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Q&A with Lauren Bierman
Lauren Bierman, LPC, CSAT, recently took on the roll of developing and running Gentle Path at
The Meadow’s Intensive Outpatient program for sex addicts. She is a Licensed Professional
Counselor and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist who has worked with both individuals and
families on issues related to substance abuse, depression, anxiety, personality disorders, intimacy
disorders, and sexual addiction. We asked her to share some insights on sex addiction and explain
her approach to her work at Gentle Path.
As a therapist, you have experience treating patients with a wide range of addictions and
behavioral issues. Why did you eventually decide to focus on sex addiction?
As I started my journey in undergraduate and graduate programs towards becoming a counselor I
knew that I wanted to work with addictions; but, I had little exposure to sex addiction at that time.
When I started my clinical internship with The Meadows in 2010, I rotated from population to
population trying to get a good foundation of how to treat all types of presenting issues. It was not
until I did my rotation in the sex addiction treatment primary group that I realized that I had a passion
for treating individuals who were struggling with intimacy disorders such as Sexual Addiction and
I quickly learned how rampant this addiction is in the general population and in those who seek
treatment for other co-occurring disorders. I have also always had an interest in working with
couples and it helped me see how much sex addiction therapy is needed in working within that
Working with people struggling with intimacy disorders challenged me to become skilled at
confronting overt and covert behaviors, working with personality issues such as narcissism, and
helping people tolerate the emotional pain that can lie so deep within coupleship and families.
Over the years, working with great mentors, learning about Dr. Carnes work, and getting trained in
the CSAT model just continued to grow my passion for this field and for the community of
clinicians who work in it.
You are now in charge of Gentle Path’s new Intensive Outpatient Program. Why did we start
this program? What can recovering addicts and their family members expect from it?
Individuals who come from an inpatient treatment center will likely always need some type of
transition to help facilitate re-acclimating into the real world. Inpatient treatment is meant to create
a safety bubble to help deter triggers and opportunities for acting out. We all know that
unfortunately this is not the way the world works once they step off of campus. Maintaining long-
term recovery can be especially challenging for sex addicts, due to the accessibility of opportunities
to act out in almost any environment.
The Gentle Path Intensive Outpatient Program was built to allow for a smoother transition from
treatment to day-to-day life, and to allow people to continue working on accountability and using
the relapse prevention tools they learned about in treatment. The program allows them to practice
healthy autonomy and to have a safety net of their support group.
Recovering addicts and family members can expect continued structure in their process groups, 12-
step meetings, therapeutic activities, and peer support. On top of that, we also offer individual and
couple's therapy to help the patient continue to delve deeper into their struggles. We are able to
customize their treatment plan based on individual patients’ needs and help them to achieve goals
that they want. The Phoenix valley has an abundant recovery community where patients can
practice making connections and living in accordance with their recovery plan.
You also played an integral role in founding Gentle Path’s Family Week program. Can you
tell us why family involvement is important to a sex addict’s recovery process?
The education that Family Week provides for the family system is extremely important. There is a
large amount of misinformation out there about sex addiction and there are many stigmas and labels
that come with it. This can keep families stuck in unhealthy shame and isolation.
Working with the partner of the addict and other family members is crucial to long-term success for
the recovering addict. Sex addiction is the most "personal" addiction in that it can be so damaging
to the partner's self-esteem, view of the world, and trust. And, not only does the spouse or partner
suffer, but also many adult children, parents, and siblings of the addict are also negatively impacted;
their experience with the addict often has affected their relationships with themselves and others.
I look at treatment through the lens of Family Systems Theory, which says you cannot treat the
individual without treating the whole system and vice versa.
For example, when the addict is getting help, growing, and becoming healthier but the spouse who
has not been therapeutically supported is still in the pain and anguish of the trauma, it can really
hinder the addict’s recovery process and keep the couple stuck in a revolving circle of dysfunction.
By that same token, partners and family members can be light years ahead in their own recovery,
but if the addict continues their inappropriate behavior they can stunt the development and healing
that the family members have worked so hard to achieve.
Family can also unintentionally impact the addict’s recovery by enabling, rationalizing, or
encouraging their dysfunctional behavior if they do not know a healthier way to interact with them.
One of the hardest tasks in family week is for families to set healthy boundaries around the
Some family members, due to no fault of their own, have no idea how to communicate healthy
boundaries or reinforce them long-term. This is such an imperative step in all addiction recovery to
create the safety that all relationships need in order to be able to communicate effectively.
What is your hope for the future of sexual addiction treatment?
I have many hopes for the future of sex addiction. But, most important, is that we continue
education about the disease and decrease the shame and stigma around it. As a clinician, you can't
work day in and day out at an inpatient level of care and not believe that this is a debilitating brain
disease that leads to extreme consequences─ for some, even death.
I hope that our therapeutic community will wrap their arms around the issue and continue to
advocate for those who are suffering and those who have been impacted. There are so many
individuals out there who are too afraid to ask for help in fear of being judged and labeled.
Hopefully, in the future they will be able to come out of the shadows and seek treatment.
At one time, alcoholism was seen as a strictly "moral issue", but today it is seen by the medical
world as a brain disease. I believe that one day people will also see sex addiction as a much more
nuanced and complicated problem.