Bullying

2. Rob Fowler, Detective Ada County Sheriff’s Office School Resource Officer Eagle High School Bullying

3. Course Objectives Gain better understanding of what bullying is and what drives it. Learn to identify & address bullying Identify common traits of bullies Identify common traits of victims Develop personal strategies to address bullying within your sphere of influence

4. Course Objectives (continued) • Learn positive ways to deal with bullies • Learn supportive ways to deal with bullying victims • Learn positive ways to deal with parents • Victim • Bully

5. Course Objectives (continued) • Learn what the four “P”’s are and how to use them: • Prepare • Plan • Practice • Proficiency

6. What’s going on in our Community? • Significant growth in Idaho • 4th fastest growing state in nation • Population boom • Children have less quality time with adult role models as financial need requires longer work commitments • Larger population brings larger crime statistics • Juvenile crime is on the increase

7. What’s going on in our schools? • Schools cannot be built fast enough to accommodate the large number of students moving into the area • New populations of juveniles bring different social and cultural values with them • New populations of juveniles have a need to fit in

8. What’s going on in our schools? • Violence is a reality in our nation • 1998 35 students killed in school violence • 2004/2005 school year • 28 students killed • 250,000 injured • Fear of violence is up • Fear of gangs is up • Emulation of gang style is back on the rise

9. What’s going on in our schools? How many children have died from fires in schools in the last 25 years? Why? Why aren’t we doing the same prevention for gangs and violence in our schools? Because we don’t want to be labeled as paranoid.

10. What about Violence Prevention? • Standardized codes to prevent violence in schools • Through architectural design • Example: The strategic use of windows that look out on the school entrance so that students can see into the school and know that others can see them. • Surveillance technology • GPS tracking of School Busses • minimizing opportunities for out-of-sight activities • Including School busses • Access control • managing access to all school areas

12. Our Culture of Violence

13. MEDIA VIOLENCE: EXPOSURE AND CONTENT American children and youths spend, on average, more than 4 hours a day with television, computers, videotaped movies, and video games (Roberts et al., 1999; Woodard, 2000). -Surgeon General’s report on youth violence

14. Indiana University Brain Scan Research Adolescent’s Brain with Low Video Media Exposure is the left image and Adolescent’s Brain with High Video Media Exposure is the image on the right.

15. Indiana University Brain Scan Research • Media Violence stunts or “retards” kids’ brain development: Children with violent TV, movie and video game exposure had reduced cognitive brain function. • Media violence makes violent brains, Violent TV, movies and video game exposure had an affect on normal kids that made their brain scans the same as children with diagnosed Aggressive Behavior Disorder.

16. Indiana University Brain Scan Research For more information on this study visit www.sosparents.org

17. "I don't know why it's a shock to us that these kids would try to find a way to turn violence into entertainment. It's all around them.“ Dr. Ken Druck, Psychologist

18. Music and Violence Make no mistake about it, music can summon a range of emotions, most of which are wonderful. Yet there is some music that communicates potentially harmful health messages, especially when it reaches a vulnerable audience.

19. Music and Violence For example, Nine Inch Nails released “Big Man with a Gun,” with the following lyrics: I am a big man (yes I am) and I have a big gun; got me a big old dick and I like to have fun; held against your forehead, I’ll make you suck it, maybe I’ll put a hole in your head; you know, just for the fuck of it...I’m every inch a man, and I’ll show you somehow; me and my f--king gun; nothing can stop me now; shoot shoot shoot shoot shoot...

