Domestic Violence The Refugee and Immigrant Experience Tapestri, Inc. Mission Statement.
The Refugee and Immigrant Experience
Tapestri is dedicated to ending violence and oppression in immigrant and refugee communities, using culturally competent and appropriate methods. As advocates for immigrant and refugee families affected by domestic violence, sexual assault and exploitation, we are committed to using education, community organizing, direct services and advocacy to effect change in the lives of these families.
Domestic violence is a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner.
The abuse can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure or wound someone.
To many people continue to believe that domestic violence is a private matter between a couple, rather than a criminal offense that merits a strong and swift response.
If the abuser is truly unable to control his anger, why doesn’t he lash out at every person who makes him mad? Why is his family the only target of his violence? The abuser knows that society will accept the excuse that alcohol or drugs lower his inhibitions and “allow” him to be violent. Though substance abuse may exacerbate or trigger the abuse, it is still a choice that the man makes
There is no provocation that justifies an abuser’s action. Using violence is a choice.
In many cultures, there is a definite hierarchy within the extended family. The oldest members may have the most authority and expect the newest members to serve them.
The abuser may be a mother-in-law who expects the daughter-in-law to be a servant. The batterer may be a father-in-law who expected the daughter-in-law to bring a higher dowry.
In many cultures, the way a person behaves is a reflection of the entire family’s reputation. Female family members may be punished if their behavior is seen to break the rules and “dishonor” the family.
The batterer could also be a sibling, a child, or anyone else in the family.
DV also occurs in same sex relationships.
Why does She Stay?
Barriers faced by Immigrant and Refugee Battered Women
She doesn’t know what kind of help is available
Belief that the children need a father, even if he’s abusive
Social stigma of revealing to outsiders that there is violence
She loves him
The Temporary Protection Order restrains the abuser from doing, attempting to do, threatening to do any act of injury, maltreating, molesting, following, harassing, harming, or abusing you and/or your minor children in any manner. It orders the abuser not to attempt to come within a certain number of yards of the victim and her children. This includes her house, place of employment, and children's school or daycare. A petition for a TPO can be filed for both acts of Domestic Violence or Stalking. The victim should be able to describe the most recent incident that occurred.
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