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inside out approach to bullying prevention

Inside out approach to bullying prevention

Tracy Longwill and Brooke Tafoya

  • Role Groups
  • Background knowledge and experience in bullying prevention
what is bullying
What is bullying?
  • Bullying is aggressive behavior that is intentional and that involves an imbalance of power or strength. Typically, it is repeated over time. Stop Bullying Now!
  • "A person is bullied when he or she is exposed, repeatedly and over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more other persons, and he or she has difficulty defending himself or herself." Olweus
  • Bullying is unfair and one sided behavior. It happens when someone keeps hurting, frightening, threatening, or leaving someone out on purpose, in person or via multi-media. APS and Bernalillo County
what is bullying4
What is bullying?

Bullying can take three forms…

Which is easiest to see?

Which causes the most harm?

Which do your current rules address?

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What is bullying?
  • Key Components
    • Imbalance of power: Involved parties feel differently about the outcome
      • Target feels scared, afraid, or hurt
      • Aggressor feels empowered or unconcerned
    • Happens over a period of time
bullying is not
Bullying is NOT
  • A conflict to be mediated. This sends the message that both parties are responsible
  • Rite of passage or a normal part of growing up
  • Harmless fun
  • About anger
stand up exercise
Stand Up Exercise
  • Stand if you have had experience with any of the statements read
  • When you stood how did it make you feel?
  • Was there anything surprising?
  • Where do you fit? Card exercise
  • Man box and Lady box
implications of being bullied
Implications of Being Bullied

I shall remember forever and will never forget

Monday: my money was taken.

Tuesday: names called.

Wednesday: my uniform torn.

Thursday: my body pouring with blood.

Friday: it’s ended.

Saturday: freedom.

The final diary pages of thirteen-year old Vijay Singh. He was

found hanging from the banister rail at home on Sunday.

Bullycide, Death at Playtime: An Expose of Child Suicide Caused by Bullying. Neil Marr and Tim Field

what new mexico youth tell us
What New Mexico Youth Tell Us
  • 2009 New Mexico Youth Risk and Resiliency Survey

E:\YRRS 2009.pdf

  • Where do you fit? Card exercise
  • Ice Breaker
  • Builds empathy/knowledge
  • Addresses peer pressure
  • Address traditional roles and try something new

Man box and Lady box

  • Addresses gender stereotypes
  • Pressure expected gender roles can place on a person
tips to stop bullying for youth
TIPS to Stop Bullying for Youth
  • Keep yourself safe. NEVER put yourself in a situation where you could get hurt
  • Get help. Tell a trusted adult if you see someone in trouble.
  • Support by offering to help them pick up their books, take them to someone who can help, there is power in numbers, just stand beside the person, ask other friends to support the person).
  • Support the target by asking them to join in an activity with you (let’s go…, do you want to go get a drink of water?).
  • Distract Tell the aggressor you don’t like talking about people or change the subject.
  • Support the person who is being bullied by changing the subject to something other than talking about or hurting someone (Did you bring your lunch today?, Wow, look at that…, Watch out here comes a teacher)
  • Reason with the aggressor, “You might get into trouble, if you keep bothering that person” or “you might get kicked off the basketball team and we really need you.”
what should caring adults do
What Should Caring Adults Do
    • Listen
    • Brainstorm possible actions and consequences
    • Encourage, rather than direct
    • Let youth decide the course of action
tips for parents
TIPS for Parents
  • Focus on your child. Be supportive, listen and gather information about the incident.
  • Never tell your child to ignore bullying.
  • What the child may “hear” is that you are going to ignore it. If your child were able to simply ignore it, he or she likely would not have told you about it. Often, trying to ignore bullying allows it to become more serious.
  • Contact your child’s teacher or principal to report bullying and to find out about the school’s bullying prevention plan.
  • Keep your emotions in check. Give factual information about your child’s experience of being bullied, including who, what, when, where and how.
  • Help your child become more resilient. Talk to your child about being friends with certain people and knowing which friends he or she can count on. Encourage positive relationships by encouraging your child to hang out with kids that make them feel good about themselves.
tips for adults in creating a culture of respect
TIPS for Adults in Creating a Culture of Respect

Common themes in effective bullying prevention initiatives

Assess bullying with an anonymous questionnaire.

Adults know less about bullying situations than youth do.

Focus on improving the social environment of the school.

Identify, teach and re-teach expected pro-social behaviors through role play and practice.

Establish and enforce school rules and policies related to bullying.

  • Here are some recommended rules:
    • • We will not bully others.
    • • We will try to help students who are bullied.
    • • We will make it a point to include students who are easily left out.
    • • If we know someone is being bullied, we will tell an adult.
    • (Olweus)
create a culture of respect
Create a Culture of Respect

Common themes in effective bullying prevention initiatives

Intervene consistently and appropriately in bullying situations.

Every adult needs to be able to intervene quickly & follow up with each party.

Increase adult supervision in hot spots where bullying occurs.

Use information from questionnaire to identify areas in need of attention.

Continue these efforts overtime.

Integrate themes into every activity.

best practice tips for investigating a bullying incident
Best Practice Tips for Investigating a Bullying Incident
  • Talk with each party separately
  • Affirm the child’s feelings
  • Ask Questions: Get information about the current situation and the history of the situation.
  • Identify what has and has not worked in the past.
  • Generate solutions for the future, and create a plan with the child.
    • Discuss how the child can avoid the student in the future
    • Coach the student in using assertive refusal skills
    • Identify others who can support the child
  • Follow-Up
    • See how the plan is working
    • Contact parents as appropriate
    • Refer more serious or chronic cases to an administrator or counselor
why is cyber bullying unique
Why is Cyber-bullying Unique?

