Sexuality & Decision Making

1. Sexuality & Decision Making

2. What do you know? • What are considered sexual acts? • When are you physical able to have sex? • What are the risks of sexual activity? • How does a women become pregnant? • How do you reduce the risk of sexual activity? • What else is involved (other than intercourse)? • Are there any other aspects of sexuality activity that you re aware of?

3. You Can Choose Not to Have Sex • You may not be ready for sex if: • Your partner isn’t ready. • You feel pressured. • You’re not sure about it. • Your can’t talk with your partner about it. • You don’t have a way to protect yourself from STI’s and pregnancy. • You need to get drunk or stoned to do it. • Your partner wants to get drunk or stoned to do it.

4. If you choose to have sex, Use a condom • Use lubricated latex or polyurethane condoms. • Keep your condom in your purse or jacket pocket. • Store your condoms in a dry place away from heat, or light. • Check the expiry date on the package or condom box. • Never use two condoms together. • Never use a condom more than once.

5. How to use a condom • Open Carefully:Rough tearing or long fingernails can damage the condom.Place & Pinch: Put the condom at the end of the penis and pinch out the air in the tip. Roll It On:Unroll the condom right down to the base of the penis. Afterwards:Whoever is wearing the condom should pull out right after they cum and their penis is still hard. Remember to hold the base of the condom when pulling out so that it doesn’t come off. Throw the used condom into the garbage: never use a condom twice.

6. If you choose to have sex, get tested When to go? • If you have sex with a new partner.   • If you or your partner have been sexually active and have not been tested. • If you know your current or past, partner has an STI. • If the condom breaks or you have sex without one. • If you or your partner have shared needles for drugs, tattooing or piercing. • If you or your partner have any STI symptoms. • If you have been forced to have sex or think you might have been. • When you are sexually active, you need to be tested once a year, even if you haven’t had sex for awhile.

7. What to Expect? • Male Exam • The doctor or nurse will ask you to undress from the waist down and will give you a drape to cover yourself. They will then do some or all of the following: • examine the external parts of the genitals • feel the testicles and penis              • take a swab from the throat, anus, and/or urethra (just inside the opening at the tip of the penis) • take a urine sample • take a blood sample

8. What should you know? • If you feel more comfortable with someone else in the room during your examination, whether you are male or female, you can make this request to the doctor or nurse.  Most male doctors will now ask a female nurse to enter the room when they examine a female’s genitals. • If you are concerned about keeping things confidential, tell you doctor.  You can ask what they do with your medical information.  If you don’t trust the doctor, you can leave. • Doctors and nurses shouldn’t tell anyone about your visit unless they: • have your permission • are making a referral that you have agreed to • feel you are not able to understand medical advice or the consequences of your decisions • suspect abuse and they are required to report to child protection agency

9. Condoms won’t spoil the mood: an unintended pregnancy or a sexually transmitted infection will.You don’t have to have sex to show someone you love them. You matter. Your choices matter. You decide what’s right for you.

10. Stats • http://www.phac-aspc.gc.ca/std-mts/stdcases-casmts/cases-cas-09-eng.php • Myth/Facts • http://www.pbs.org/inthemix/educators/lessons/sex1/myths.html

11. Why is it important to Wait? • You become more mature • You are more aware of your choices • You have a better understanding of the consequences • You are less likely to put yourself at risk

12. Alcohol & Illicit drugs • What happens when you drink alcohol? • Why is this increase your risk of transmitting an infection?

13. Scenarios • You and your girlfriend are at her parents house and the parents leave to go to a movie. She says, “let’s go upstairs”. • She wants to have sexual intercourse but neither of you have a condom. What do you do?

14. Scenarios • You receive a sexually explicit image on your cell phone from a girl you know from school. She wants you to send her a response • What do you do?

15. Scenarios • You meet a girl at friend’s house party. You have never met her before she offers you oral sex in a vacant bedroom • What do you do?

16. Scenario • You have just recently started a relationship with a partner. They are really keen on being sexually active and having intercourse as soon as possible. However, you know you are not ready to have an intercourse of any kind at this point. • How do you explain your views to your partner?

17. Scenarios • You are at a house party you notice that one of your close girl friends is really drunk and flirting and falling all over she follows a guy you have never seen before upstairs what do you do?

18. Scenarios • Your and you girlfriend are aloe together and she says she wants to have sex. She asks if you have a condom. You do not. So she suggests you have anal sex since you can’t get pregnant that way. What do you do?

19. Scenarios • You and your girlfriend have chosen to be sexually active what steps should you take before making this decision together?

20. When you know your partner you can discuss and plan your decisions together. • This is not always the case • How can you protect yourself for STIs and teen pregnancy if you choose to have sex with people you don’t know as well?