20. Music and Violence Marilyn Manson has quite the way with a lyric: “Who said date rape isn’t kind,” “The housewife I will beat” and “I slit my teenage wrist” are just a sample from two songs. Frank Palumbo, M.D., FAAP, American Academy of Pediatrics

21. Music and Violence We believe something can and should be done. Poll after poll laments the belief that our country, including its youth, is losing its moral center. Responsibility, respect and discipline are thought to be a thing of the past. Crime and violence have escalated to the point where it is a public health problem. Although there is no one solution, awareness of, and sensitivity to, the potential impact of music lyrics and videos by consumers, the media and the music industry is one important piece of the puzzle. It is in the children’s best interest to listen to lyrics or to watch videos that are not violent, sexist, drug-oriented, or antisocial. Frank Palumbo, M.D., FAAP, American Academy of Pediatrics

22. What is our kids music telling us? When this began I had nothing to say And I'd get lost in the nothingness inside of me I was confused And I'd let it all out to find That I'm not the only person with these things in mind Inside of me When all the vacancy the words revealed Is the only real thing that I've got left to feel Nothing to lose Just stuck, hollow and alone And the fault is my own and the fault is my own I wanna heal I wanna feel What I thought was never real I want to let go of the pain I felt so long Erase all the pain till its gone I wanna heal I wanna feel Like Im close to something real I want to find something I've wanted all along Somewhere I belong

23. Snoop Dogg Lyrics Every time I come around they like "Oh No"I get to trippin; slap the clip up in my 44Shit I been thru in my hood made my heart coldI get to poppin off that thang like I'm locoNo sense in coppin pleas when you see my knife out (knife out)Motherfuckers light out (lights out)Here comes Snoop, uh (oh shit) (Oh No)Sup Nigga, sup now, huh? (Oh No)[Snoop:]Ricky Ticky Timble, C's is the symbolCourdoroy khakis, stacies & brimmed upStraight razors just to keep you trimmed up1-8-7, oh yeah, now you rememberHe's electrifyin & originalSo gangster, Snoop Dogg the criminalThe one you hate to love, in the club, in the cutHugged up wit yo bitch, nigga I don't give a shitYou betta check dat ho, that's what wreckin GNow step your game down, cause ain't no checkin meYou'll be respectin me until you leave this roomOr my gat'll go boom, bullets go zoomNow your names on a tombThey pourin out liquor wit no room to consume, you silly buffoonI pop niggas like balloons, I ain't feeling emWalkin in my big blue chucks cause I'm killin em

24. Superchic[k] HERO No one sits with him, he doesn't fit inBut we feel like we do when we make fun of himCause you want to belong do you go along?Cause his pain is the price paid for you to belongIt's not like you hate him or want him to dieBut maybe he goes home and thinks suicide Or he comes back to school with a gun at his sideAny kindness from you might have saved his lifeHeroes are made when you make a choiceYou could be a heroHeroes do what's rightYou could be a heroYou might save a lifeYou could be a hero, You could join the fightFor what's right for what's right for what's rightNo one talks to her, she feels so aloneShe's in too much pain to survive on her ownThe hurt she can't handle overflows to a knifeShe writes on her arm, wants to give up her lifeEach day she goes on is a day that she's brave,Fighting the lie that giving up is the way,Each moment of courage her own life she savesWhen she throws the pills out a hero is made

25. What Can I Do? • Accept the fact that violence is a real problem in our community • Accept the fact that violence affects everyone regardless of sex, race or financial status • Accept the fact that it could happen to you, your children or your students

26. What Can I Do? • Prepare yourself now for the possibility that your child may be lured into the world of violence • Remove the following phrases from your vocabulary • “Not my child” • “Not him / her • “It’s just a phase” • “He / She just likes that _______” (music, clothing, video game, etc.)

27. What Can I Do? What does that mean to me? It means you can’t engage in consuming movies, music, video games, clothing, etc. that promotes or glorifies gang life styles and / or violence. This means you can’t buy these things for them either!

28. What Can I Do? Understand that because you can filter between reality and fantasy, that does not mean your child can, particularly if they have high media exposure to violence. Because we can filter, we can self regulate what we watch and participate in. CHILDREN CAN’T !

29. “When parenting decreases, the need for policing increases” - Stephen Covey

31. Tears on the Highway DVD

32. Bullying

33. Statistics • According to the National Association of School Psychologists, about 160,000 children in the United States miss school every day for fear of being bullied.

