Do you agree?. Stand up if you agree!. There exists ”The One” right person to be found and loved . R elationship is maintained if there exists balance between costs and rewards for both . The relationship can best be maintained if the most diffucult topics are not discussed .
Stand up if you agree!
A relationship is a dynamic, continuous process
People are happiest in relationships where benefits and costs are balanced so that both contribute and receive more or less the same
(see AL p.223)
Flora & Segrin (2993): Gender difference in factors affecting well-being in the relationship:
A. I am somewhatuncomfortablebeingclose to others; I finditdifficult to trustthemcompletely, difficult to allowmyself to depend on them. I am nervouswhenanyonegetstooclose, and often, otherswant me to bemoreintimatethan I feelcomfortablebeing.
B. I finditrelativelyeasy to getclose to others and am comfortabledepending on them and havingthemdepend on me. I don’tworryaboutbeingabandonedoraboutsomeonegettingtooclose to me.
C. I findthatothersarereluctant to get as close as I wouldlike. I oftenworrythat my partnerdoesn’treallylove me orwon’tstaywith me. I want to getveryclose to my partner and thissometimesscarespeopleaway.
Work with a pair:
Consider how methodological and cultural considerations could affect the interpretation of the results.
Culturalnormsaffect the formation and maintenance of relationships
One of the largestscross-culturalstudies on relationshipsbyBuss (1994):