Four Rules for Biblical Communication Help in resolving the problem we’ve had since Cain and Abel.
Rules for Communication • Verse 25 - Be honest
1 Corinthians 2:11a For who among men knows the thoughts of a man except the spirit of the man which is in him?
Truth is always right. Deceit is always wrong. Honesty is more than not lying. It is the presence of truth.
Many types of dishonesty • Outright deceit, falsehood • Conflict between words and body language • Disguising the message • Concealment, Genesis 31:26-27
Genesis 31:26-27 Then Laban said to Jacob, "What have you done by deceiving me and carrying away my daughters like captives of the sword? 27. "Why did you flee secretly and deceive me, and did not tell me so that I might have sent you away with joy and with songs, with timbrel and with lyre;
Rules for Communication • Verse 25 - Be honest • Verses 26-27 - Keep current Philippians 3:13 Brethren, I do not regard myself as having laid hold of it yet; but one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead,
Hebrews 13:15 Through Him then, let us continually offer up a sacrifice of praise to God, that is, the fruit of lips that give thanks to His name.
BEFORE I SPEAK… • Do I have my facts right?
Proverbs 18:13 He who gives an answer before he hears, It is folly and shame to him.
BEFORE I SPEAK… • Do I have my facts right? • Should I hide this? (sinful?)
1 Peter 4:8 Above all, keep fervent in your love for one another, because love covers a multitude of sins
BEFORE I SPEAK… • Do I have my facts right? • Should I hide this? (sinful?) • Is my timing right?
Proverbs 15:23 A man has joy in an apt answer, And how delightful is a timely word!
Ephesians 4:15 but speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in all aspects into Him who is the head, even Christ
BEFORE I SPEAK… • Do I have my facts right? • Should I hide this? (sinful?) • Is my timing right? • Is my attitude right? • Are my words loving?
BEFORE I SPEAK… • Do I have my facts right? • Should I hide this? (sinful?) • Is my timing right? • Is my attitude right? • Are my words loving? • Have I prayed for help?
Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart And do not lean on your own understanding.
Rules for Communication • Verse 25 - Be honest • Verses 26-27 - Keep current • Verses 29-30 - Attack problems not people
Unwholesome Words… • Attack character
Matthew 5:21-22 "You have heard that the ancients were told, `YOU SHALL NOT COMMIT MURDER' and `Whoever commits murder shall be liable to the court.' 22. "But I say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother shall be guilty before the court; and whoever says to his brother, `You good-for-nothing,' shall be guilty before the supreme court; and whoever says, `You fool,' shall be guilty enough to go into the fiery hell.
James 3:5-12 So also the tongue is a small part of the body, and yet it boasts of great things.See how great a forest is set aflame by such a small fire! 6. And the tongue is a fire, the very world of iniquity; the tongue… defiles the entire body, and sets on fire the course of our life, and is set on fire by hell. 8. But no one can tame the tongue; it is a restless evil and full of deadly poison. 9. With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in the likeness of God…
Unwholesome Words… • Attack character • Hinder growth • And grieve the Spirit
Colossians 4:5-6 Conduct yourselves with wisdom toward outsiders, making the most of the opportunity. 6. Let your speech always be with grace, as though seasoned with salt, so that you will know how you should respond to each person. Edifying words… show wisdom, have appeal, & address solutions
Rules for Communication • Verse 25 - Be honest • Verses 26-27 - Keep current • Verses 29-30 - Attack problems not people • Verses 31-33 - Act, DON’T react
I Corinthians 10:13 No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, so that you will be able to endure it.
Proverbs 13:15 Good understanding produces favor, But the way of the treacherous is hard.
Communicating biblically is part of “life and godliness.” It starts with submitting to the word of God.