34. Statistics • In Canada, Toronto's Board of Education has documented that in Grades 4 to 8, one child in five is victimized periodically, while one in 12 is bullied weekly or daily. Many people, not in the industry, are unaware that bullying often begins on the bus ride to and from school. Experts say that school buses generate a great opportunity for bullies.

35. Statistics • ACCORDING TO THE BUREAU OF JUSTICE STATISTICS - School Crime and Safety: • Teenagers say revenge is the strongest motivation for school shootings • — 87% said shootings are motivated by a desire to "get back at those who have hurt them." • — 86% said, "other kids picking on them, making fun of them or bullying them" causes teenagers to turn to lethal violence in the schools.

36. Statistics • RECENT STATISTICS SHOW THAT: • 1 out of 4 kids is Bullied.  • The American Justice Department says that this month 1 out of every 4 kids will be abused by another youth. • Surveys Show That  77%  of students are bullied mentally, verbally, & physically.

37. Statistics • 43% fear harassment in the bathroom at school. • 100,000 students carry a gun to school. • 28% of youths who carry weapons have witnessed violence at home. • A poll of teens ages 12-17 proved that they think violence increased at their schools.

38. Statistics • Playground statistics - Every 7 minutes a child is bullied. • Adult intervention - 4%. • Peer intervention - 11%. • No intervention - 85%.

39. Statistics • Both bullies and those on the receiving end of bullying were more likely to have difficulty adjusting to their environment both socially and psychologically. • Students who were bullied reported having greater difficulty making friends and poorer relationships with their classmates. They were also much more likely than other students to report feelings of loneliness. • "It's likely that kids who are socially isolated and have trouble making friends are more likely to be targets of bullying," Dr. Nansel said. "In turn, other kids may avoid children who are bullied, for fear of being bullied themselves."

40. So What is Bullying?

41. Bullying Researchers generally accept that bullying contains three essential elements: 1. The behavior is aggressive and negative. 2. The bully carries out the behavior repeatedly. 3. The behavior occurs in a relationship where there is an imbalance of power between the parties involved.

42. What is Cyber Bullying? In short, cyber bullying is "willful and repeated harm inflicted through the medium of electronic text.“ Cyber bullies are malicious aggressors who seek implicit or explicit pleasure or profit through the mistreatment of another individual.

43. Why do kids often behave inappropriately online? • Because technology often provides • 1) a perceived buffer from regular consequences and • 2) a real buffer from traditional social cues, people will say and do things through technology that they would not do face-to-face. (The scientific term for this is "dis-inhibition.") If this is apparent with email, instant messaging, and text messaging on cell phones, it seems even more glaring on social networking sites.

44. What is a Bully A bully is an individual who torments others through verbal harassment, physical assault, or other more subtle methods of coercion. The behavior engaged in by bullies: bullying. In colloquial speech, "bullying" most often describes a form of harassment perpetrated by someone who is in some way more powerful, physically or socially, than a weaker peer.

46. Did You Know? By age 24, 60% of identified bullies have a criminal conviction. Children, repeatedly victimized, sometimes see suicide as their only escape. Bullying is one of the most underrated and enduring problems in schools today. Schools are a prime location for bullying. Bullies lose their popularity as they get older and eventually the majority of students come to dislike them.

47. Did You Know? Many adults do not know how to intervene in bullying situations; therefore, they often overlook bullying. On average, bullying episodes are brief, approximately 37 seconds long. The emotional scars from bullying can last a lifetime.

48. Did You Know? Bullying is broken into two categories: 1. Direct bullying.2. Indirect bullying (also known as social aggression).

50. Did You Know? Direct bullying is the form most common to male bullies.Social aggression, or indirect bullying, is most common to female bullies and young children and characterized by forcing the victim into social isolation. Bullies achieve this isolation of their victims through a wide variety of techniques, which include: Spreading gossip. Refusing to socialize with the victims.