You are not alone! Knowing Resources and Building Supports

1. You are not alone!Knowing Resources and Building Supports Ed Dunkelblau October 2012

5. Purpose of a Pre Deployment Plan • Reduce Stress!! • Helps us maintain focus • Makes the transition easier • Develop new routines • Help the children through the change Peace of Mind!!!!!

6. Family Resilience (Diane Milne) Adaptability—being able to cope with different types of stress Appreciation—doing positive things for one another Clear roles—understanding roles and responsibilities in the family and being flexible Commitment—recognizing each other’s worth and being committed to the family system Communication—being open and honest with each other and willing to listen to the views of others, being able to manage conflict in a positive way Community ties—being involved and connected to the community

7. When your struggling…. Take a “P” People Problem solving Positivity

8. People Reach out to trusted friends Look to family Keep in touch

9. Get to know your friends

10. Find Family

11. Problem Solving Things will go wrong

12. Asking for help Often seen as weakness Hard to reach out Afraid there will be no help Fear judgment or embarrassment

13. Sometimes its necessary to get some support

14. Coast Guard Employee Assistance Program: 1-800-222-0364 WorkLife4You Resource and Referral Service: 1-800-222-0364

15. Communications • Technology Deployment Communications Plan • Is the computer ready (WebCam, programs etc…)? • Unit Communications (Phone Tree, News Letters, Face Book, etc…) • Method and schedule: • Time difference • Schedule for the SM, family and children • Who, when and frequency • Duration

16. Support Systems • Who will fix the house, cars, appliances, yard work and the rest? • Who will give me a break (baby sitting etc…)? • Who do I turn to? • Emotional support (Friend, family, church, etc) • Where do I get moral support? • Professional? • What family supports are available?

17. How You Say Good Bye • What is the plan? • When and how will we say good bye to? • Co workers • Faith community • Neighbors • Friends • Close friends • Family • Spouse and children

18. Other Considerations • Physical: • When can I workout, walk, run, whatever • Disciplining of the children • Tricare, are we signed up and who are our providers • What about the Kids? • Who supports me? (Parents and Designated Representatives) • What about the Ex? • Have you informed your Employer (ESGR)?

19. Coping How am I going to handle stress? What do I do to take care of me?

20. Secrets of Success Passion Work hard Be good at it Focus Serve something of value Persistence Choose your attitude - …….Positivity

21. Positivity

22. Being Positive • Improve our ability to handle difficulties • Improve performance • Improve decision making • Keep us healthier

23. Perpetual optimism is a force multiplier.General Colin Powell

24. Both optimists and pessimists contribute to the society. The optimist invents the airplane, the pessimist the parachute.George Bernard Shaw

25. Maintaining positivity Recognize that attitude is a choice Find positive colleagues Preserve a positive memory and go to it when necessary Focus on humor

26. Negativity More likely to fail Leads to or maintains depression Harder to see alternatives Bad for your health Sucks energy from others and self

27. What Causes Negativity Criticism Rejection A**holes Pressure

28. USCG Spouse Handbook • http://www.uscg.mil/worklife/docs/pdf/spousehandbook.pdf

29. USCG Employee Assistance • http://www.uscg.mil/worklife/employee_assistance.asp

30. Coast Guard Employee Assistance Program: 1-800-222-0364 WorkLife4You Resource and Referral Service: 1-800-222-0364

31. Discuss One way that you remain positive in the face of adversity.

32. Family Systems Explained