PLAY: Practice Leading All Year ™ - Leading Communication

1. PLAY: Practice Leading All Year™- Leading Communication Steven E. Jones, Ph.D.,SEJ Consulting, LLC Sarah Smith, Young Fellow, Jim Casey

2. Play … Objectives By the end of the session the participants will • Connect the use of self-assessment and self-knowledge as key aspects of leadership development. • Experience coaching and somatic movement for creating a leadership body and framing leadership presence. • Participants will practice key communication strategies for making requests.

3. PLAY™ … P.l.a.y.™ … Practice Leading All Year

4. Tools to Learn About Ourselves & Others MBTI Using type to learn about our differences and our similarities in… • Where we gain energy • How we take in information • How we make decisions • How we live in the world

5. Why Use MBTI? • Not to classify or limit people • Well researched and backed by theory • Internationally used and accepted. • To understand oneself • To understand others • An indicator of our preferences

6. Remember • MBTI is not… • An excuse • An explanation of everything • A name or label MBTI is… • A description of preferences, not abilities, maturity or development • A way to use preferences to explore our differences and to help improve methods of communication

8. Tools to Learn About Ourselves & Others StrengthsFinders StrengthsFinder is a tool to seek out your dominant strengths and a program to focus on capitalizing on these strengths. Three books: • StrengthsFinder 2.0 • Now, Discover Your Strengths • Go Put Your Strengths to Work

9. Time to Be Clear… StrengthsFindergives you themes… not strengths; help you discern strengths Strengths are the things you do consistently & near perfectly Strengths have three ingredients: Talents, skills & knowledge

10. Signs of a Strength Success Instinct Growth Needs

11. Signs of a Weakness Lack of… Success Instinct Growth Needs

13. StrengthsFinder • Sarah’s Strengths • Empathy • Restorative • Input • Intellection • Developer

14. “Leading from where we stand.” “LEADERSHIP IS THE ACT OR PROCESS OF INFLUENCING THE ACTIVITIES OF AN ORGANIZED GROUP IN ITS EFFORTS TOWARD GOAL SETTING AND GOAL ACHIEVEMENT.” – R.M. STOGDILL, HANDBOOK OF LEADERSHIP:

15. INFLUENCE “The power or capacity of causing an effect in indirect or intangible ways” – From Webster’s Dictionary

16. Speech Acts Source: Brothers, 2005 Language is not only descriptive but fundamentally creative and generative. Language is, therefore, action. • Assessments and Assertions • Declarations • Requests, Offers, and Agreements

17. Enrollment Getting a person, group, organization on board with you is the pursuit of an outcome or activity. The goal of enrollment conversations: to leave the person or parties Touched, Moved or Inspired.

18. What Makes An Effective Communicator

19. Talkingto Connect

20. P.L.A.Y.™: Archetypes for Powerful Presence Monarch Warrior Center Lover Fool

21. CenterA place of groundedness Center is our foundation. Center is the key to harnessing the power from each of the archetypes.

22. WARRIOR Warrior energy is the energy we use to bust through the barriers in front of us like a hot knife through butter. It is the energy of the Samurai, or that of a mother fighting for her child or project manager moving his or her team forward despite the breakdowns of life.

23. WARRIOR Practice • Get clear about what you are committed to that is larger than yourself. Stay clear about it. Remind yourself daily. • Getting and staying clear is a practice, one you might choose to live. • Practice the Shogun strike daily for the sake of what you are committed to larger than you. Do 10 strikes a day for each one

24. MONARCH King/Queen energy is the energy we use to remain calm in the face of a storm. We are relaxed and sensing all yet we do not tighten or tense up to produce the illusion of being calm, we ARE calm. We are in our feet and our feet are on the ground. We are a rock. From this place others may find calmness too.

25. King/QueenPractice Go out into public and stand in the posture of the King/Queen. Insert yourself (physically) into situations at home or work where there is discord, or an argument and practice staying centered and aware as often as possible. As much as possible, stay in any conversation that is uncomfortable while repeating the mantra in your head “everything is going to be OK” Hint: You are in this energy if you are able to be centered, relaxed, seeing all and connected to all while all hell breaks loose around you.

26. Designing your conversation • What do you want out of it? • What do you know about your audience? • What will you have to do to build connection? Scripting • Context • Effective Questions • Listen for

27. Using Yourself

28. Making Requests Effective Requests include: • What you want. • Who you want it from. • Conditions of satisfaction: • Timeframe. • Outcome you are expecting. • A shared context. • Complete with a response(yes, no, counteroffer).

29. Agreements (Promises, Commitments) • Occurs when a request or offer is met with a “yes.” • We can actively “manage our commitments.” • Communities are collections of agreements—this is how we coordinate action. • Affects our relationships and trust if we break or have missing agreements.

30. Getting to AgreementPossible Replies to Requests Yes = Agreement No Renegotiate = Counteroffer Commit to commit

31. Making Effectiveand Complete Requests • Be precise with your language. Ask for what you really want. • Ask yourself, “What do I want to happen or stop happening as a result of what I’m about to say?” • Speak in a manner that fits your style and relationship. • Check for understanding. • Listen carefully to the response – did you receive a committed response? • Use gracious persistence in follow-up to a non-response. • Remember, when you request, you’re joining words and action.

32. Practice Plan

33. PLAY™ … Practice Leading All Year™

34. PLAY … - Gandhi Be the Change you Want to See in this World.