SBS 2000 B4

1. SBS 2000 B4 Unit 1 Happy Family Life (I)

2. Part I Warming up • A. Key words • dates specific protect talk understand respect

3. B. Vocabulary • fatigue: • n. great tiredness; exhaustion • foxhole: • n. a hole in the ground which soldiers use to fire at or hide from the enemy 散兵坑 • distracted: • a. very anxious and unable to think clearly because one is troubled about many things. • abuse: • n. unkind, cruel, or rude words • strike out (at sb/sth) : • aim vigorous blows or attacks （对准某人[某物]）猛力打去, 猛烈攻击: He lost his temper and struck out wildly. 他大发脾气, 疯狂地出手打人. * (fig 比喻) In a recent article she strikes out at her critics. 她最近写了一篇文章对批评她的人予以猛烈回击.

4. Ex.1. Listen to some ideas that may help marriage work and fill in the missing information • 1.Go on ______ with each other. Renew romantic feelings by _____________________________________ • 2. Be as _______ as you can when you________ , make a________, or offer_________. • 3. When stressed by ________ or your own___________, imagine you and your partner in a__________, surrounded by danger. Instead of _____________ at your partner, find a way to _______the partnership! • 4. When you feel _________ talk about it with your partner • 5. Be assured that partners in ____________ sometimes get tired, irritable, or distracted. ___________________________ each other. • 6. each other. Leave if _______ exists. Find ___________ help if_______ , sexual, emotional, or ______ abuse occurs. • 7. Fight to____________ , not to _______ dates spending special time together complain request specific praise fatigue insecurities foxhole striking out protect “distant,” all marriages Work together to understand Respect danger professional physical verbal “understand’ “win”

5. Ex.2. Post-listening discussion: Decide whether you agree with them.

6. B. Key words: • losing; “lose-lose” solutions control

7. Vocabulary: • attest: • v. to declare to be true, esp. by signing something • excel: • to be the best or better than • reside in: • v. (of a power, right, etc.) to belong to e.g. The authority of governance resided in the monarchy.统治权属于君主. • configuration: • the arrangement of the parts of something; shape • spouse: • wife or husband • be taken with: • 对...很喜爱;被...迷住; 被...吸引

8. What you are going to hear is a passage about how to excel in the art of domestic argument. Supply the missing words while listening.

11. How to Prevent a Domestic Disagreement From Escalating to an Argument

12. Key to the Exercise

13. 40; excel; domestic argument; losing “win-win”; “lose-lose”; win a gift; returns argue over; aren’t; Who; in control; fear; didn’t need; ought not to; couldn’t; tried to; Destroy marriage Key to the Ex.

14. love; loved; secure; discover; garden; cultivate; the most precious; own self; bloom obtain; our partner; loved and respected; Control ToWinatMarriage,Learntolose

15. Part II All you Need Is Love? • A.Choosing a Mate • Pre-listening discussion: • What kind of person would you like to have as your girlfriend or boyfriend? • What qualities would you look for in your boy or girl-friend?

16. Vocabulary: • pre-industrial: • before industrialization; before industrial revolution • propose: • to make an offer (of a marriage) • e.g. Tom proposed to Miss Brown • criterion: • (pl.) criteria, • an established standard or principle, on which a judgment or decision is based. • e.g. Practice is the only criterion of the truth.

17. 1. Listen and write down the three main criteria people usually maintain for choosing a mate. • Criteria 1: • Having______________________. • Criteria 2: • Having__________________________. • Criteria 3: • Having____________________. similar social backgrounds the same race or same ethnic background. the same religion

18. 2. Listen again and answer the questions • 1)Why does the speaker say that some of the past practices related to marriage customs are weakening? • _____/______/_______________ • 2)Why does the speaker say that the races are still largely separate in marriage in the U.S? • ________________________________ Japan 9.2% arranged marriages 3% • / between blacks and whites.

19. B. Personal and family relationships. • Vocabulary: • sustain: • to keep in existence over a long period; maintain • differentiate: • distinguish or discriminate • e.g. He never learned to differentiate between good and evil.

