Emotional Intelligence for today’s LEADERS

1. Emotional Intelligencefor today’s LEADERS उत्तिष्ठतजाग्रतप्राप्यवरान्निबोधत! Arise, awake and stop not till the goal is reached. ~ Kathopanishad 1.3.14

2. A bird that sings does not sing because it has an answer. It sings because it has a song. ~ Panchatanta

3. Imagine yourself as a highly effective leader. What do you see?

4. Be your own CEO

5. “What a man can be, he must be.” • “If you deliberately plan on being less than you are capable of being, then I warn you that you’ll be unhappy for the rest of your life.” -Abraham H Maslow (1908-70) Father of humanistic psychology. Creator of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.

6. On an average, an infant laughs nearly three hundred times a day, an adult only four.

7. LIFE IS A MISSION. NOT Just A CAREER.

8. If olive oil comes from olives, what does baby oil come from?

9. Four Intelligences Physical: Body, Physical energy, Discipline Mental: Cognitive Learning, Thoughts Emotional: Passion, Feelings, Drive Spiritual: Meaning, Direction, Purpose, Conscience

10. “Anyone can become angry … that is easy.…But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way … that is not easy.” ~Aristotle

11. When I compared star performers with average ones in senior leadership positions, nearly 80% of the difference in their profiles was attributable to emotional intelligence factors rather than cognitive skills. Dr. Daniel Goleman, What Makes a Leader, 1998

13. Life = Success + Stress Success 10 + Stress 90 = Life 100 Success 90 + Stress 10 = Life 100

14. What is EI? Emotional Intelligence is a way of recognizing, understanding, and choosing how we think, feel, and act.

15. The wise person challenges himself, the mediocre challenges the situations and the fool challenges others.

16. What is Emotional Intelligence? • the ability to perceive emotions • the ability to access and generate emotions so that it assists thought • the ability to understand complex emotions and emotional knowledge • the ability to reflectively regulate emotions so as to promote emotional and intellectual growth

17. Components of EI 3. Motivation 1. Self - Awareness 6. Self - Remembrance 4. Empathy 2. Self - Management 5. Social Skills

18. 1. Personal Competence how we manage ourselves • Self Awareness – ability to recognise and understand your moods, emotions and drives, as well as their effect on others, knowing your strengths and weaknesses • Self Regulation - ability to control impulses and moods • Motivation - passion to pursue goals with energy

19. 2. Social Competence how we handle relationships • Empathy - awareness of other’s feelings and concerns • Social skills - proficiency in managing relationships, adeptness in inducing desirable responses, such as communication, conflict management, cooperation, and leadership

20. 3. Self Mastery how we master our life Self Remembrance - being aware of one’s emotions and drives and living with the flow

22. LOW or HIGH EI? • Doesn’t know life’s purpose and what to do • 'You always make me feel....' • Cannot share feelings verbally • Negative feelings dominate • Not perceptive to others' feelings • Carries grudges, unforgiving • Acts without reasoning or logic • Poor listener • Talks about problems LOW

23. High or Low EI? • Knows one’s purpose and what to do in life • 'I feel...' • Open expression of emotions • Not preoccupied with negative emotions • Can identity the feelings of others • Emotionally resilient • Decisions based on feelings and logic • Accepts self and others • Good listener • Talks about solutions HIGH

24. High EI individuals compared to those low on EI are: • Aware of their purpose in life • Know what career to pursue • More effective leaders • Less aggressive • More empathic • Happier • Less depressed • Less stressed • Higher self-esteem • Less lonely • Better quality friendships and married life

25. What we know about eq • Predicts higher work performance three times better than IQ • Leadership is largely an emotional intelligence • All interaction can be gauged along a continuum from emotionally toxic to nourishing • Approx 66.6% of workers say communication problems are the leading cause preventing them from doing their best work

26.  “The true perfection of man lies not in what man has, but in what man is.” •  “To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.” Oscar Wilde. 

27. Even after it is built, why do we call a house a ‘building’?

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31. “Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will”. -Mahatma Gandhi

32. What Type of Energy You Have? High Energized Confident Upbeat Joyful Connected Angry Frustrated Anxious Tensed -ve +ve Disengaged Laid Back Relaxed Serene Mellow Overworked Exhausted Depressed Low Physical: Low to High Emotional: Negative to Positive

33. If you can dream it, you can do it. - Walt Disney

34. Make no small plans for they have not the power to stir men’s blood. -Nichollo Machiavelli

35. NOW, THE WARNINGS BELLS:

38. When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project, all your thoughts break their bounds. Your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction, and you find yourself in a new, great and wonderful world. - The Yoga Sutras of Patanjali

39. Multiply your strengths so much that your weaknesses become irrelevant.

40. Simple tips to enhance ei • Stay with the feeling.Don’t interrupt or change the subject. • Don’t judge or edit your feelings. • Allow the feelings on the unconscious level to surface. • Listen to your body. • Write your feelings and thoughts down.

41. Your past is not your potential. In any hour you can choose to liberate the future.  Marilyn Ferguson

43. Questions / Comments?

44. To know and not to do is not to know.

45. Go ahead and shine in life!.