Couples and Money. The Last Taboo. JERROLD LEE SHAPIRO, Ph.D. Professor, Santa Clara University Licensed Clinical Psychologist, Los Altos Father of a daughter and a son Frequent soccer and little league coach. OPENING QUESTIONS.
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The Last Taboo
Professor, Santa Clara University
Licensed Clinical Psychologist, Los Altos
Father of a daughter and a son
Frequent soccer and little league coach
When it comes to money and financial matters, it is common for members of a couple to have differences of opinion
Make a list of cliché’s about money that were present in your home when you were growing up.
Compare your list with that of your partner.
What are the similarities? What are the Differences?
What do you find disquieting about your personal relationship to money? (i.e. saving/spending patterns)?
What do you find disquieting about your partner’s relationship to money?
When it comes to emotional topics,
(fathers and mothers)
What Differences do you see in others?
MOTHERS DO IT
FROM THE INSIDE -- OUT
The Corpus Callosum
Women’s (mothers’) unbreakable invisible emotional umbilical cord
Serial problem solving
Men’s based on the life and death implications of hunting and war
What does all this have to do with
More reliance on budget
Solving problems by increasing earnings
silence under stress
will tend to blame
Focus on internal reality, changing feelings
Reliance on current needs
identify problems to be discussed
will talk when under stress
will tend to blameAs in all personal conversations
Recognize that unilateral actions around money may be experienced as BETRAYAL by a partner. Set agreements on budgets; Make changes in agreements prior to acting on them.