Ministry of Peacemaking on the Canterbury trail Bishop-elect Trevor Walters
A Theological framework • Eden: a place of harmonious relationships • Community existed between God and Adam and Eve • Adam and Eve have community with their offspring • Mirrors relationships in heaven amongst Trinity
Mediations beginning • Eve ate the apple in disobedience and broke the harmonious relationships • Vertical: Adam and Eve hid from God • Horizontal: Serpent : “ I will put enmity between you and your offspring”
God initiates Mediation • God chooses Zadok and Aaron Priest and High Priest to minister as mediators through whom sacrifices were offered. • The mediators were also signs that God was faithful to His Covenant promises with Israel
The New Covenant • A new mediator who stands between God and his disobedient people. • We are now all Priests called to offer the sacrifice of praise and • To serve as reconcilers and peace makers
Blessed are the Peacemakers for they shall be called the children of God Beatitudes:
Levels of healthy relationships • A. Respect • B. Trust • C. Cooperation • D. Forgiveness • E. Communion
Objectives re Enmity(conflict) • A. Stop the fighting • B. Restore productivity • C. Restore the Institutions vision • D. Restore worship • E. Restore relationship
Process of Mediation • 1. Invite warring parties to meet • 2. Name what the parties have in common. • 3. Get the parties to name the problem from their own perspective. • 4. Clarify and Paraphrase the positions
Process cont. • 5. Caucus: • Indentify the strengths and weaknesses of their positions • Invite them to propose an offer to settle. • Clarify several times what you believe to be the offer. Seek permission as to what you can disclose.
6. Present the offer. Seek a response Do not soften the blow if it is not what is hoped for. 7. Explore options regarding a response.
Strategies to assist resolution • 1. Bracketing: • Party A. Best to worst settlement 20,000 – 150,000 • Party B. Best to worst settlements 1000-30,000 • Bracket 20,000-30,000 is where we work
Advantages of Bracketing • Saves hours of shuttle diplomacy of offers inching up on one side and down on the other. • Lets us know quickly whether a settlement might be in reach
Parish based application • Church musicians feuding over how many Sundays they get per month. • Person A asked what would be the minimum nos. of Sundays you’d be prepared to play in a three month cycle. What about the most in three months • Repeat with Person B.
Bracketing cont. • Results: • Person A: 5-10 • Person B: 8-15 Bracket overlap 8-10 Variance now depends on your own vision and values for the music ministry. One is not confined to the bracket but you know the margins of tolerance
Quid pro Quo • Something exchanged for something else that is different but equivalent in effort/ value/ inconvenience/ time etc. • What is the one thing you would like your partner to change. • Does this exchange look fair just equitable acceptable.
Not acceptable • What needs to be modified to get acceptance:- • Add in something else • Add number of occurrences on one side. • 1x back rub is worth x2 cooked meals
Compromise • Takes half of one solution and half of another/ one meets in the middle • Disadvantages: • Half of a good solution married to half a bad soln. • Lacks creativity and problem solving strategy
Compromise cont. • Advantage: Breaks deadlock if all else fails Appears to be fair!!!
Key learning • 1. Do not take responsibility for the outcome. Outcome is in the hands of the two people versus you or another as judge. • Your job is to remain impartial • Work hard at actively listening • Maintain trust and confidentiality • Provide creative options • Evaluate strengths and weakness of positions
Key learning 2 • Discern when a crisis is not a crisis • Do not rescue • Let the stress of the moment propel people into action. • Put into perspective this challenge versus alternative worst case scenarios