WHAT ABOUT US?. Strengthening Your Marriage After Children Arrive. SARAH PATTERSON M.S.W, R.S.W. Registered Social Worker & Psychotherapist Individual & Couple Counselling www.sarahpattersoncounselling.com (905) 630-4727. AGENDA.
Strengthening Your Marriage After Children Arrive
Registered Social Worker & Psychotherapist
Individual & Couple Counselling
-Nora Efron, in the novel Heartburn (1983, p. 158)
- John Gottman
(Belsky & Kelly ,1994)
Despite the joy surrounding the birth of a child, numerous studies have documented a robust decline in marital satisfaction across the transition to parenthood.
(Cowan & Cowan, 1999.)
We think we hear something mean and we snap!
Accepting influence from our partner involves:
In dealing with your emotions, your sexual relationship, your expectations and the nitty-gritty of who does what within the family, couples are grappling with issues of staying in touch with each other while sometimes being pulled in different directions.
Be aware of, and come to terms with, painful childhood experiences so that you can now create new, healthier patterns in your family.
When men are involved in the care of their children, they feel better about themselves, their wives feel better about themselves and they both feel better about their relationship.
Be willing to rock the boat by stopping escalating arguments and come back to discussions that became hurtful or unproductive, in order to figure out what went wrong.
The Transition to Parenthood, Belsky, J., & Kelly, J. 1994.
When Partners Become Parents: The Big Life Change for Couples, Cowan, C., & Cowan, P. 1999.
And Baby Makes Three, Gottman, J.M., & Gottman, J.S. 2007.