Dating & Relationship Violence

1. Dating & Relationship Violence Jacquelyn C. Campbell, PhD, RN, FAAN Anna D. Wolf Chair & Professor Johns Hopkins University School of Nursing National Program Director, Robert Wood Johnson Foundation Nurse Faculty Scholars Program

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4. Kasandra Perkins & Zoey 2012 Jovan Belcher Yeardley Love 2012 George Huguely About 150-200 Young Women 15-25 & 50 girls 10-14 Killed by a Boyfriend, Husband or Ex each year in USA

5. Survey conducted by Teenage Research Unlimited (TRU) with Liz Claiborne Inc. of teens between 13-18. across suburbs, cities, regions & all ethnic groups. 1 in 3 teenagers report knowing a friend or peer who has been hit, punched, kicked, slapped, choked or physically hurt by their partner Nearly 1 in 5 teenage girls who have been in a relationship said a boyfriend had threatened violence or self-harm if presented with a break-up 13% of teenage girls who said they have been in a relationship report being physically hurt or hit 1 in 4 teenage girls who have been in relationships reveal they have been pressured to perform oral sex or engage in intercourse

6. Liz Claiborne Survey (con’t) • More than 1 in 4 teenage girls in a relationship (26%) report enduring repeated verbal abuse • 80% of teens regard verbal abuse as a “serious issue” for their age group • * If trapped in an abusive relationship, 73% said they would turn to a friend for help; but only 33% who have been in or known about an abusive relationship said they have told anyone about it

7. Forced sex in relationships • Adolescents most often sexually assaulted by someone they know (4 X stranger) • Continuum of relationships • Continuum of force – pressure to physically forced or threatened • 21% of girls in US who have sex before 14 yo – physically forced

8. For “Tweens” • One in five tweens – age 11 to 14 – say their friends are victims of dating violence • 60% of middle school kids say they have a boyfriend or girlfriend • Nearly half who are in “relationships” know friends who are verbally abused. • Two in five of the youngest tweens, ages 11 and 12, report that their friends are victims of verbal abuse in relationships. Health Outcomes • Teen victims of physical dating violence are more likely than their non-abused peers to smoke, use drugs, engage in unhealthy diet behaviors (taking diet pills or laxatives and vomiting to lose weight), engage in risky sexual behaviors, and attempt or consider suicide.

9. Risk Factors for Dating Violence • Growing up in a home where adults solve conflict with violence – seeing parents fight • Being abused as a child • Trauma – hyper-vigilance, stress related physical symptoms, depression • Substance abuse • For boys – history of acting out/ aggressive behavior • Overlap with bullying

10. Signs of Unhealthy Relationship • Controlling behavior – over the line surveillance • Hurts – emotionally – constant put downs, criticism, go away feeling bad about yourself • “Loses temper” frequently, scarily • Violent in other situations

11. “Cycle of Violence” - • PHASE 1 Increased tension, anger, blaming and arguing • PHASE 2 Verbal abuse, accusations threats to pushing, hitting, slapping, forced sex • PHASE 3 Apologies, promising

12. A Healthy Relationship • Based on mutual respect • Feels good – makes you feel good about yourself – not hurtful • Really like each other first – good friends • Lots of trust • Figure out answers together • Share values

13. Futures Without Violence www.futureswithoutviolence.org • 2006 Liz Claiborne brought together a group of educators, domestic violence experts, government officials, medical professionals & corporate leaders to create a national high school curriculum, the Love Is Not Abuse Curriculum • “It’s Not Cool” Campaign & It’s Not Cool Ambassadors www.thatsnotcool.com • “Expect Respect” Campaign & materials • “Start Strong “- Building Healthy Relationships for Middle School Students http://www.startstrongteens.org/ • Teen Safety Plan – for older teens

14. That’s Not Cool

15. “Coaching Boys Into Men” – Futures Without Violence (www.futureswithoutviolence.org) campaign

16. Other Resources • http://www.breakthecycle.org/ Live chat – loveisrespect.org Text loveis 777075 866 331-9474 – other teens answer • “Safe Dates” – www.cdc.gov • http://www.datesafeproject.org/ • “4th R” http://www.youthrelationships.org/

17. Olympic Gymnast JordynWieber Talks Healthy Dating • JordynWieber says great relationships & gymnastics both need one thing — balance

18. One Love Appwww.joinonelove.org Strongest risk factors for fatal or near fatal relationship violence – threats to kill or with weapon, escalating physical violence, leaving – especially a highly controlling perpetrator , gun ownership

19. Get Involved!! • Kids working together & with parents & schools & community organizations • Get involved – be proactive • Be a good friend – someone others can go to – be there no matter what • “See something, hear something, say something” - bystander response – but if it feels scary, get an adult

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