How to Live with an Adolescent. Parenting Workshop #2 League Academy of Communication Arts Merry L. Cox, Principal. The Roller-Coaster Years: Raising Your Child Through the Maddening Yet Magical Middle School Years. by Charlene C. Giannetti, Margaret Sagarese.
Parenting Workshop #2
League Academy of Communication Arts
Merry L. Cox, Principal
by Charlene C. Giannetti, Margaret Sagarese
Imagine for a moment what life is like for children ages 10-15 today…
“The biggest challenge in dealing with this age group is their roller-coaster emotions.”
(Middle School teacher from Washington)
told what to do
Do you feel your adolescent child…
Parents, when your child says, “Leave me alone,” take another look…
What your child may be trying to say is,
“I want more privacy than you are giving me now. But don’t go too far. I might need you later.”
According to a 1995 New York Times Poll:
“My son or daughter fun?
Are we talking about the same kid?”
Middlers are really three children-
Still look at the world in wide-eyed wonder
Begin to develop a sophisticated
sense of humor
Leave them in charge
Encourage their enthusiasm
Assist them in finding ways to help others
Feed their intellectual growth
Build a bridge from home to school
Ease the transition from childhood to adulthood
Teach correct social behavior
Find a moment each day to show your middle school child how much you love them.
Coping is a challenge for all of us
Classic Worries of Middlers
What to do? Unconditional love.
Help them manage worry
What can we do?
Battle for Independence
Incorporate the three R’s:
Reward, Recognize, and be Rational
As you encounter the battle campaigns of the Middlers, make sure you don’t win the short term battles and lose the war by forfeiting their affections.
It is not easy being a parent.
Why is your Middler
Distracted, Disorganized, and Disinterested?
Distraction – Concentration on tasks for a length of time is difficult
Research shows that between the ages of 12-14 a child’s ability to learn slacks off when demands in classes may be increasing.
What should I expect?
Do you find your Middler to be Disorganized?
What can I do to help with Disorganization?
Disinterested – Interests shift during this age
Stop-Look-Listen – approach to communication
Three Rules for 3-D Middlers
“A good parent’s involvement is always welcomed when it leads to a partnership among parent, child, and teacher.”
(Middle school teacher)
Grades alone do not define a successful adolescent
How can I help my Middler succeed in school?
Parents should be seen and not heard
(at least in a Middler’s presence)
Stay informed and help keep us informed!
Next Parent Workshop
Date – March 26th
Noon and 6:30