Leaders and the people1Peter2:13-15
What is a Family?
Dictionary.com defines family as:
A basic social unit consisting of parents and their children, considered as a group, whether dwelling together or not:
It also defines family as all those persons considered as descendants of a common progenitor.
Therefore family relationship can be defined as a basic social unit consisting of parents and their children, considered as a group whether dwelling together or not but having connections between persons by blood or marriage.
Healthy and Unhealthy relationship.
What is an unhealthy relationship?
not in a state of good or normal health; in an unsound, weak, or morbid condition.
Never admitting wrong doing (Saul)
Taking the other person for granted
Not being responsive to the feelings of the other person
Not spending time together
Always wanting to have your way
Always talking and not listening
Lack of trust
Lack of integrity
Lack of tolerance
Lack of Christ
Lack of communication
Repression of feelings and thoughts
Abuse (verbal, emotional ,physical)
Unanswered prayers 1 peter3:7
Don’t be a mind reader
Don’t take the other person for granted
Be reasonable in the method of teaching (headship is not making all the decisions)
Be responsive to the feelings of the other party
Spend time together (there is something more than making a living, it is sharing lives)
Don’t be judgmental
Respect each other
Give gifts (not necessarily expensive)
Love each other (1peter 1:22b)
Talk and allow the other to talk also
Putting our knowledge into action (we like to learn new ways but refuse to put what we have learnt into action).
Live peaceably (it is the duty of a Christian not only to embrace peace when offered, but to seek and pursue it when it is denied).
Putting on the grace of God ( the longer we wear the grace of God, the brighter and better God’s grace is on our lives.
My definition of a healthy relationship is a relationship that is one minded, compassionate,
tenderhearted, courteous, full of love, life, good days, no evil, no deceit, a relationship that doeth good, is peaceful it is an answer to prayers.
Is this kind of relationship possible?
Have respect for each other not fear
Talk about your goals, challenges, etc.
Discuss successes and failures easily without fear or shame
Keep doing whatever works for your home, don’t compare your home with others
Brethren, if we can adhere to 1 Peter 4:8 which says; “And above all things have fervent love for one another, for LOVE WILL COVER A MULTITUDE OF SIN”
I believe the Lord is telling us today that there is something more than making a living, it is sharing lives.
The reasons for sick (unhealthy) relationships can NEVER be so great that we CAN NEVER have stronger reasons to (have a healthy relationship)!