Orientation day November 14 th 2013. Presented by Sheryl Moncur (School Counsellor). AGE/STAGE DEVELOPMENT PARENTING STYLES COMMUNICATION. Adolescence is the stage of a person’s life between childhood and adulthood. When a young person must move from dependency to independence.
Presented by Sheryl Moncur (School Counsellor)
Adolescence is the stage of a person’s life between childhood and adulthood.
Entered period of concrete operations by onset of puberty:
~deductive reasoning, capacity to reason, anticipate consequences of actions, recognising difference between abstract and concrete, analyse fiction, can edit personal work, can present own beliefs to peers, parents, school, can problem solve BUT pre-frontal cortex (executive functioning in brain) not developed fully – decision making and risk taking affected – like they are accelerating with no the brakes . . .
*One influential model classifies parenting styles on TWO DIMENSIONS:
Degree of Demandingness (control, expectations, boundaries and limit setting)
Degree of Involvement (close interest, responsive to needs, affection, active interest)
Authoritative (high demand, high involvement) produces the most well adjusted children by combining firm discipline with nurturing child care. These parents:
*are loving, consistent and willing to listen to their children
*believe in strict discipline, physical affection and spoken approval
*invite children’s participation in the process of limit setting
*consistently enforce rules which are set
*have reasons and explanations for parental rules
*have high expectations for responsible and mature behaviour
Eg. You criticize every thing I do! I can’t do anything right in your eyes.
I’m sorry you feel as if I’ve been so critical. Can you please help me understand what you mean? Tell me more?
Caring about you is my number one priority. You’re really annoyed with me. How can I help? What’s happening for you at the moment.
Productive: focus on solving problem, focus on the +, work hard and achieve, seek relaxing diversions, physical recreation, accept my best efforts
Non-Productive: not coping, worrying, ignoring problem, wishful thinking, getting sick, abusing drugs, alcohol, give up, withdraw, act out, self-blame, refusal to seek help
Reference to Others: invest in close friends, seek social support, seek professional help, seek to belong, seek spiritual support, maintain sense of humour
How to Hug a Porcupine Julie A Ross
Surviving Adolescents Michael Carr-Gregg
Adolescence: a guide for parentsCarr-Gregg & Shale
Raising Resilient Children Brooks & Goldstein
What to do when you children turn into Teenagers and You Can’t Make MeBennet and Rowe
Growing Great Boys Ian Grant
He’ll Be Ok Celia Lashlie
Queen Bees and WannabeesRosalind Wiseman
Anything by Steve Biddulph
Teenage as a Second Language Greenberg & Powell-Lunder
Anything by Andrew Fuller
Parenting WA Line - 6279 1200 (metro) or
1800 654 432 http://www.communities.wa.gov.au/childrenandfamilies/parentingwa/Pages/ParentingWALine.aspx
www.cyh.com South Australia – excellent site
Headspace – many useful resources
GSG Website – Counsellor Section where you’ll find this ppt plus more!!