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1. Gateway Regional High SchoolHarassment, Intimidation, and Bullying Prevention Program2013-2014Support Staff, Coaches, Volunteers, Substitutesand Contracted Service Providers Strauss Esmay Associates, LLP School Policy & Regulation Consultants 1886 Hinds Road – Suite 1 Toms River, New Jersey 08753 732-255-1500 www.straussesmay.com

2. Gateway Regional High SchoolHarassment, Intimidation, and Bullying Prevention ProgramQuiz Facts and Myths

3. Strauss Esmay Associates’2011-2012 HIB Prevention Training Program 2011-2012 Training Program is based on: Anti-Bullying Bill of Rights Act signed into law on January 5, 2011 New Jersey Department of Education Guidance published on April 11, 2011

4. IntroductionStart – 4:36

5. HIB Prevention Training ProgramDefinition of HIB “Harassment, intimidation, or bullying” means any gesture, any written, verbal or physical act or any electronic communication, whether it is a single incident or a series of incidents, that is: reasonably perceived as being motivated by either any actual or perceived characteristic, such as race, color, religion, ancestry, national origin, gender, sexual orientation, gender identity and expression, or a mental, physical or sensory disability; or by any other distinguishing characteristic; and that takes place on school property, at any school-sponsored function, on a school bus, or off school grounds, as provided for in N.J.S.A. 18A:37-15.3, that substantially disrupts or interferes with the orderly operation of the school or the rights of other pupils; and that

6. HIB Prevention Training ProgramDefinition of HIB a reasonable person should know under the circumstances will have the effect of physically or emotionally harming a pupil or damaging the pupil’s property, or placing a pupil in reasonable fear of physical or emotional harm to his/her person or damage to his/her property, or has the effect of insulting or demeaning any pupil or group of pupils, or creates a hostile educational environment for the pupil by interfering with a pupil’s education or by severely or pervasively causing physical or emotional harm to the pupil.

7. HIB Prevention Training ProgramHIB Reporting Procedure All Board members, school employees, volunteers, and contracted service providers who have contact with students are required to: verbally report alleged violations to the Principal or designee on the same day the individual witnessed or received reliable information regarding any such incident; and must submit a report in writing to the Principal within two days of the verbal report.

8. HIB Prevention Training ProgramHIB Reporting Procedure Students, parents, and visitors are encouraged to report alleged violations of the HIB Policy to the Principal when they have witnessed or received reliable information regarding any such incident. A HIB act can be reported anonymously. However, formal action for a violation of the Student Code of Conduct may not be taken solely on the basis of an anonymous report.

9. HIB Reporting Procedure You must report an incident verbally and in written form to the principal. Students can use the electronic reporting systems on the Gateway website complete a report at the main or guidance offices tell an adult use the hotline at 848-3420 x 690

10. Forms of Bullying& Bullies, Targets, and Bystanders35:15-46:20

11. Characteristics of Individuals Who Bully Have a need to control and dominate others Are quick tempered and impulsive Take pleasure in seeing someone or an animal in distress Find it difficult to see a situation from another person’spoint of view Refuse to take responsibility or deny wrong doing Blame the target or say they deserved what they got Good at talking their way out of situations Intolerant of differences Feel superior Insensitive to the feelings or needs of others--a lack of empathy

12. Characteristics of Targets Low self-esteem Anxiety Fearfulness Submissiveness Depression or sad appearance Limited sense of humor Poor social skills Low popularity Few or no friends Excessive dependence on adults Or them may be someone who is different in physical or cultural characteristics who is envied by the bully or who is competing with the bully for dominance in the social group

13. HIB Prevention Training ProgramBystanders Bystanders are important because: Bullying most often takes place in front of peers. Bullying almost never happens when adults are watching. Most bystanders want to do something to stop the bully. Bullies like an audience. If the audience shows disapproval, the bullies are discouraged from continuing. Bystanders can make a situation even worse by: instigating the bullying by prodding the bully to begin; encouraging the bullying by laughing, cheering, or making comments that further stimulate the bully; joining in the bullying once it has begun; passively accepting bullying by watching and doing nothing; or providing the audience a bully craves.

