The Challenges of Parenting Do Now: What are some characteristics of a good parent?
Parenting: A Learning Process • Parenting: caring for children and helping them grow and develop • Parents Should • Have reasonable expectations • Develop parenting skills • The Stages of Parenthood • Image making (pregnancy) • Nurturing (Becoming attached Birth-2) • Authority (Determine rules 2-5) • Interpretive (Deciding on values 5-13) • Interdependent (Adolescence; establish boundaries) • Departure (Child leaves home, empty feeling)
The Changes that Parenthood Brings • New responsibilities and role conflict • Changes in lifestyle (sometimes suddenly) • Emotional adjustments (stop being selfish) • Changes in relationships • Employment • Irreversibility
Making Decisions About Parenthood • Emotional Maturity • Desire for parenthood • A child cannot create miracles; saving of marriage, low self-esteem, attention issues, etc. • Health Considerations • Financial Concerns (can you afford a child)
MOTHERHOOD Intensive Mothering Ideology What mothers ought to provide: • Full-time attention • Self-sacrificing devotion • Expert guided • Labor-intensive involvement with the child • Child’s needs are more pressing than those of mothers WHAT MOTHER COULD LIVE UP TO THIS EVEN IF SHE STAYED AT HOME. WHAT IF SHE WORKED?
FATHERHOOD • Changes in sexual relations. • Anxiety about abilities, baby, money. • Witnessing birth is a positive bonding experience with child. • “Nurturing father” is able to participate in all parenting practices – child benefits. • Fatherhood is changing fast.
WHAT IT TAKES TO BE A FATHER Some Facts: • ½ of all children will spend part of their childhood in a father absent home. • 32% of all children are born to unmarried women. Among African American it is 68%. • Children raised in two-parent families rarely experience poverty. • Data has linked growing up without a father to: • Under achievement in school • Mental illness • Drug abuse • Youth suicide • Delinquency • Crime
Parenting Activity • Parenting License • Create Requirements (at least 10) • Income, age, home, car, education, etc. • Create a Test (at least 10 questions) • What courses would you have parents to take?