Lecture #8 Leadership • Jennifer Nichols and Connie Goodbread
S-H-I-F-T • S-elf differentiated leader leads through presence and functioning not technique and data • Presence - being • Functioning - doing
Parker Palmer - Page 25 • “the profoundly opposite truths that my sense of self is deeply dependent on others dancing with me and that I still have a self when no one wants to dance” - The Courage to Teach
Pages 28 - 30 • Leader’s Notebook - Undifferentiation/Differentiation Contrast - Crucial to the balancing act is a person’s capacity to think clearly, observe, reflect on situations, and base choices and behaviors on principles.
Homeostasis • The tendency for every system, both physical and emotional, to spring back to its original form
Identified Patient • The one we blame - can be a person, group or thing.
Symptom Bearer • The most vulnerable person in the system.
Symptom Bearer • If the Identified Patient does not take on the anxiety being pushed their way they will not become the Symptom Bearer.
Family Field • The baggage that we bring to every group that we join from our up bringing.
Triangulation • The desire to give the anxiety that belongs to you to others. • Only complete if accepted.
Review • S-elfdifferentiation • H-omeostasis • I-dentified Patient • F-amily Field • T-riangulation
Nanny McPhee • Watch the movie scene.
Servant Leadership • Servant-Leadership is a practical philosophy which supports people who choose to serve first, and then lead as a way of expanding service to individuals, institutions, values and principles. Servant-leaders may or may not hold formal leadership positions. Servant-leadership encourages collaboration, trust, foresight, listening, and the ethical use of power and empowerment. - Greenleaf
Mark Chapter 10 verses 35-45 The Request of James and John Servant Leadership
Servant Leadership • 1. Listening • 2. Empathy • 3. Healing • 4. Awareness • 5. Persuasion • 6. Conceptualization • 7. Foresight • 8. Stewardship • 9. Commitment to the Growth • of People • 10. Building Community
Arrogance Humility Hopeless Hopeful Blame Victim Covenant Action
Leadership • The bad leader is hated by the people. The good leader is loved by the people. The great leader leaves the people understanding they did it themselves. • Taoist Saying