Small Group Activity. Divide into groups of 3 to 4 Discuss questions 3,4 & 7 on page 65. The Value Of Self-Exploration. How have you dealt with or are dealing with: Love & intimate relationships? Loneliness? Death & loss? Work & recreation? Sexuality? The meaning of life?
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How have you dealt with or are dealing with:
Love & intimate relationships?
Death & loss?
Work & recreation?
The meaning of life?
Other struggles within your family of origin?
Limited awareness of your own struggles may lead to being an ineffective helper!!
Clients will resurrect themes in your own life.
Unresolved conflicts will interfere with relationship.
Transference = Client bringing distorted past relationships (unresolved conflict with a significant other) into Counselor relationship.
Countertransference = Helper’s unconscious emotional responses to a client - resulting in a distorted perception of client’s behavior, ideas, actions, etc.
Become aware of potential countertransference issues!!
Many family of origin situations can be a trigger:
Absence of boundaries
Physical and/or mental abuse
Death or loss of family member
Divorce / separation
Other significant past events
You must identify your own sources of vulnerability!!
Different ways to engage is lifelong self-exploration:
Individual / Group Therapy-
Not just for treatment purposes.
Personal development activities -
Spiritual activities, meditating, interviewing family & friends, reflecting on your life & work.
Professional development activities -
Studying different cultures.
Taking classes to expand your knowledge of human behavior.
Self-exploration will increase your respect for clients and their issues!!
Be as open and honest with your own life experiences.
Understand how you can be personally affected by your professional work.
Lack of self understanding = constant triggers!!
Are you working with the person in front of you or with a person from your past??
Identify & reflect on as many family-of-origin experiences as possible:
Partner activity - pg. 74-75
Parents have had great influence:
Father / Mother descriptions activity
Family rules - “do’s” & “don’ts”
unspoken, myths, secrets, injunctions
Family rules molded us - our thoughts, beliefs & values.
Fewer rules, applied consistently.
Individuation & communication encouraged.
Parents control by using fear, punishment, guilt.
Members expected to think, feel & act the same.
Dysfunction becomes stressful and system eventually falls apart.
How do members cope with the stress?
Placating - Sacrifice themselves to please others. (all things to all people)
Blaming - Sacrifice others. (if it weren’t for you)
Overly reasonable - Strive for complete control over themselves, environment. (keep emotions in check)
Irrelevant - Constant motion, won’t take a stand.
Significant developments in your family:
Reflect & respond to questions on pg. 81.
Caution - Dealing with family history can be therapeutic but can also cause turmoil!!
Genogram (Marriage & Family course)
Personal Transformation - How have you dealt with past developmental tasks? How are you addressing issues today?
An effective helper can draw on own life experiences to better appreciate and assist with the struggles of a client.
Personal development is influenced by:
Family of origin, race, culture, gender, sexual orientation, and socioeconomic status.
9 Stages (Erik Erikson - Psychosocial Theory)
INFANCY - trust vs. mistrust
Develop sense of trust in self & others.
Need warmth & attention.
Emotional intelligence is established
*fearful, insecure, hostile, isolated*
EARLY CHILDHOOD - autonomy vs. shame & doubt
Develop interdependence & emotional competence.
Learn to delay gratification.
Can show feelings and be accepted not judged.
*Trouble recognizing / expressing feelings. Consider showing feelings as unacceptable*
PRESCHOOL (3 to 6) - initiative vs. guilt
Learn to give & receive love / affection.
Learn basic attitudes regarding sexuality.
Develop more complex social skills.
Allowed to make some decisions.
*Overly restricted kids develop a sense of guilt and become indecisive.*
MIDDLE CHILDHOOD (6 to12) - industry vs. inferiority
Increased understanding of self - race, gender, abilities.
Self in relation to family & peers.
Develop empathy & accept other perspectives.
Learn to create goals & meet challenges.
* Feelings of inferiority in social setting, fear of new challenges, negative self-concept & dependency.*
ADOLESCENCE (12 to 20) - identity vs. identity confusion.
Deal with body image issues.
Develop a spiritual identity.
Learn to deal with intimate relationships.
Expand understanding of self.
Move from family system-develop own identity.
*Conforms to others, easily influenced by peers, heightened stress levels, agonizes over individuation.*
EARLY ADULTHOOD (20-35) - intimacy vs. isolation.
Assume increased responsibility & independence.
Focus on long range goals.
Nurturing others (physically & emotionally).
Finding the meaning of life.
Caring more for self & others.
Engage in intimate relationships.
Find satisfying work.
*Fail to achieve intimacy, feel isolated /alienated.*
MIDDLE ADULTHOOD (35 to 55) - generativity vs. stagnation.
Engage in philosophical reexamination.
Begin solidifying philosophy on life.
Developing one’s career.
Find meaningful leisure activities.
Establish significant relationships.
*Sense of stagnation, lack of productivity, possible depression, mid-life crisis.*
LATE ADULTHOOD (55 to ??) - integrity vs. despair.
Put life into perspective.
Reflecting and evaluating on life decisions.
More aware of death / loss.
Accept past productivity and cope with failures.
Free to find new interests, look at retirement.
Deal with physical / mental deterioration, despair & loneliness.
*Unable to “let go” of regret, social isolation & hopelessness are persistent feelings.*