14. HIB Prevention Training Program Bystanders Silence encourages bullying The best way to break the silence is to empower kids to feel safe and supported when they stand up to the bullies on behalf of other kids, or tell an adult about the bullying. We need to remind children that this is not tattling; it’s doing the right thing. Why is it bystanders don’t intervene more often? None of my business Fear of becoming a target Feel powerless Don’t like the target Fear retribution Telling adults won’t help or may even make it worse Don’t know what to do

15. HIB Prevention Training ProgramSupport Staff Members Bullying is more likely to occur in less structured settings often those with limited adult supervision, such as hallways, playgrounds, locker rooms, cafeterias, and on school buses. At times, school support staff members are more likely to be present in these locations than teaching staff. Support staff members also interact with students on a different level and can have of insight and provide feedback into a student’s behavior or into an incident that has occurred. Some students may be more inclined to report incidents of bullying to support staff members.

16. HIB Prevention Training Program Appropriate and Effective Intervention Strategies Appropriate and effective interventions always include: • Immediately responding to the incident using a calm, rational, but firm tone of voice • Using body language that communicates authority, but does not invade the personal space of any student involved in the incident • Actions or verbal responses that do not cause embarrassment or a loss of emotion, or provoke vulnerable and/or overly sensitive reactions

17. HIB Prevention Training Program Appropriate and Effective Intervention Strategies Appropriate and effective interventions always include: • Positioning yourself between the students using bullying behavior and the student being bullied, so that you can block eye contact between the two to prevent gestures that would allow continued victimization or escalation of the incident. • Taking the attention off the student(s) who was being targeted. • Paying close attention to the student or students who were being targeted: taking notice of their actions and reactions, words, body language, and any behavior or expression that communicates fear for their own safety and/or verbalizes a retaliation plan towards the bully.

18. HIB Prevention Training Program Appropriate and Effective Intervention Strategies Appropriate and effective interventions always include: • Addressing the students who were in the area and may have witnessed the incident, as well as those involved • Informing all students involved in the incident of what steps you will take next, and that you will be reporting this incident to the administration • Supporting and following up with all students involved in the incident • Monitoring future behaviors • Verbalizing future behavioral expectations that will not permit retaliation of any kind

19. HIB Prevention Training Program Appropriate and Effective Intervention Strategies Appropriate and effective interventions never include: • Removing or separating the student or students who are being targeted from the initial intervention • Doubting the fact that you have the responsibility to intervene • Ignoring the incident • Accepting the attitudes of “just teasing”, “just kidding”, “boys will be boys”, “you’re friends, you can work it out” • Engaging in verbal or physical arguments/disputes

20. HIB Prevention Training Program Appropriate and Effective Intervention Strategies Appropriate and effective interventions never include: • Displaying your anger • Making accusations or excuse bullying, teasing, threatening or intimidating behavior • Leaving the incident with the student(s) who is being victimized alone with the student(s) who is using the bullying/harassing behavior • Relying on or assigning a student to report a bullying/harassment incident to administration. It is your responsibility to report the incident!

21. Q & A Workshop Session1:08:58 – 1:21:11

22. Affirmative ActionJoan MattsonAffirmative Action OfficerInformation from GCJIFF1:08:58 – 1:21:11

23. The LawTwo Major SourcesTitle VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964-”discrimination based on race, color, creed, national origin, and sex is illegal.”NJ LAD (Law Against Discrimination) N.J.S.A. 10:5-1 1:08:58 – 1:21:11

24. 2 Types of Sexual Harassment“Quid Pro Quo.” This for that.E.g. a supervisor wants to date you, and in return you will get the promotion.Hostile Environment (Work or Learning)The behavior is severe, repeated, or widespread; a reasonable person of the same sex would agree that the behavior changed the conditions of employment.E.g. repeated unwelcome sexual comments make you so uncomfortable, it affects your job.1:08:58 – 1:21:11

25. Examples of Sexual HarassmentConstantly invites you for drinks, dinners, dates;Invades your personal space;Makes obvious sexual gestures at you;Asks questions about your personal & sexual life;Writes, draws, and or sends pictures, cartoons, cards, etc., which are sexually offensive to you;1:08:58 – 1:21:11

26. District Liability • Gateway Regional must: • Have a written policy stating sexual harassment in the workplace and educational environment will not be tolerated. • Have a Complaint Procedure. • Distribute the Policy as widely as possible. • Key Role for Affirmative Action Officer.

27. Work Place Harassment • Harassment any unwelcome verbal, written or physical conduct that either denigrates or shows hostility or aversion towards a person on the basis of race, sex, color, national origin, religion, sexual orientation, age, veteran status, political affiliation, or disability, that: (1) has the purpose or effect of creating an intimidating, hostile or offensive work environment; (2) has the purpose or effect of unreasonably interfering with an employee's work performance; or (3) affects an employee's employment opportunities or compensation.