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INTENTIONAL PARENTING. Do you want to see your children display confidence? Do you want to see your children develop character? Do you want to see your children have strong convictions? Do you want to see your children express compassion?
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Do you want to see your children display confidence? Do you want to see your children develop character? Do you want to see your children have strong convictions? Do you want to see your children express compassion? Ultimately, do you want to see your children grow up to be competent young adults? If so, this is the guide to help you achieve those results.
This is about you not just your child. Intentional Parenting is the ability to make us extremely exceptional good parents to extremely exceptional good children. To be an exceptional parent, you have to be an intentional parent which is the opposite of the quick fix parenting. It is all about choosing your path planning what to train into your children & how to go about it. It is the opposite of reacting to whatever comes up. It is choosing to set yourself & your children up for a success as adults and as believers in Christ.
Raising kids is a difficult challenge and it requires a plan—without a plan, parents often default to what is called “Quick-Fix Parenting.” when we try to solve the immediate problems rather than deal with the deeper and more important issues (that’s what “Quick-Fix” parents do). Surviving each day is much easier than taking the time and energy to consider how your current parenting actions are impacting a child’s future. Unfortunately, quick and easy isn’t the same as good and effective.
Social Bank Spiritual Bank YOUR CHILD Emotional Bank Mental Bank Physical Bank
As any parent can tell you, parenting requires giving: giving our time, our sleep, our money, our space, our attention, and ourselves. Parents give their children many different gifts. (Some gifts we might rather not give them, like our bad habits.
Gifts can tell you a lot about the parent who gives them. Some parents operate with a survival mentality; they give their child “whatever” just to make it through the child-rearing years. Some parents operate with a default mentality; they give their child what is popular without considering whether it will be the most helpful. Our desire as parents should be to operate deliberately and purposefully, giving our children what is useful after carefully thinking through what would be most beneficial to them. That kind of parent is an intentional parent.
Types of Parents (The Motive, The Goal, The Method & The Gifts) Survival Parents “If I can just make it through the child-rearing years, I can get my life back.” “Getting the kids out of the house.” “Doing whatever is easiest for me.” •Bribes •Threats •TV as a babysitter
Default Parents “I don’t want my child to miss out on what all the other kids have.” “Making my child happy.” “Giving my child whatever is popular.” •Indecent fashions •Inappropriate media
Intentional Parents “I want to give my child what will be best and most helpful for him.” •“Preparing my child for life as a productive adult.” •“Developing my child’s God-given mind and abilities.” •“Protecting my child’s heart.” “Purposely spending time with the child and building a relationship so he will learn by watching and interacting with me.” • The Bible •Enjoyable pastimes •Academics •Character •Home skills
