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  1. SiblingRivalry

  2. Objectives • Parents will understand reasons for sibling rivalry • Parents will learn about ways to reduce jealousy of older children

  3. Sharing • Did you quarrel a lot with your brothers and/or sisters? • What angered you or made you jealous of your siblings? • How did your parents handle your sibling battles?

  4. Conflict Within Families In most families there are three general types of conflicts: • between children • between parent and child • between spouses

  5. Let’s Brainstorm! Why do your older children feel jealous?

  6. Reasons 1 Their basic needs are not being met

  7. Reasons 2 They also need attention; may feel ignored because all attention is given to the new baby

  8. Reasons 3 Some children need companionship but do not know how to get it from their parents

  9. Signs of jealousy 1 - regression • Clinging • • Thumb-sucking • • Avoiding contact with the baby

  10. Signs of jealousy 2 - regression • • Verbal rejection of the baby or parents • • Regression in toilet training • • Food spills • • Wanting the baby’s bottle

  11. Signs of jealousy 3 - anger • • Playing alone • • Resisting bedtime • • Temper tantrums • • Hitting

  12. Signs of jealousy 4 – anger / revenge • • Biting • • Abuse of pets

  13. Ways to Reduce Conflict • Let siblings express their feelings • Don't compare siblings with each other • Let your children decide whether they want to share

  14. Ways to Reduce Conflict • Try to spend individual time with each child • Praise your children for who they are as well as what they do • Help your children accept their frustrations

  15. Ways to Reduce Conflict • Encourage big brother/big sister role for older child • Let him/her share in caring for the baby

  16. Solving Problems Through Family Meetings

  17. Guidelines for Family Meetings • Set time when all family members can be present • Understand the purpose of regular family meetings • Establish a non-threatening atmosphere • Establish basic ground rules • Promote self-esteem of each family member

  18. Family Meeting Ground Rules • Everyone gets a chance to talk • One person talks at a time and does not get interrupted • Okay to say what you feel • No one has to talk • Everyone has to listen • No one puts anyone else down

  19. Family Meetings • Explain purpose of meeting • Provide ground rules • Discuss family fun • Give time for others to think of activities • Discuss • Choose an activity • Make a plan • Review the meeting

  20. Sample Agenda for Family Meetings • Discuss family issues, concerns, interests, and positive events of past week • Determine priority issue(s) • Clarify the issue to be discussed • Generate possible solutions • Determine the most effective solutions • Make plans to implement the solution • Plan one fun activity for the coming week

  21. Conclusion:Communication is the Key • Find time to spend with the children • Really listen and hear • Teach problem solving