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  1. Thriving Families: Insights from the Science of A Meaningful LifeNovember 13, 2010 Dacher Keltner University of California, Berkeley keltner@berkeley.edu www.greatergoodscience.org

  2. What is the Meaningful Life? • Jen Hiking in the Sierras • Moderation Understanding self • Virtue Standing out from others • Eudamonia Fulfilling duties • Justice Rising in Status • Financial Well-being • Democracy • Laughter • Being in love • Friends • Success at Work • Delicious burrito • Reunion with family • Giving

  3. Happiness and Health • Happy nuns at 22 2.5 times less likely to die between 80 and 90 • Happy about aging adds 7.5 years to life • Happy at 70 adds 20 months to life • Happiness associated with • Fewer health symptoms • Fewer strokes • Fewer fatal accidents • Reduced cardiovascular disease • Reduced allergic reaction

  4. Happiness at work • Most cheerful college students make $25,000/year compared to least cheerful • Happy workers more productive, better job performance • Happiness leads to boost in creative thought, problem solving • Happiness makes for more integrative negotiators • Emotionally intelligent managers have more satisfied teams

  5. The Unbearable Heaviness of the Teens • Teen years as crisis • Rise in anxiety, depression, perfectionism • Epidemics in materialism, narcissism • Wait for frontal lobe growth • New rules and principles • Crisis, growth, and revelation of who we are

  6. Our culture needs it

  7. The Jen Ratio • A person of jen, Confucius observes, “wishing to establish his own character, also establishes the character of others.” • A person of jen “brings the good things of others to completion and does not bring the bad things of others to completion.” • Jen Ratio High Jen Acts/Low Jen Acts

  8. STRESS and the Hypothalamic Pituitary Adrenal (HPA) axis • Chronic stress and: • Increased feelings of vulnerability, isolation, lack of control, threat • Stress, anxiety, fear, nervousness • Vigilance to threats • immune system compromised, ulcers, damage to DNA, damage to brain cells, shortened lives in response to disease

  9. Take care or die

  10. The Prosocial Nervous System

  11. The Meaningful Life High Jen Engagement Cynicism Connect Isolation Trust Distrust Give Greed Play Aggress Appreciate Blame Optimism Pessimism Acceptance Rejection Narrative Suppression Contemplate Hyperactivity Sacred Anomie

  12. Connect Strong support leads to lower levels of cortisol (Kiecolt-Glaser) Give stressful speech with supportive member in audience, lower blood pressure Spiegel et al., 1989: women with breast cancer who are in supportive group therapy better life expectancy (37 vs. 18 months) Your connections spread outward

  13. Touch and the spread of goodness

  14. Connection • Fist bumps • Eye contact • Knowing names • Mindfulness: Loving Kindness • Cuddle clubs • Illusion of weak ties?

  15. Trust • Rewards • Builds Trust • Signals Safety • Soothes

  16. Coding Touch

  17. Building a trusting mind • Talking intentions of others

  18. GIVEIf any civilization is to survive, it is the morality of altruism that men have to reject. Ayn Rand Giving $20 improves happiness more than spending $20 on self

  19. Play

  20. Varieties of Play • Satire • Word play • Nicknames • Rough and Tumble • Imaginative games, characters • Enhanced health, conflict resolution, creativity

  21. Nicknames for sale • Dadu • Dadu Guy • Boobis • Poopis • Fufu • Bison, Bogman

  22. Gratitude • Reverence for what has been given to you • McCullough: Written accounting of gratitude, better health 3 weeks later • Lyubomirsky: 1 time a week write down what you’re grateful for, boosts in happiness

  23. Gratitude diaries • Thorns and roses (5th grade) • Language of politeness • Thank you notes

  24. OptimismExpectations that the future holds socially desirable outcomes • Optimistic people report higher levels of overall well-being and happiness • Optimistic people report higher levels of positive emotion • Optimistic people have higher resting vagal tone • Optimism measured in 1945 (in men) predicts better reports of health 35 years later • Optimism rated in coded acceptance speeches in 20th century presidential candidates predicted the victor 18 of 22 times • Writing about best self: Greater Happiness, health

  25. Maximizing Perfectionism) vs. Satisficing (Barry Schwartz) • Whenever I’m faced with a choice, I try to imagine what other possibilities are, even ones that aren’t present. • When I am in the car listening to music, I often check other stations to see if something better is playing, even if I’m satisfied with what I’m listening to. • I often find it difficult to shop for a gift for a friend • Renting videos is really difficult. I’m always struggling to pick the best one. • I’m a big fan of lists that attempt to rank things. • I find writing is very difficult. It’s so hard to get the words just right. • No matter what I do, I have the highest standards for myself.

  26. Toxic perfectionism • Language of perfectionism • Perils of praise

  27. Narrative • Write about strongest emotions of trauma, or the facts of the event • Traumas studied: bereavement, divorce, holocaust survivors, 9-11 victims • Effects: increased well-being, enhanced immune function, reduced visits to health center, reductions in anxiety, depression

  28. Contemplation (Alan Wallace: Genuine Happiness) • Attention • Breathing • Settle into relaxed posture • Focus attention in between what you’re looking at and eyes • Breathe 21 times • Attend to movements of lungs • Mindfulness • Of body • Imagine attention as curved surface • Move this attention up and down body • Be mindful of sensations throughout body • Loving Kindness • Bring to mind a person who is dear to you • Imagine person’s sufferings, yearnings • Wish for person’s happiness • Extend to another person, broadening circle of care

  29. The Sacred Nature, art, politics, religion, collectives, rock and roll Benefits: Reduced depression, increased altruism, increased longevity Qualities Transcendent purpose Small self Sense of Design Common humanity Self located in broader pattern/force

  30. Jumping off rocks near Lake Tahoe • A song late at night • Learning to breathe together

  31. TEN TIPS FOR THE GOOD LIFE Connect vs. IsolationFist bump, back pat, 10 minute mindfulness Trust vs. Distrust Describe others in terms of good intentions Give vs. Greed Service learning, volunteerism Play vs. Aggression Nicknames, wrestling, satirize self Appreciate vs. Blame Gratitude diary, Thank You letter Optimism vs. Pessimism Delights of small goals Acceptance vs. Rejection Speak respectfully; praise effort not ability Narrative vs. Suppression Questions, Diaries, Thorns & Roses Contemplate vs. Hyperactivity Favorite sayings, count to six breathing exercise Sacred vs. Anomie Sacred place, camping, museum, patterns Greater Good Science Center www.greatergoodscience.org

  32. Thank You