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2. Attention men! If you’ve been searching for the best first date tips ever assembled, you’ve come to the right place! If you are actively meeting and dating women, or looking to find someone special, you must get your dating practices down pat. And this starts with knowing how to go on first dates. First dates are often boring, awkward, unexciting, and even torturous to many men. Guys build up the occasion in their mind for days or weeks beforehand, only to be severely let down after the fact. Too much pressure, too little chemistry, not enough fun, not enough attraction, nothing accomplished—all of these disappointments crush men in their pursuit of love. You see, most guys have zero idea about what to do on a first date. They don’t know where to go, what to say, how to act, and most importantly, they don’t know how to set up a second date! Yes, all is lost by the end of most first dates, and there is little hope for men to correct these issues . . . Until now! The following is a list of 40 of the best first date tips ever assembled—from some of the greatest dating coaches, relationship coaches, matchmakers, lifestyle coaches, and social experts on the planet! Take their tips and their advice and really soak them in. Many of these professionals have been helping men just like you for years and years; so believe in what they say.

3. Follow their steps, and your next first date will go great! And yes, it may be your last first date. P.S. Make sure you read ALL of these tips! It’s not enough to skip around. You really have to check out each tip and truly take in what each expert is saying! And… make sure you check out the awesome infographic at the very end of the post when you’re finished. It has some incredibly interesting fact about first dates! First date tips #1 1. Know why you’re dating Take a moment to do your mental preparation before you meet your date. Why are youdating? What’s your end-goal? Are you ready for a committed relationship or dating for fun?Knowing the answer to these questions allows you to engage in a manner consistent with your desires. When your intentions are clear, your meeting will be purposeful. 2. Show up as yourself Posturing some “better” version of whom you’d like to present is misleading to your date and sets the wrong tone for future interactions. It’s a game that can’t be maintained and guarantees dissatisfaction for both parties. The goal of dating is to find someone who wants what you want, and wants that with you. That’s only possible by starting with the ‘real you.’ 3. Have fun

4. Make up your mind, in advance, to have fun. Dating is a numbers game. Every time you meetsomeone new, you’re gaining vital information as to what you want (and don’t want) in apartner. No matter the outcome, this attitude allows you to walk away with a gain you can keep. Susan Winter (Allowing Magnificence and Older Women/Younger Men) is a bestselling author and relationship expert specializing in today’s evolving forms of loving partnership and higher thinking. Check out her site: susanwinter.net First date tip #2 My Top 10 First Date Tips: 10. Bathe or shower within three hours before your date; 9. Make sure you are well groomed; 8. Take some breath mints with you; 7. Spray some high quality cologne on yourself; 6. Do not go to a movie theater or a music concert on a first date; save those types of events for a second, third, or fourth date; 5. Do not become excessively flattering toward a woman on a first date; 4. Never spend more than approximately $25.00 on a woman for your very first date with her; 3. Ideally, you should engage in at least one lengthy (thirty minutes minimum) phone conversation with a woman prior to your first formal ‘date’ with her; 2. Never invite a woman on a formal ‘date’ if all you are looking to do is engage in one or more episodes of short-term and/or non-monogamous ‘casual’ sex with her. Just hook up with that woman and have sex with her;

5. 1. Similar to #2, never discuss any subject matter on a ‘first date’ that is not relevant to helping you determine if the woman you are on the date with is ‘long-term girlfriend material.’ Alan Roger Currie is a professional dating coach and author of ‘Mode One: Let the Women Know What You’re REALLY Thinking’ and ‘Oooooh . . . Say it Again: Mastering the Fine Art of Verbal Seduction and Aural Sex’. For more information, visit Currie’s Wikipedia.org page or his website, directapproachdating.com First date tips # 3 The magic word ‘why’ is a useful one to remember! Instead of just asking what someone does for a living or what their favorite film is, finding out why they do what they do or why they like that film will get them to reveal more about their personality and create a deeper connection. Go to your date armed with some fun conversation ice-breakers and stories about yourself to share too. Ideally ones that are interesting or funny! And remember to really listen to what your date is telling you about themselves. The conversation will flow easier and far more naturally if you really listen instead of thinking ahead of yourself for the next thing to say! Laura is a dating and lifestyle coach, writer and speaker specializing in helping guys see the better side of break-ups and heartbreak. Check out her website laurayates.org First date tips # 4 Here are 5 things you should never say on a first date:

