CL pg. 114

1. CL pg. 114 • Define the Terms to Learn • What causes conflict? • Explain the 6 steps in resolving conflicts? • List the principles necessary for resolving conflicts. • What is the cost of violence to society? (Test Question) • Take a shape sheet from the front table and cut out all of the shapes.

2. Conflict&

3. Conflict • To come to a disagreement Conflict Resolution • The methods and processes involved in facilitating the peaceful ending of conflict.

4. Conflict Resolutionstep 1 Part 1; Define the problem Admit your role in the conflict or problem Express your Feelings using “I” messages Say something positive about the other person Describe the Behavior that Bothers you specifically

5. Don’t be phony • Avoid using terms like “always”, “never”, and “none.” • Don’t assume your feelings are obvious to the other person • Avoid using “you” statements • Avoid name calling • Talk about behaviors not attitudes

6. Conflict Resolution step 2 Part 2 Summarize you feelings for clarification

7. Avoid mind-reading or second guessing • Be neutral in attitude rather than negative • Avoid threats, insults, or commands

8. Conflict Resolution step 3 Part 3: Look for Solutions together

9. Offer to change some aspect of own behavior • Consider all possible solutions • Offer to help other person or ask for his/her help • Analyze each solution for consequences • Solution should involve some change in both parties

10. Conflict Resolution Step 4 Part 4: End with an expression of Love or respect for each other

11. Be willing to make compromises • Examine your motive for bringing up conflict • Don’t ask “why” or keep repeating yourself • Don’t attempt to settle the conflict at the scene of the crime. • Set aside a regular time and place for resolving conflicts. • Know what you’re going to talk about before you begin • Don’t bring up the past; work only in the present • Consider the other person’s feelings and your relationship • Treat other person with respect and dignity • Avoid sidetracking