How does cyber-bullying compare to traditional bullying?

framing the issue
Framing the Issue

Why is anonymous aggression different?

  • Anonymity effects the content of the message
    • People act differently when they are not accountable for their actions
    • Do not have to see person’s pain
  • Anonymity effects the way the message is received
    • Target has no way to know if it is a group or an individual
    • Known enemies are less frightening than unknown
    • Can change relationships with multiple suspected friends

Kowalski and Limber (2007). Electronic Bullying Among Middle School Students. Journ of Adol Health 41. S22-S30

cyberbullying in the united states
Cyberbullying in the United States
  • 93% of adolescents have access to the internet through computer or cell phone use
  • 1 in 3 children has been bullied online by someone they know
  • 1 in 3 has been bullied while playing an online game
  • 1 in 2 have been bullied by cell phone
  • Almost half have been bullied on the social networking site, Facebook
  • 13% of teens have received naked or semi-naked images from someone in school
    • 8% have sent them

Dr. SameerHinduja- Co-Director of the Cyberbullying Research Center of Florida Altantic University, 2010

effects of cyberbullying
Effects of Cyberbullying
  • Negative Emotions
    • Anger
    • Sadness
    • Hurt feelings
    • Embarrassed
    • Afraid
  • Negative Behaviors
    • Poor concentration
    • Low school achievement
    • Absenteeism from school
    • Retaliatory anti-social behavior
help young people navigate technology
Help Young People Navigate Technology
  • Netiquette
    • Behavior online should be the same as what you would do in person.
      • If your grandma could see what you do online, would you do it?
      • Would it be okay if I did this in a face-to-face interaction?
      • How does this action reflect on me?
    • Adults can model appropriate interactions with technology for young people
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Help Young People Navigate Technology
  • Coping Skills
    • Responding with anger shows that someone has hurt or done something that bothers you
    • Tell them to stop
    • Instead of focusing on all of the people who seem to be against you, focus on those who care and support you
  • Consequences
    • Cyber-foot prints
    • Legal ramifications of cyber threats
    • YouTube as evidence
  • Alex Wonder Kid Cyber Detective Agency
    • E:\Alex_WonderV1.1.air
cyber bullying youth tips
Cyber-bullying Youth Tips
  • Don’t initiate, respond to, or forward harmful messages
  • If something mean is posted or texted about you, don’t respond immediately, take a breath and give yourself time to think through your next step. Don’t react immediately.
  • Keep intimate and personal info- private
  • Think about your reputation- would you want—grandma, teacher, future employer, someone you don’t know—to see that?
  • If you feel uncomfortable, trust your gut, save and tell an adult
  • Don’t meet unknown internet friends without talking to your parents or another adult about it
cyber bullying school tips
Cyber-bullying School Tips
  • Teach social skills - much of the same work that is done for bullying is relevant to this work, but online education should be added to bullying prevention curriculums
  • Develop a needs assessment to better understand the problem from students’ and teachers’ perspectives
  • Conduct a policy and practice review…if you don’t have policies, develop them
  • Provide annual professional development about technology, youth development, and bullying prevention
  • Inform youth about legal limits
cyber bullying parent tips
Cyber-bullying Parent Tips
  • Ask your child questions, maintain an open dialogue.
  • Keep computer in a common room.
  • Talk about your expectations regarding acceptable online/phone behavior before they receive the privilege. Behavior online should be the same as what you would do in person or in front of someone you respect.
  • Make agreements and set boundaries about accepted use and behavior for online/phone communication. Often youth don’t tell parents because they fear losing technology privileges.
  • Help child think through how the information they put online reflects on them.
  • Inform youth about legal limits and future consequences of harmful posting online or by phone.
  • Ask your child to teach you about programs and technologies you don’t understand or of which you don’t have familiarity.
what is aps doing
What is APS doing?
  • District-wide Discipline/Bullying Prevention Plan
  • Safe School Healthy Students Initiative
    • Bullying Prevention Campaign
    • Funding for Prevention service
    • Brochure for Parents
    • Materials and Training
    • Website
  • PBIS
    • 25 Schools
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What is APS doing?
  • Prevention Programs
    • Steps to Respect
    • Second Step
    • Rachel’s Challenge
    • Safe School Ambassadors
    • Why Try?
contact information
Contact Information
  • Tracy Longwill, APS Safety Resource Counselor
    •, 505-855-9835
  • Brooke Tafoya, SSHS Coordinator
    •, 505-855-9812

Find resources and handouts at:

Tips, Power Point and Resources

resource list
Resource List
  • Books:
  • Bullyproof Your Child for Life. Joel Haber. *2007).
  • The Bully, the Bullied & the Bystander. Barbara Coloroso. (2008).
  • Cyberbullying: What Counselors Need to Know. Sheri Bauman. (2011).
  • Cyberbullying and Cyberthreats. Nancy E. Willard. (2007).
  • Websites:
  • (English or Spanish)
resource list continued
Resource List continued
  • Alex Wonder Kid Cyber Detective Agency
  • ConnectSafely
  • ConnectSafely—Spanish
  • (resources for Spanish-speaking families)
a final thought
A Final Thought

Cowardice asks the question: is it safe?

Expediency asks the question: is it politic?

Vanity asks the question: is it popular?

But conscience asks the question: is it right? And there

comes a time when one must take a position that is

neither safe, nor politic, nor popular-but one must take

it because it’s right.

-Martin Luther King Jr.