Global Careers for Two: How We Made It Work with Six Children, 32 Countries and 2 PhDs

1. March 19 2010 3:00 P.M. 257 HRCB GlobalCareers for Two:How We Made It Work with Six Children, 32 Countries and 2 PhDs

2. Who Are We? • Frederick Crook • Senior Economist, US Department of Agriculture • 40 years of expertise on rural China • Traveled in all of China’s 31 provinces • Author of 10 books and 190 articles on China • President of the China Group – China Consulting firm • PhD, Fletcher School of Law & Diplomacy (Tufts & Harvard)

3. Who Are We? • Elizabeth Crook • Senior Analytic Service, US Government – 18 years • Professor at Lingnan University and Dana Hall School, Wellesley, MA. • PhD, Fletcher School of Law & Diplomacy (Tufts & Harvard) • Treasurer of the China Rural Education Foundation

4. Our Experience Was Individualistic We are not offering our experience as a model for other couples. We simply are relating what we did. Each couple has to work out their own path.

5. Twelve Reference Points Blend Family Patterns Form Joint Goals Give Mutual Professional Support Anticipate Life’s Events Respond to “Exogenous Variables” Share Responsibility for Child Rearing Involve the Children in Professional Activities

6. “A Time and a Season…” – When to Work and When to Stay Home • Cultivate Methods to Resolve Conflicts • Develop a “Thick Skin” • Have an Eternal Perspective • Endure to the End

7. Blend Family Patterns Crook Family Fletcher Family Frederick and Elizabeth

8. Farm family in Fallon Nevada Father educated at Utah State Uni. and Cornell Mother educated at BYU

9. Suburban family in Short Hills, New Jersey. Father educated at BYU and Columbia University, General Counsel at Western Electric. Mother graduated from USC.

10. Form Joint Goals These were ours, decided early in our marriage: Christ-centered Family Life – Raising Children Most Important Goal Personal Growth for Each Family Member Professional Development for Each Spouse

11. Give Mutual Professional Support Alternate teaching at Dana Hall School, Wellesley, Mass Frederick - “House spouse” in summer 1967 Frederick’s gift of typing paper, Christmas 1969 Elizabeth editing Frederick’s papers (life-long!) Frederick at US Con Gen, Elizabeth at Lingnan University (Hong Kong, 1974-76) Joint authorship of professional journal articles Frederick encourages Elizabeth to learn Chinese in Hong Kong and Taiwan Frederick pushes computer skills Apple 2E, 1980 Elizabeth takes Frederick on trips to Vietnam, Mongolia, Colombia, Abu Dhabi, Serbia, and Tanzania, 2004-2010

12. Work, school, child care, part time work

13. Elizabeth receives her Master’s Degree at the Fletcher School of Law and Diplomacy

14. Joint authorship in a refereed scholarly journal, 1976.

15. Elizabeth pitched in to help with the funding of poor rural students in Gan Quan County, Shaanxi Province.

16. Frederick Supports Elizabeth’s Travels between 2004-2010 Two Week Seminars for Foreign Government Officials

17. Mongolia Georgia Serbia Afghanistan Albania Azerbaijan Japan Morocco Lebanon UAE Libya Senegal Oman Vietnam Kenya Congo Sri Lanka Maldives Colombia Namibia Mauritius South Africa

18. We developed a time line for each child Start early morning seminary Drivers education, learning to drive Graduation from High School University Missions for children Job changes Marriages Work after retirement from US Federal Government Service Public service Church work Anticipate Life’s Events

19. Yellow—baptismal year; Green—enter YM and YW; Red—university: Blue—possible times for missionary service; Purple—Mission in Taiwan

20. “The Best Laid Plans”…..: Flexibility in Responding to Exogenous Variables 1965—Frederick, you may lose your eyesight 1975—Frederick has bad job situation in Hong Kong Search for truth, not power 1976—”Do you know why I am calling you?” “Yes, President Romney, you want me to go to Taiwan.” 1980—Sixth child passes away, return from Taiwan 1981 Adopted an infant boy from Taiwan - Peter 1987 College expenses loom: Part-time work for Elizabeth begins 1995 - 2003 Elizabeth—full time work

21. Our family agreed to adopt Pete from an orphanage in Taichung, Taiwan, 1981

22. Share Responsibility for Child-Rearing 1)     Caring for sick children. Dan meningitis 2) Discipline—consistent between parents 2)     Cooking schedule—one child one dinner 3)     Cleaning—7th grade, own laundry 4)     Home work—shared the blessings 5) School and extra curricular activities 6) Boy Scout activities, music lesson, sports     

23. Dad and Pete are camping with the Scouts. Pete achieved Eagle rank. Now 30 and married, he counts it as one of his major accomplishments.

24. Summer internships at our places of work The China Group and China Shop The China Rural Education Foundation Family home evenings Allowances, driving cars, cooking and cleaning Family residence in Hong Kong and Taiwan; Family travel in China and Europe Involved the Children in Professional Activities

27. Cultivate Methods to Resolve Conflicts 1) Spouse and family evaluation sessions: Name 2 things we did well and 2 things that could be improved     2)   From leadership training sessions (US Government training and BSA Woodbadge training) we learned how to give and receive constructive suggestions

28. Mutual Support

30. Friends Family Professors May try to offer their advice on how you should live your life. How you should pursue a profession, develop your agenda for personal growth, and how you should raise your family. You should be respectful and listen, weigh the advice and together chart your course. Develop A Thick Skin

31. On self development Promote development of children Provide stewardship over resources—environment Live the law consecration Work for peace Have an Eternal Perspective

32. Endure to the End Stimulating and Service-Oriented “Golden Years”