Conflict Resolution

1. Conflict Resolution

2. Conflict • Conflict is a normal part of daily life. • While we cannot avoid conflict there are methods we can learn in order to handle conflict in a constructive manner. • Health care workers need to develop the skills to handle many different situations before they escalate.

3. Good Communication • Conflict is common when there is a lack of good communication. • Many problems can be avoided by active listening. • In active listening, you don’t judge the other person. • Instead, you try to understand the speaker’s experience, feelings, and point of view.

4. Good Communication • Make sure the speaker really knows you’re listening. • Pay attention and use eye contact if possible. • Clarify anything you are not sure you understand by restating what you heard.

5. Three basic conflict styles • Avoidance – steering clear of conflict. • Confrontation – a tough, aggressive, in-your-face approach to conflict. • Problem Solving—working to find solutions to conflict.

6. Avoidance • If avoidance is your style, you see conflict as a threat. • It scares you and makes you uncomfortable. • So you might go along with what other people want to do, without saying what you want. • You might let others treat you rudely or unfairly, without speaking up. • It may be hard for you to express your feelings or stand up for your values.

7. Avoidance is smart • Sometimes avoidance is smart – like staying away from a corner where a tough gang hangs out. • But if you always try to avoid conflict, you may feel angry and resentful about what you put up with. • And when you don’t say what you think and feel, you shut other people out. • That can make you feel lonely.

8. Confrontation • If confrontation is your style, you see conflict as a battle, and you want to win. • You tend to jump on anybody who disagrees with you or criticizes you. • You argue, you try to dominate, you threaten, and you may get abusive—either physically, by fighting, or verbally, by insults or sarcasm.

9. Confrontation is necessary • Sometimes confrontation is necessary—for instance, if someone attacks you physically. • But if you make a habit of being confrontational, you’ll get into a lot of fights and a lot of trouble. • Other people may avoid you. • You may miss a lot of chances to learn about others and about yourself, because you don’t talk about what you—or others—really think and feel.

10. Problem Solving • If problem solving is your style, you’re not threatened by conflict, and you don’t fear it—you see it as a natural part of life. • You’re a good listener, you freely state your own feelings and opinions, and you’re willing to compromise. • You enjoy the give-and-take that happens when people work out problems together. • You believe that when conflict occurs, it’s possible for everyone to win.

11. Problem Solving • If you’re a problem solver, you probably get along with many different people. • You don’t waste your energy fighting, and you don’t get hung up on feelings of resentment. • You know yourself pretty well, and you enjoy getting to know others. • Problem solving takes skills. • Having these skills makes you feel confident.

12. Model for problem solving • Gather Information –assess the situation and obtain facts • Identify the problem or issue-what is the cause of the stress • List possible solutions-find all the ways to eliminate the stress • Make a plan-evaluate the possible solutions and choose one • Act on your solution—use the solution • Evaluate the results—did it work • Make changes if needed