Sex & Family

1. Sex & Family

2. Sexuality—permissiveness v. restrictiveness • Sexual deviancy: • Permissive: • Restrictive:

3. Childhood Sexuality • Hopi Indians of American Southwest—permissive • Parents teach their children how to masturbate at young age • East Bay (Pacific Island)—restrictive • Children discouraged from touching their genitalia in public • Boys get “good-natured ridicule” • Girls get scolded or hit • At age 5 they are told to avoid contact with other sex

4. Premarital sex • Trobriand Islanders (near Papua New Guinea)—permissive • Approve of and encourage premarital sex as a chance to prepare for married life • Boys and girls are taught all forms of sexual expression at puberty • Ila of Central Africa—permissive • Girls are given houses to use to have “practice” marriages with boys of their choice • Virginity often does not last past age 10 • Tepoztlan Indians of Mexico—restrictive • Girls are confined once menstruation starts • They are not allowed to speak to boys—if she does so, she is considered crazy • Muslim societies—restrictive • Female virginity is “tested” with white sheets on wedding night • Blood stains=virginity • Female circumcision used todiscourage girls from having sex

5. Extramarital sex • Hopi Indians—permissive • Men have “private wives” for instances when wife is uninterested—meant to live a “comfortable” life • Navajo Indians—restrictive…sort of • Forbid adultery technically, but a study in 1948 showed that 27% of married men’s (under age 30) sexual contacts were with women other than their wives • Chukchee of Siberia—permissive • Allow married men to have sex with a host’s wife with understanding he will offer the same hospitality • Inuits—permissive • Common practice for a chief’s wife to be given to a traveler in the tribe as a chance to bring in “new blood”

6. Homosexuality • Lepcha of the Himalayas—restrictive • View homosexuals with disgust and feel it is a disease you catch when eating an uncastrated pig • Claim that homosexuality does not exist in their culture • Papago of American Southwest—permissive • “Nights of Saturnalia” • Connection to Roman day of tribute to Saturn—influenced Catholic Christmas • Transvestites were common that did women’s chores and could marry or be visited by men • Women only allowed to take part in Saturnalia when their husbands allow them to do so • Sapphic love: Sappho of Lesbos (Greek island): female homosexual relationship • Greek female poet that wrote about love of women

7. Homosexuality (continued) • Siwans of North Africa—permissive • Expect all males to engage in homosexual relations • Fathers make arrangements for unmarried sons to be given to older men • Customs rule that one man only gets one boy • Study in 1917 shows that most boys still married girls when they reach adulthood • Etoro of Papua New Guinea—permissive • Prefer homosexuality over heterosexuality • Heterosexuality is banned for as much as 260 days a year • Forbidden in or near the home or gardens • Homosexuality is not prohibited on any day and is believed to make crops flourish and make boys strong

8. Incest Taboo • Incest taboo: prohibition of sex and marriage between mother and son, father and daughter, and brother and sister • Only known exceptions to taboo has been royal families (Incans & Hawaiians) • Best example of exception to taboo was Cleopatra in Egypt • Married to 2 different brothers at different times • Family of a Pharaoh was a god, so they couldn’t spoil a god’s blood with a normal human • Marriage within the family kept royal property and wealth undivided

9. Incest Taboo (continued) • Theories about why incest taboo is universal: • Childhood-Familiarity Theory: 1920s • Chinese custum of t’ung-yang-hsi(daughter-in-law raised from childhood) • Often poor families will give away or sell their daughter to another family to be raised with her future husband—done only weeks after birth • Leads to sexual disinterest, lack of stimulation, and fewer offspring • Become more likely to pursue extramarital relationships

10. Incest Taboo (continued) • Freud’s Psychoanalytic Theory: • Family-Disruption Theory • Cooperation Theory—marriage creates “alliances”

11. A Table of Kindred and Affinity, Wherein Whosoever Are Related Are Forbiddenby the Church of England to Marry Together. (1949 version) A Woman may not marry with her father son adopted son father's father mother's father son's son daughter's son brother husband's father husband's son mother's husband daughter's husband father's mother's husband mother's mother's husband husband's father's father husband's mother's father husband's son's son husband's daughter's son son's daughter's husband daughter's daughter's husband father's brother mother's brother brother's son sister's son A Man may not marry his mother daughter adopted daughter father's mother mother's mother son's daughter daughter's daughter sister wife's mother wife's daughter father's wife son's wife father's father's wife mother's father's wife wife's father's mother wife's mother's mother wife's daughter's daughter wife's son's daughter son's son's wife daughter's son's wife father's sister mother's sister brother's daughter sister's daughter

12. Physical Differences Between the Sexes • Sexual dimorphism: • Physical differences: • Personality differences:

13. Personality Differences • Findings about personality differences from Margaret Mead about 3 tribes in New Guinea during the 1930s: • little link between masculine and feminine personality traits and sex • No universal sexual personality traits • Arapesh: both sexes gentle and maternal • Mundugumor: both sexes showed violence and competitiveness • Tchambuli: women were domineering, practical, impersonal, and chief economic providers—men were sensitive, delicate, and devoted time to art and their appearances Tchambuli men playing flutes for Mead