20. Barbara Cartland • She was the world's most prolific (Producing abundant works) romance author, having published 723 books during her life, mostly of romantic love set in the 19th century. Her books established her as the Queen of Romance, portraying the English upper-class world. • ‘A woman asking "Am I good? Am I satisfied?" is extremely selfish. The less women fuss about themselves, the less they talk to other women, the more they try to please their husbands, the happier the marriage is going to be.’—Barbara Cartland

21. Listen to the dialogue and complete the following main ideas expressed by the second speaker. • 1.Unfortunately, perhaps in the initial stages it’s the ________________________________. • 2.In fact it shouldn’t be ___________________ that is important. You should be able to __________________________________ and see what sort of a person he or she is. physical appearance that attracts what somebody looks like look beyond the physical appearance

22. 3.In pop songs and magazines and newspapers and so on, the idea of falling in love is always emphasized.—In fact I think we can probably lay the blame for___________________________. • 4.I think you have to differentiate between _________________________ which I see as more superficial, and _______________which I see as a deeper emotion and one that perhaps lasts. the high percentage of divorces falling in love with somebody, loving somebody,

23. C.Views on men’s “just-right” wives. • (After class listening) • Repeat the following key words: • “just-right” wife; physical qualities; athletic; sports qualities; nationalities

24. Vocabulary: • vow: • a solemn promise or declaration of intention • upper portion: • 上半身 • designer clothing: • clothing made by and usu. carrying the name of a well-known designer

25. Complete the summary • one of the biggest decisions they will make in life; • as the “just-right” wife for him • definition of what the “just-right” wife is • the millionaire man and the poor man • her physical qualities; different words • by her physical qualities; by her athletic qualities • in two different atmospheres • also have their definitions of the “just-right” wife • the German man’s definition is different from the Spanish man’s

26. Part III First Meetings • Views on first meetings

27. Vocabulary • frizzy: • tightly curled 头发拳曲的 • yearbook: • a book printed once a year giving facts and information about the year just past • Platonic: • (of a relationship between a man and woman) just friendly, not sexual

28. hit it off: • to have a good relationship (with); become good friends 例如：My roommate and I hit it off from the very first day we moved in, probably because we have something in common. 我和我的室友从第一天搬进来起就很合得来，也许是因为我们有共同语言。 再如： He would hit it off with anyone. He‘s an honest, generous, gregarious guy with a genuine interest in other people. 他和什么人都合得来。他是个诚实、慷慨、合群的人，对别人很真诚。 • chap: • a man or boy • trip over: • to catch one’s foot (in or on sth. ) and lose one’s balance • a baseball diamond • （棒球或垒球的）整个比赛场地 • fancy-dress party • 化装舞会

29. Pre-listening discussion • 1.At what age do young men and women usually begin to date with each other? • 2.At what age is it customary for people to get married and how long do engagements last? • 3.What do you think of the “boy-meets-girl” custom? • 4. What do you think of the arranged marriage?

30. Repeat the following key words: • baseball diamond; pizza; fancy-dress party; film; river • Listen to the five people talking about their first meetings with their present partners. Listen carefully and take notes in the following chart.

31. hair/ funny/ monologue a baseball diamond pizza a wine bar a fancy-dress party A fancy-dress party outside a cinema outside a cinema a boat / the river bank a boat /the river bank

32. Part IV Listen and relax • Background: (www.chinadaily.com.cn) • “情人节”的来历，现存的版本很多。较为流传的是一段发生在克罗狄乌斯时代有关"神职之爱"与"世俗之爱"的故事。 • 故事发生在公元前250年左右，当时的罗马皇帝克罗狄乌斯为了扩军备战，下令禁止国人举行婚典。凡是一定年龄范围内的男子，都必须进入罗马军队，整个国家于是备受相思之苦。

33. 圣·瓦伦丁牧师，不忍看到一对对伴侣生离死别，便以基督教方式为他们秘密举行婚礼，后被罗马皇帝发现送进监狱。传说临死前，他给朋友女儿留下字条，上面写着："爱你的瓦伦丁"，收字条的女孩在瓦伦丁遭遇不幸时一直鼓励他、关心他、爱护他。圣·瓦伦丁牧师，不忍看到一对对伴侣生离死别，便以基督教方式为他们秘密举行婚礼，后被罗马皇帝发现送进监狱。传说临死前，他给朋友女儿留下字条，上面写着："爱你的瓦伦丁"，收字条的女孩在瓦伦丁遭遇不幸时一直鼓励他、关心他、爱护他。 • 牧师死的那一天是2月14日，公元269年的2月14日。 • Related Reading: • http://www.chinadaily.com.cn/english/doc/2006-02/13/content_519716.htm • Priest Valentine relates his story

34. Read love "code" by means of countries' name • H.O.L.L.A.N.D.— • Hope Our Love Lasts And Never Dies 荷兰--希望我们的爱情恒永不灭。 • L.I.B.Y.A.— • Love IS Beautiful，You Also. 利比亚--爱是美丽的，你也一样。 • F.R.A.N.C.E.— • Friendship Remains And Never Can End. 法国--友谊永存，即便海枯石烂。 • M.A.N.I.L.A.— • May All Nights Inspire Love always. 马尼拉--但愿爱情夜夜相伴 • N.E.P.A.L.— • Never Ever Part As Lovers. 尼泊尔--恋人永不分离。

35. You are going to hear a valentine story. Listen and enjoy