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Stay at Home Parent: Matter of Perspective

Stay at Home Parent: Matter of Perspective. Parenting Meeting November 2017. Stay at Home Parent. Name some of the costs of being a stay at home parent? Seeing staying at home with your children as a thankless job or privilege is a matter of perspective.

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Stay at Home Parent: Matter of Perspective

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  1. Stay at Home Parent: Matter of Perspective Parenting Meeting November 2017

  2. Stay at Home Parent Name some of the costs of being a stay at home parent? Seeing staying at home with your children as a thankless job or privilege is a matter of perspective. Your perspective impacts your parenting.

  3. Stay at Home Parent • Jimmy Kimmel

  4. Stay at Home Parent Why look at this through God’s perspective? • He is God • He loves us Are you willing to listen to God’s perspective on staying at home with your children? Rom 5:6-8; 10 6 For while we were still helpless, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly… 8 But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us…10 For if while we were enemies we were reconciled to God through the death of His Son, much more, having been reconciled, we shall be saved by His life.

  5. Stay at Home Parent Matt. 6:25-27,34: 25 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? 26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?... 34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. Financial Cost of staying at home There is a cost There is an impact on parenting if inordinate focus on money God’s perspective • Money does not equate happiness (I Tim. 6:9,10) • He promises to care for you

  6. Stay at Home Parent Matt 6:19-21:19 “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. 20 But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. 21 For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. Financial Cost of staying at home There is a cost There is am impact on parenting if inordinate focus on money God’s perspective • The opportunity for investment that lasts for eternity How grumbly are you when you can’t buy some stuff? Do you talk to your kids about God’s faithfulness in this area?

  7. Stay at Home Parent The “Who Am I” cost? Loss of Identity • “I’m a nobody; just a stay at home parent.” • Primary identity is being a stay at home parent.

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  9. Stay at Home Parent Loss of Identity • “I’m a nobody; just a stay at home parent.” • Primary identity is being a stay at home parent. • The need to be the perfect parent.

  10. Stay at Home Parent “But like millions of other American moms, she had been bombarded by a powerful message: that she is built to build a human, that she will feel all the more empowered for doing so as nature supposedly intended and that the baby's future depends on it. Call it the Goddess Myth, spun with a little help from basically everyone – doctors, activists, other moms. It tells us that breast is best; that if there is a choice between a vaginal birth and major surgery, you should want to push; that your body is a temple, and what you put in it should be holy; that sending your baby to the hospital nursery for a few hours after giving birth is a dereliction of duty. Oh, and that you will feel – and look- radiant.“Time, Oct. 30, 2017 pg. 38.

  11. Stay at Home Parent Loss of Identity God’s perspective • You are an adopted child of the King Rom. 8:15&16: 15 For you have not received a spirit of slavery leading to fear again, but you have received a spirit of adoption as sons by which we cry out, “Abba! Father!” 16 The Spirit Himself testifies with our spirit that we are children of God, :

  12. Stay at Home Parent Loss of Identity God’s perspective • You are an adopted child of the King • God chose to adopt you • God paid a great price to adopt you Such great freedom as you parent as an adopted child of the King Eph. 1:5-8: 5 he predestined us for adoption to sonship through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will— 6 to the praise of his glorious grace, which he has freely given us in the One he loves. 7 In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace 8 that he lavished on us. 

  13. Stay at Home Parent Loss of Identity • You are an adopted child of the King • Prepared to do good works When was the last time you told someone about your latest parenting fiasco? Last time you asked for input? Last time you realized your were parenting for an audience other than God?

  14. Stay at Home Parent What about me? Denial of self for your children’s well being. What will make you happy? • Cultural perspective influences parenting. God’s perspective: Our deeply ingrained desire to get our own way, to protect ourselves from inconveniences and discomfort will lead us to the forfeit of true health and happiness.

  15. Stay at Home Parent God’s Perspective The denial of a self-centered life will result in true happiness. • Not prescribing literal self-hatred or being a door mat • The call to deny our self centered life Jn.12:24,25: 24 Truly, truly, I say to you, unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains alone; but if it dies, it bears much fruit. 25 He who loves his life loses it, and he who hates his life in this world will keep it to life eternal.

  16. Stay at Home Parent Examples of denying the self-centered self • Refusing to vent annoyances at your kid’s mess • Apologizing to your kids • Asking/taking input on parenting • Trying not to complain about interruptions to your plans • Not manipulating the kids so you look spiritual

  17. Stay at Home Parent Denial of self-centered life • Does not mean that you never tell you kid no. • Does not mean you don’ t have a hobby, time away from the kids. • Does mean that your own selfish desires should not be the basis for your parenting decisions.

  18. Stay at Home Parent It can be a great experience for both you and your children.

  19. Stay at Home Parent It can be a great experience for both you and your children. Keep asking God to give you his perspective. Stay engaged with a community. Further resources: • Holly McCallum, “Benefits of Staying at Home”, Care Group, 11/7/12 • 2012 Servant Team Meeting (Fall); www.xenos.org/teachings/?teaching=2249 • What is a Family, Edith Schaeffer

  20. Stay at Home Parent Questions? Comments.

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