Building Character Empathy
What is it? • Empathy is the ability to both recognize and understand the feelings, thoughts, needs and behaviours of others.
Empathy • Listening with your heart…
Empathy – Just Do It! • Put yourself in the other person’s shoes • Identify their point of view/perspective • Appreciate the value of their feelings and what they have to say
How do you Listen? Active Listening: • I look at the person speaking to me. • I actively attempt to understand my friend’s point of view and do not discount my friend’s feelings. • I listen without interrupting or changing the subject. • I give my full attention by not getting distracted by other things or people. • I show by my facial expressions that I am really understanding what my friend is feeling.
People with Empathy Would Say… Empathy Builders: • “You look upset.” • “I understand how you feel.” • “I am sad that you are hurt.” • “I bet it hurts a lot. How can I help?” • “Good try!” • “That must have been difficult for you.” • “I am happy for you!”
Empathy in Action Take the Test • I comfort a friend who is feeling sad or hurt. • I celebrate with my friends when they have experienced something happy. • I stand up for students whom I see bullied. • I do not hurt other peoples’ feelings because I know how it feels to be hurt.
Take the Test • I say “good try” and give compliments because kind and encouraging words feel good. • I share my snack when my friend does not have one. • I congratulate my peers when they succeed at a task. • I hug my brother/sister when they look upset.
How Did You Score? • 3 and under ~ you need to work at understanding other peoples’ feelings • 4 ~ your empathy skills are OK – keep trying to improve • 5 or 6 ~ you are probably a good friend who listens and understands • 7 or 8 out of 8 ~ WOW!! Someone is very lucky to have you as a friend or family member
Did you know that…. Demonstrating empathy: • Builds trust and respect between people • Reduces tension between people • Creates safe and caring environments (reduces bullying)
The great gift of human beings is that we have the power of empathy ~ Meryl Streep