14. More recent thoughts on personality differences • Six Cultures Project (1973): comparative study of children in Mexico, New England, Japan, Phillipines, India, & Kenya • Boys begin to show more aggression by the age of 3 • Older girls begin to show less aggression • Girls tend to be more responsible & show ability to nurture • Girls tend to conform to adult commands/wishes • Boys try to exert dominance to get their own way • Boys usually play in larger groups with mostly boys • Girls usually play in smaller groups with mostly girls • Girls often seek help from others • Boys often seek attention and approval • 2 theories on why these differences appear: NATURE V. NURTURE • 1st: genetics: estrogen v. testosterone • 2nd: society teaches us how to behave • Girls usually asked to do more work—creates responsibility—what happens when you have a boy do more work?

15. Luo children of Kenya study • 1973 study of Luo children • Boys assigned less chores b/c they need to work in field • Girls assigned traditional “home” chores • Village of Luo had a low number of girls born; mothers relied on boys to do more house work • Boys that did more house work were less aggressive and more responsible than other boys • Possible that both “nature” and “nurture” are important in creating personality differences

16. Social Roles of the Sexes

17. Why is division of labor so universal? • Strength Theory: • Problem: • Why do men usually perform tasks such as trapping small animals or making musical instruments? Little physical demands… • Compatibility-with-child-care theory: • Why do men usually create crafts that are sold, but women make them for home?

18. One more theory… • Economy of Effort Theory: • Males make instruments—they collect hard materials needed and have more knowledge of physical properties…makes more sense for them to work with it • Women are near home to raise children…makes sense for them to do more house work • That’s why during the summer, I am basically a “wife”

19. Differences in status for men & women • Islamic societies (Afghanistan under the Taliban): • Women live in purdah: remain secluded & veiled • If women must go out of home, they must have male approval & shroud face and body in burqa—must wear in their home if a male is present • Women under authority of fathers and husbands • Heavy sexual restrictions placed on women—emphasis on virginity—not permitted much access to men before marriage • Almost no sexual restrictions placed on men

20. Why do women tend to be given low status is some societies? • Theory 1: women do not make large contributions to subsistence activities • Theory 2: cultures that rely on warfare value men more • Theory 3: politics is considered a male venture, so women are devalued • Theory 4: kin groups are often centered around husband’s family Questions about Hilary still abound as to whether she should ever be President…even the role of her husband overshadows her.

21. Marriage • Marriage: socially approved sexual and economic union between a man and a woman • Assumption that union is permanent • Requires obligations between spouses and future children • Marriage is universal—wedding act varies • Future of definition—gay marriage?????

22. Reasons Marriage is a Universal Ideal • Division of labor: men and women perform different tasks in the economy • Infant dependency & postpartum requirements: humans have longest dependency period of any primate, so therefore our women need help from men in order to support themselves & the child • Sexual competition between males • Males are prone to aggression and violence when competing for female love • Marriage minimalizes this rivalry

23. Rare Types of Marriage • Cheyenne Indians • Married men were permitted to take on berdaches (male transvestites) as 2nd wives • Berdaches were considered to be a 3rd gender with unique responsibilities • Worked in the home like a woman • Could go to war or take part in other “manly” activities • Often considered to be mystical and possess 2 spirits (male and female spirits) • Cheyenne viewed this as not being homosexual or heterosexual—European colonists simply saw it as homosexual and wrong • Azande of Sudan • Poorer Azande warriors could take part in temporary homosexual marriage • If they couldn’t afford a wife, they could marry a “boy-wife” to satisfy sexual and economic needs • Gifts had to be given to family of “boy-wife” as in a regular marriage—”boy-wife” was cheaper though Dance to the Berdache

24. Female-female marriages in African societies • Socially accepted marriages so a woman could take on roles of father and husband • Sexual relationships were not part of the union • “husband” may take over for a kinsman that left no heirs and assign various males to her wife to create heirs • “husbands” could be women wishing to gain status and political power in society so they take on role of a husband—again, no sex involved

25. Economic Aspects to Marriage • Bride price • Bride service • Dowry

26. Important Terms: • Arranged marriages • Indian caste marriages • Exogamy • Endogamy

27. More important terms • Levirate • Sororate • Monogamy

28. Yet, even more important terms • Polygyny • Polyandry • Polygamy

29. The Family Setup • Nuclear family • Matrifocal family • Patrifocal family • Matrilocal family • Patrilocal family • Bilocal residence • Neolocal residence

30. Rules of Descent • Patrilineal descent • Matrilineal descent • Ambilineal descent

31. Kinship Terminology • Classificatory terms: mother, father, sister, brother, aunt, uncle, cousin, etc. • Consanguineal kin • Affinal kin