How to Build a Positive and Supportive Relationship with the Surrogate

1. h How to Build a Positive and Supportive Relationship with the Surrogate

2. The surrogacy process is a complex and emotional journey that combines legal, medical, and emotional aspects. Beyond the technical and procedural elements, the personal relationship between the intended parents and the surrogate serves as a cornerstone for the success of the process. Building a positive and respectful relationship requires careful attention to cultural differences, open communication, and mutual sensitivity to the needs and boundaries of each party. 2

3. Understanding Cultural and Background Differences – Building Trust and Reciprocity In most cases, the surrogate comes from a country with a culture significantly different from that of the intended parents. These differences may manifest in perspectives on family, pregnancy, and childbirth, and sometimes in the surrogate’s perception of her role in the process. For example, a couple from the U.S. meeting a surrogate from Eastern Europe for the first time was excited and asked many questions about her health and personal life. Despite their good intentions, some questions were perceived as intrusive, causing discomfort. After consulting with a local professional, the couple learned how to communicate with her in a more appropriate and respectful manner, which enabled them to build a strong relationship moving forward. 2

4. Effective and Adapted Communication Throughout the Process Principles for Effective Communication: Language Mediation: In cases where there is a language barrier, it is recommended to use a translator for significant conversations, especially at the beginning of the process. Genuine Care Beyond the Medical: Beyond questions related to medical tests, show genuine interest in the surrogate’s emotional state and personal life. Questions such as “How are you feeling?” or “How is your family coping with the process?” reflect sincere and supportive concern. Structured Financial Management: It is advisable to handle financial matters through a mediator, such as the facilitating agency. Direct communication on financial issues may lead to misunderstandings or discomfort, especially regarding additional expenses. 2

5. Key Considerations: • Medical Privacy: Handle the surrogate’s medical information delicately and respect her privacy. It is recommended to involve professionals when addressing significant matters. • Emotional Support: Pregnancy in general, and especially within the framework of surrogacy, can be accompanied by emotional challenges. It is important to be as supportive and understanding as possible. Preparation for Birth – Maintaining Sensitivity and Reciprocity The birth stage is the climax of the surrogacy process but can also be accompanied by emotional tension for all parties involved. • Presence During Birth: Confirm with the surrogate in advance whether she is comfortable with your presence in the delivery room, and if so, under what conditions. It is important to clarify expectations and coordinate them with the local medical team. • Emotional Support During Birth: Acknowledging the surrogate’s feelings can help create a more positive experience for everyone. 2

6. CONTACT US Tammuz family is available for you at any time for any questions. For more details, please contact us. Visit Us - www.tammuz.com Phone-0737838058 Email - info@tammuz.com 2