By Katherine Thompson SOC 2600 - 042 Spousal Abuse
Table of Contents • Title Page • Table of Contents • What is Spousal Abuse? • Reported Abuse • Reasons Women Stay • Lies Abusers Tell • Signs of Abuse • What you can do to Help a Victim • Help For Victims & Abusers
What is Spousal Abuse? • Domestic violence, also known as domestic abuse, spousal abuse, child abuse or intimate partner violence (IPV), can be broadly defined as a pattern of abusive behaviors by one or both partners in an intimate relationship such as marriage, dating, family, friends or cohabitation.
Reported Abuse • 3 out of 4 women reported their abuser as a former husband, cohabiting partner, or date. • Pregnant/Recently Pregnant women are more likely to die from homicide than any other cause.
Reasons Women Stay in Violent Relationships • Fear of Loneliness • Love • Emotional Dependency • Commitment to the Relationship • A hope that it will stop • A view of violence as legitimate • Guilt • Fear • Economic Dependence • Isolation
Lies Abusers Tell to Themselves and Others • I just need to be understood • I had a bad childhood • I can’t control it • I get angry • She fights too • She pushes my buttons • If I don’t control her, she will control me • My smashing things isn’t abusive, it’s venting • I have a lot of stress • I have an anger management problem • I only have a problem when I drink or use drugs
Signs of Abuse • Unexplained or unusual injuries • Defensive response when asked about injuries • Wary of physical contact • Sleep disturbances • Constant apologies • Destructive behavior • High levels of anxiety • Lack of attachment to others • Changes in personality or behavior
What you can do to Help a Victim • Speak Up – Don’t be afraid to let them know you’re concerned • Be Sensitive – Try to understand their feelings • Listen – Sometimes it’s the most helpful thing you can do • Be There For Them – Get them excited to do things outside the relationship
Connect Them to Resources – They may not be aware that they are in an abusive relationship • Stay With Them – They will need someone for support and comfort if they end the relationship
Help for Victims & Abusers • Safehorizon.org 1-800-621-HOPE • Helpguide.org • NMTproject.org 1-954-324-7669 • Hawcdv.org 1-800-547-1649 • GCADV.org