Sibling Rivalry Birth Order
Learning Goal I will be able to evaluate the impact that my siblings have had on my perception, my behaviours, and my future. Success Criteria • I will be able to describe my experiences, emotions, and perceptions growing up as the youngest, middle, oldest, only, and/or twin child • I will compare my views with others of the same birth order position and look for similarities • I will listen to views of individuals from other birth order positions and reflect on how their experience s differed from my own • I will draw some conclusion about the impact that birth order has on my personality and behaviours. • I will evaluated my conclusion by assessing the influence of birth order on the teaching styles of my teachers.
Next to the parent-child relationship, the sibling relationship is probably the strongest.
SIBLING ROLES • Playmates and Companions • Teachers and Learners • Protectors and dependants • Adversaries • Role Models
Activity Get into groups of the same birth order position. Group Discussion: • What expectations do your parents have for you? How does that compare to the expectations they have for your siblings? b. How do you perceive your parents relationship with you versus the way you perceive the relationship they have with of your siblings? c. What adjectives would you use to describe your brother/sisters? • Oldest sibling • Middle siblings • Youngest sibling
Discussion • What observation can be made about each group and their behaviours, opinions, and feelings throughout this activity? a. Oldest b. Youngest c. Middle d. Only
The oldest child: • Usually set up as an example to the other children. • Treated more like an adult by his/her parents. • A high achiever (more than half of all Nobel Prize winners and U.S. presidents ) • Given and accepts more responsibility than the other children. • Usually college & university bound. • Independent • Is affectionate
The middle child: • May work extra-hard to get recognition. • usually a peace maker. • somewhat average in schoolwork, but is an all-around good student • usually a calm, even-tempered adult.
The youngest child: • Gets a lot of attention, along with a lot of bossing. • May be spoiled • Usually matures quickly • May be undisciplined and irresponsible • Is easy-going about school. • Likes to associate with someone who takes charge of situations.
Only child • similar characteristics to first born and are frequently burdened with high parental expectations • they are more confident, articulate and likely to use their imagination than other children • expect a lot from others, hate criticism, can be inflexible and are likely to be perfectionists
Twins • Don’t fit common birth order descriptions. Things that influence their personality… • Vaginal vs Cesarean birth • Gender & culture • Twin companion • The twin shadow syndrome
MARRIAGE IN RELATION TO BIRTH ORDER • Oldest and youngest – the youngest is used to being taken care of and the oldest likes taking care of others. • Two youngest - will have lots of fun together, but may resent each other later because neither is taking care of the other. • Two Oldest – admire and respect each other because of the traits they possess. However later on they may have problems agreeing on things.
WHAT IS YOUR TEACHER? • Oldest child: • Create complicated projects for students to complete. • They like structure and order in the classroom. • They are happiest when students are sitting in nicely arrange desks, straight in a line. • Students are quiet and do as they are told. • the oldest child teacher will be frustrated unless they learn how to achieve the organization in a different way.
A middle child teacher: • is interested in the psychological well being as well as the academic achievement of the student. • They seek out the rebellious students in hope of influencing them in a more positive direction. • They try to achieve order through mutual respect and understanding.
A teacher who is a younger child: • are more creative, fun loving, adjust well to noise and disorder. • Teachers allow students to take more responsibility so they won’t have to do everything themselves