6. 1. “I hope you like where I chose.” Women want to be with a guy who has a sense of certainty in what he does and in what choices he makes. If it becomes apparent that she is not impressed with your choice of venue, smile confidently and say to her: “This is not your kind of place, is it?” Remember this should come across more like a statement than a question. Then tell her that she has to be the one to choose the next date, AGAIN, and this is very important, you must say this in a playful manner. Always stay committed to your decisions, and never be apologetic about them either. If she doesn’t like your choice of venue, then make up for it in the interaction. If the venue is more important to her than spending time with you, she’s not a keeper. 2. “I feel nervous.” Awww, how cute, but with that line, you may have just sentenced yourself to the dreaded “friend zone”. Telling a girl how nervous you are is not going to make her attracted to you, of course she will feel sorry for you, and she will be extra ‘nice’ to you throughout the date, but don’t think for a second any of that means anything more than her display of sympathy for you. Pity is not a strong foundation to build attraction on. 3. “I want to know everything about you.” Even for the most talkative of women, this can feel a little overwhelming. Although you might think it’s a great way to get her to open up and that it will give her the impression that you really want to get to know the REAL her (unlike all the other guys), it usually just ends up as an awkward one-way conversation. Do you really want to hear all the grizzly details of her past relationships or how she cut herself when she was shaving her legs earlier that day? Women like to create a sense of mystery, and you should be conveying this yourself, too. Let the conversation flow, and let her reveal the hidden sides to her personality by gently provoking or challenging her, rather than making huge demands on her. 4. “We should do this again sometime.”

7. Two words: weak and generic. It lacks excitement and shouts uncertainty. When a guy says this to us on a first date, it gives us the impression that he is “testing the waters” because he is unsure if we will agree. Instead, try and implement what I like to call “future projections”. Example: During the date, when you feel it’s going well, say to her playfully: “Next time we have dinner, you order the wine,” or “Next time we meet, when we see a movie, I bet you’ll talk all the way through it.” As you can tell, these examples have a playful undertone to them, but most importantly, they are PRESUMING that there will be another date without a flimsy question dangling at the end of it. 5. “You look really nice tonight.” Any vague or generic compliments need to be abolished from the conversation. We use the word “nice” when describing something we have no real passion for, such as a “nice cup of tea.” Think about things you adore, that excite you or inspire you and then see if the word “nice” can articulate those emotions. Replace the word “nice”, “lovely” or even “pretty” with something more dynamic and that focuses on a more detailed attribute of hers. Example: “I really like the fact you have good taste in shoes, you can tell a lot about a woman who makes that extra effort” or “the way you’ve done your makeup is really striking.” Now, these might sound a little too detailed or might put you out of your comfort zone, but she will respond to those kinds of thoughtful and unique compliments a lot better than “your hair looks nice.” Kezia Noble is the Founder and CEO of Kezia Noble Ltd. Kezia is the UK’s best dating coach for men. She has published a bestselling book entitled the “Noble Art Of Seducing Women” and is a regular newspaper and magazine columnist. She also frequently appears as a guest expert on TV shows across the globe. First date tips # 5

8. When Justin asked me to write out some tips for guys going on first dates, I had to stop and think about my own life. I’m about to go on a first date tonight with a sexy, intelligent, confident woman. I’m excited about it, and as I prepare for it, I want to share the experience and wisdom with you. First and foremost, be flexible and make time for a first date. I’m a busy guy. So busy she’s the one girl I’m choosing to go out with this week. In making time for her with both of our schedules, it allows us to have that crucial first meeting sooner than later. The first date is important, so make sure you can make time for her, and schedule in an hour with her using a connection building activity. First dates shouldn’t cost much money, if any, at all. Since she and I can’t meet until later tonight, we’re grabbing drinks, and when it comes to drinks my rule is no more than 2 drinks to keep both time and money in check. Last, but not least, kiss her when it feels right. Kevin Alexander helps shy, introverted nice guys finish first with women via the Nice Guy Dating Daily Podcast and blog at niceguydating.ca. His brash, brutally honest yet approachable and comedic style keeps you entertained and informed about how to handle everything from dating to charm to fashion to exercise, making sure you finish first with women. When not on his podcast, you can find him guest blogging on sites such as Digital Romance Inc, SWExperts, and TSB Magazine. First date tips # 6

9. The secret to a great first date is to not give a damn. Go in being confident in who you are and what you have to offer the other person. It makes it easier to put your best foot forward and make a good impression. This means looking well put together, being a gentleman, having interesting topics of conversation ready and paying attention to your body language. First dates are about finding common ground and figuring out if you want to get to know this person more. The best way to do this is by being true to yourself and not pretending to be someone you’re not. Also, great first dates don’t have to be expensive. For example, grabbing a coffee and exploring a new neighborhood gives you things to talk about and is less stressful than sitting face to face. If you had a good time and want to see them again tell them and follow up with a plan. If you don’t, then thank them and move on. Ghosting is NOT allowed! Dating CAN be fun, it’s all about perspective! Suzie is the founder of SingleDatingDiva.com, an award winning blog about being single, dating and relationships. She also co-hosts the SexLoveChat Podcast and Twitter chat discussing current topics about sex and love. You can also find Suzie as a guest expert on various television and radio programs. First date tips #7 My 3 first date tips are: 1. Stay away from the same old same old Do an activity date that’s totally different – Try bumper cars, an archery or shooting range (most provide equipment), roller derby, etc. A little competition is healthy and fun. Just don’t shoot yourself in the foot (literally or figuratively).

