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Creating a culture of gentleness with families. C-Waiver Conference East Lansing September 8, 2010 . What is the role of parents?. Core Values. Attachment Cycles 1 st Year. . Need. . Relaxation of tension (trust). Trust of Caretaking. State of high arousal (rage). . .

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creating a culture of gentleness with families

Creating a culture of gentleness with families

C-Waiver Conference

East Lansing

September 8, 2010

attachment cycles 1 st year
Attachment Cycles1st Year

Need

Relaxation

of tension

(trust)

Trust of

Caretaking

State of high

arousal (rage)

Satisfaction of

need

(gratification)

attachment cycles 2 nd year
Attachment Cycles2nd Year

Wants

Mutual good

feelings

Trust of

Control

Appropriate

limits

Acceptance

of limits

unmet developmental needs
Unmet Developmental Needs
  • The inability to self-soothe
  • The lack of empathy
  • Poor impulse control
disabilities
Disabilities
  • Physical
  • Developmental
  • Mental Illness
attachment disorders
Attachment Disorders

Behavioral manifestations in children include:

  • Opposition
  • Control
  • Jealousy
  • Stealing
  • Anger/Rage
trauma
Trauma
  • Recurrent and severe physical abuse
  • Recurrent and severe emotional abuse
  • Sexual abuse
  • Factors affecting how a child responds to trauma:
    • Child’s relationship to the victim/perpetrator
    • Child’s past experience with trauma
loss and grief
Loss and Grief
  • Parents
  • Other family
  • Trusted caregivers
parental issues
Parental Issues
  • Divorce
  • Poverty
  • Mental Illness
stressful interactions
Stressful Interactions
  • Restrictions
  • Punishments
  • Social Isolation
  • Shaming
a culture of gentleness means
A culture of Gentleness Means
  • Warm words, loving and soft touches
  • Staying with those who are fearful
  • Doing things for those who will not or cannot
  • Being peaceful in the face of violence
it does not mean
It Does Not Mean
  • Fixing and focusing on behaviors/ symptoms
  • Letting the other do whatever they want
  • Focusing on tasks
  • Focusing on differences
support strategies
Support Strategies
  • Be soft, slow and gentle
  • Do things for the person
  • Draw the person into activities with you
  • Always be ready to help or back off
  • Express warmth throughout
  • Focus on the relationship
  • Honor the person
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Support Strategies
  • Provide predictable daily routines
    • Use of schedules
    • Visual
    • Introduce changes via the schedule
  • Teach coping/relaxation skills
support strategies19
Support Strategies
  • Consistent sleep routines
  • Regular, healthy meals and snacks
  • Physical activity
  • Sensitivity to health issues
support strategies20
Support Strategies
  • Give messages of safety and love
  • Empathize and validate feelings
  • Identify early signs that the child is feeling scared or insecure
  • Calm the environment
support strategies21
Support Strategies
  • Know your child’s developmental level and keep expectations in accordance
  • Offer choices – be cautious about offering too many
  • Keep promises
  • Play and have fun!
avoid
Avoid
  • Only reacting to frustrations and fears rather than their prevention
  • Focusing on independence vs. interdependence
  • Teaching a lesson
  • Raising one’s voice
  • Being overly demanding
avoid23
Avoid
  • Saying or implying “I’m the boss”
  • Insisting on having the last word
  • Using tense body language
  • Preaching
  • Overwhelming the child physically or verbally
avoid24
Avoid
  • Using sarcasm
  • Arguing
  • Trying to reason when the child is agitated
  • Talking about the child vs. talking to the child
when meltdowns occur
When Meltdowns Occur
  • Not an optimal time to teach
  • We’re going to do something else
  • Gaining control is not the goal
  • Focusing on the problem can be risky
  • Safety, security and dignity are the first considerations
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“Tenderness and kindness are not signs of weakness and despair, but manifestations of strength and resolution.”KahilGibran
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Sheena Gorecki, Ph.D.

Director of Children’s Services

MORC, Inc.

sheena.gorecki@morcinc.org

(586) 263-8973

  • Diane Lindsay, Ed.S.

Director of Clinical Operations

MORC, Inc.

diane.lindsay@morcinc.org

(586) 263-8919