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A Winning Marriage: Without A Word But With Great Care

Explore the keys to a happy marriage and resolving conflicts through love and respect. Discover the importance of communication, nonverbal cues, and showcasing your spouse's value. Learn from biblical examples and practical advice on building a strong and fulfilling relationship.

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A Winning Marriage: Without A Word But With Great Care

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  1. A Winning Marriage:Without A WordBut With Great Care 1 Peter 3:1-7 Family Matters series January 29, 2017 Pastor Dave Smith dave@highlands.us

  2. Relevant Scriptures Old Testament New Testament Jesus: Matthew 5: 31-32 Matthew 19: 3-12 Wedding at Cana; wedding parables 1 Cor. 6 & 7; 2 Cor. 6 1 Peter 3:1-7 Ephesians 5: 22-33 • Examples: • Abraham & Sara • Isaac & Rebecca • Jacob & Rachel (and Leah) • Genesis 1:27 & 2:24; Exodus; Leviticus; Numbers; Deuteronomy

  3. Love & Respect However, let each one of you love his wife as he loves himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. (Ephesians 5:33) • The key to a happy marriage and to resolving marital conflicts; best gift to your kids • Love = mutual & unconditional; her need • Respect = mutual & unconditional; his need • From the Crazy Cycle to the Rewarded Cycle

  4. Dr. Emerson EggerichsThe Crazy Cycle

  5. Dr. Emerson EggerichsThe Energizing Cycle

  6. Dr. Emerson EggerichsThe Rewarded Cycle

  7. 1 Peter 3:1-4 1Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, 2when they see your respectful and pure conduct. 3Do not let your adorning be external – the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear – 4but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.

  8. To the Wife: • Submit (hupotasso) to place yourself under authority; not submit to sin; equal before the Lord (Gal. 3:28); can’t have two heads • Likewise (1 Peter 2:13; 18) – authorities • Won without a word (no nagging or yelling) by your respectful and pure conduct • Both women & men (with wayward spouse) • Hidden person of the heart; imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit (precious)

  9. Proverbs • 19:13b – … a wife’s quarreling is a continual dripping of rain. • 21:9 – It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife. • Nagging prevents husband/wife from hearing from the Holy Spirit. • Yelling (anger) simply creates stonewalling. • Remember the gentle & quiet spirit (precious)

  10. 1 Peter 3:5-6 5For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, 6as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening. {1 Peter 2:11-12 and 4:12-19} • Sarah as a role model: • She left home to follow her husband. • She pretended to be his sister on two occasions. • She believed God for a child, eventually.

  11. Genesis 16:1-3 1Now Sarai, Abram’s wife, had borne him no children. She had a female Egyptian servant whose name was Hagar. 2And Sarai said to Abram, “Behold now, the Lord has prevented me from bearing children. Go in to my servant; it may be that I shall obtain children by her.” And Abram listened to the voice of Sarai. 3So, after Abram had lived ten years in the land of Canaan, Sarai, Abram’s wife, took Hagar the Egyptian, her servant, and gave her to Abram her husband as a wife.

  12. Genesis 16:4-6 4And he went in to Hagar, and she conceived. And when she saw that she had conceived, she looked with contempt on her mistress. 5And Sarai said to Abram, “May the wrong done to me be on you! I gave my servant to your embrace, and when she saw that she had conceived, she looked on me with contempt. May the Lord judge between you and me!” 6But Abram said to Sarai, “Behold, your servant is in your power, do to her as you please.” Then Sarai dealt harshly with her, and she fled from her.

  13. Lessons from Genesis 16 • Misinterpreting God’s “wait” as a “no” • Coming up with worldly solutions (no prayer) • A third party in a marriage never works. • Feelings of jealousy and inferiority fueled Sarai’s disrespectful, unloving, and inaccurate accusations. • Abram’s passivity and lack of responsibility fueled his unloving and hardhearted response.

  14. 1 Peter 3:7 7Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. • Live (dwell, abide) with understanding • Show honor to the “weaker,” more fragile • Joint heirs (partners) of the grace of life • Hindered prayers (God’s priorities)

  15. Conclusions • Winning without a word • Communicate clearly but not constantly • Nonverbal communication of love & respect • Focus on the gentle & quiet spirit • With great care • Wives are fragile and precious • Become a student of your wife • Focus on togetherness & showcasing her

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