10. 2. Manage your mindset Remind yourself that a bad first date is not the end of the world. If it really is that bad, it’ll make for a funny story to tell your friends later on! Remember this isn’t a job interview where you only have one shot to make a good impression. Keeping your nerves at bay will help you enjoy the night and show your best qualities. Positive self talk is your friend. 3. Pay if you want another day As much as times and gender roles have changed, they’ve really stayed the same. If you want to see her again, you have to pick up the tab. It’s the gentlemanly thing to do and you wouldn’t believe how many guys try to see a lady again after making her pay or split the bill. You’ll look lame and cheap if you don’t. April Davis is a Matchmaker and Founder of Cupid’s Cronies Matchmakers. Cupid’s Cronies is an upscale boutique matchmaking service for Executives and Professionals specializing in not only introducing matches, but also helping clients to attract and retain the relationship. First date tips # 8 What is a date supposed to be? FUN! Right, we forget about that! First dates are supposed to be light and casual and fun and exciting. But many times we forget this and fall back on our “dating interview” actions. Sooooo…. not fun and emotional. So a few tips for your first dates: 1. Keep it short. This is to find out if you have chemistry. Leave it on a high note with both sides wanting to see each other again. I’ve seen too many run out of steam when they go too long.

11. 2. Afternoon, not evening. If you meet at night, she’ll be wondering “Is he going to invite me home with him” or you might be thinking “should I invite her home with me.” This can cause anxiety that has no reason to exist. Remove that anxiety by meeting in the afternoon. I like coffee dates. 3. Ask positive emotional questions. We all hate the “WhereareyoufromWhatdoyoudoWhere’dyougrowup?” questions. All logic, no emotion. Instead, “What’s the best meal you’ve eaten?” “What’s the best compliment you’ve ever received?” “Where would your dream vacation be?” 4. Be unexpected. Not crazy, but predictable = boring = death of romance. Be silly if you’re silly, sarcastic if it’s your nature. Tell a joke if you have a good one. Just stand out a little bit from everyone else. Hunt Ethridge is CMO (Chief Marketing Officer) of LiveDatingAdvice.com, co-founder and senior partner at International Dating Coach Association (IDCA) as well as the senior coach at New York Dating Coach. Hunt is a dating and relationship expert that has consulted hundreds of men and women over the years. Hunt believes that each person is an individual and strives to make them the best version of themselves.

12. First date tips # 9 Call her before the date to confirm the details. Break the ice, set the plan, and get her excited to go out with you! Be the guy she is expecting to meet. In other words, don’t misrepresent yourself- whether it’s your age, occupation, or marital status. Whether you met her on Match.com or Hashsnap, look like the guy in the photos! Have good manners. Be on time. Open doors. Pull out chairs. Don’t curse like a sailor. Chew with your mouth closed. Pick up the tab. Be both interesting and interested. Have something unique to talk about. Tell her stories about who you really are and avoid the inauthentic, small talk. Ask her questions about herself that show you have genuine interest in getting to know her for who she is. Avoid all the topics you know you shouldn’t talk about–exes, politics, religion, etc. End the date properly. Walk her to her car, bus, or train. Care about how she gets home. If she’s given you strong signals of attraction, go in for the kiss. Otherwise, just give her a hug. Lastly, master the art of the follow-up. If you like her, let her know. Rachel Russo, MS, MFT is a NYC-based Dating & Relationship Expert, Matchmaker, Image Consultant, Author, & Speaker. She knows exactly what men should and shouldn’t do on first dates–because she once went on 92 dates and blogged about them in one year as Ms. New York of 3six5dates.com. Check out her website rachelrusso.com

13. First date tips # 10 It’s not rocket science to be a perfect date, but just like all walks of life, a first, honest and lasting impression goes a long way. My cheeky first date tips for men goes a little something like this: 1. Be a man with a plan. Although women are fiercely independent these days, whatever you do, don’t ask what your date would like to do. Find out a little about what she likes and come up with a few options and be flexible. 2. Be on time. And show up looking your best (14 second first impression rule still exists). When she approaches, open your arms… There’s nothing more ice breaking than a friendly hug. A handshake on a first date can be so awkward. 3. Be polite, attentive and experiment with the dying art of flirting, if you are indeed actually interested. Get a little physical—not in a sexual sense, but in an affectionate way. A simple touch of her arm can let you know you’re interested without being over the top. 4. When mid-date, do a chemistry check… If you don’t feel like you could actually end up kissing the person in front of you, you might not want to waste each other’s time, so cut the evening short. It might even save you a lot of money.

14. 5. Now for the finale…. Don’t say “I’ll call you.” if you have no intention of calling and if you do, follow up! Those stupid waiting rules are non-existent. Send a nice message the next morning. If she responds, you can start planning round 2! My last and most important advice is to have your Cheekd app downloaded and your Bluetooth on. In case it’s now working with your date, the love of your life might be right behind the two of you and our app will capture her information for when you part ways. Now get out there and get CHEEKY! Lori Cheek, Architect turned Entrepreneur, Founder and CEO of Cheekd— a mobile dating app that makes missed connections obsolete. Lori, a Shark Tank Veteran, was recently listed as “The Digital Dating Disruptor” and “One of the Top 10 CEOs to Watch.” A University of Kentucky Architectural Graduate, Lori is no longer building structures. She’s now building relationships.