Definition of Backbiting & Slander

2. Definition of Backbiting & Slander

3. Backbiting Slander

4. The Prophet (pbuh)  said :"Do you know what backbiting is?" They said, “Allah and His Messenger know best." He then said, "It is to say something about your brother that he would dislike." Someone asked him, "But what if what I say is true?" He  said, "If what you say about him is true, you are backbiting him, but if it is not true then you have slandered him." (Muslim)

5. CasuallyConversing ‘Cannibals’

6. “O you who believe! Avoid much suspicion, indeed some suspicions are sins. And spy not neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting). And fear God, verily, God is the one who accepts repentance, Most Merciful.” ( Surah Al Hujrat: Verse12)

8. SO WHY DO WE DO IT?

9. Joking, ridicule Feeling Superior Ignorance Envy Alleviate hatred popularity with peers Some Reasons for Backbiting

10. Feeling superior

11. To alleviate hatred

12. Joking, Ridicule

13. Envy

14. Ignorance

15. Popularity with Peers

16. Behold, you received it on your tongues, and said out of your mouths things of which you had no knowledge;and you thought it to be a light matter,while it was most serious in the sight of Allah(Surah An Nur 24: Verse 15)

17. Common Misconceptions about Backbiting and How To Respond To Them

19. “I’m not backbiting,

20. “I’m not backbiting, I’m warning others about a person’s mistakes.”

21. “I’m not backbiting, I’ll tell them later”

22. Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, (pbuh), said, “When I was taken upon my night journey, I passed by a people who had metal hooks in their hands and they were clawing at their faces and necks. I said: who are these, O Gabriel? He said: these are the ones who eat the flesh of people (49:12) and disgrace their honor.”[Sunan Abu Dawud, Book of Manners, Number 4878, Sahih]

23. “I don’t care, I can say it to their face.”

24. “I’m not backbiting, it’s true.”

26. “You have said a word that if were to be dropped into the sea it would contaminate it.”Tirmidhī

27. “Whoever guarantees control over what is in between their thighs and their jaws, He will guarantee them Paradise.“ Bukhari

28. Exceptions in backbiting

29. 1.To warn about negative aspect of a marriage candidate

30. 2.To warn & advice about a public figure

31. 3.To Speak negatively about personalities like Pharaohand Abu Jahl.

32. 4.To warn people about a person who publicly violates the laws of Allah

33. 5. To complain about transgression & oppression to concerned authority

34. 6. To seek an Islamic legal ruling from a scholar

35. What to do when people gossip

36. Praise the person being talked about 

37. Check the truth about what you are saying … Invite truth from each other

38. Explain it’s none of your concern

40. Change the topic

41. Leave

42. The very least, feel bad in your heart

43. Ways to kick the backbiting bug

44. 1.Accept that gheebahis absolutely forbidden

45. 2.Consider what makes you start gheebah What are your triggers?

46. 3.Visualise yourself eating a carcass

47. 4.Practice control of negative thoughts

48. 5.Forgive and forget

49. 6.Identify those whose company poses the highest risk

50. 7.Avoid people with chronically negative thought patterns