Waiting for the Right Time Lesson 3. Do right!. From the very start, have purpose in your heart – To do the right and never question why. Never count the cost though everything seems lost, The price for doing right is sometimes high.
From the very start, have purpose in your heart –
To do the right and never question why.
Never count the cost though everything seems lost, The price for doing right is sometimes high.
Do right ‘til the stars fall, do right ‘til the last call, Do right when there’s no one else to stand by you.
Do right when you’re all alone,
do right though it’s never known,
do right since you love the Lord –
do right, do right!
Right is always right, and wrong is always wrong,
And we must learn to separate the two.
If you love the right, the Lord will give you light,
So seek the right in everything you do!
Do right ‘til the stars fall, do right ‘til the last call,
Do right when there’s no one else to stand by you.
Do right when you’re all alone,
Do right though it’s never known,
Do right since you love the Lord –
Do right, do right!
What is Purity?
Innocence and absence of temptation; free from moral fault or guilt, marked by chastity
Once there was a boy who saw a cocoon and from it a butterfly was struggling to come out. The boy wanting to see and play with the butterfly, thought it best if he could help it get out of the cocoon.
So the boy tore through the cocoon so that the butterfly could more easily come out.
It did come out, but it was just a caterpillar with shriveled wings.
The butterfly needed to come out of the cocoon slowly for it to ‘activate’ the muscles that would develop its wings.
If the boy had waited, he could have seen the butterfly in its full splendor.
Can we connect this story with true love?
In the same way we have to wait for love. Like the boy, you could also tear the cocoon, or have a bf/gf while studying or have an intimate physical relationship with another person even while you are not married… butthat action hasconsequences.
If we wait, we will be able to see and experience TRUE LOVE!
A Group Exercise – 10 minutes
Lesson: Like the rosebuds you tried to open, love is not something we can force to bloom. We can try to make love bloom (just like we did with the rose) but it would get the same result – A mess! If we really want to experience true and beautiful love, we need to allow it to bloom in its own time.
- The Christian conviction is to be in an exclusive relationship with the clear intent of marrying that person.
Measure of Readiness:
The following practical facts prove why it is wise to save sex and physical intimacy for marriage:
Fact 1: AIDS and STDs
AIDS and sexually transmitted diseases are acquired, and can be gotten through a single contact.
Fact 2: Unwanted pregnancy
Teenage pregnancy is on the rise, even in churches. Having a child is a great responsibility. It is a blessing from God and should never be labeled as an ‘accident.’ Think for a moment how life would change for you if you learned that you were pregnant. What kind of life would that be?
Fact 3: Emotional toll
Relationships and pre-marital sex can lead to guilt, anger, bitterness, loss of self-esteem, self-respect, and damaged reputation. This can lead to depression, and the teen can turn to drugs or alcohol to remove the pain.
It can also lead to emotional baggage in their married life. The ‘first time’ is always a symbol of fidelity – what happens if it is given away before marriage?
Activity 1: What will I say to what they say?
Write possible pressure lines and then discuss what answers you can give in order to keep pure. Practice answering pressure lines you will hear when you get into compromising situations.
Activity 2: What should I do?
Each group to write down two lists.
Q: What if I have already committed fornication (pre-marital sex) or engaged in pornography, or any other sin of impurity, can I still be take the purity vow?
God is a God of new beginnings. He will forgive you. But you must rely on Christ to give you self-control over your body. Only He can free you from the bondage of your addiction and sin, and give you the VICTORY!
I Thessalonians 5:19-23
19 Quench not the Spirit.
20 Despise not prophesyings.
21 Prove all things; hold fast that which is good.
22 Abstain from all appearance of evil.
23 And the very God of peace sanctify you wholly; and I pray God your whole spirit and soul and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.
24 Faithful is He that calleth you, who also will do it.
What is an accountability partner? (Ecc 4:10)
He or she is someone who has agreed to be ‘accountable’ and sees to it that the person who signed the pledge card follows through with his/her commitment to be pure. His/Her main task is to be a concerned person willing to give encouragement, friendship, attention, love and rebuke (if necessary).
How do I find the right accountability partner?
Pray to God and ask Him for guidance, and commit to searching for the right accountability partner for you. You need to have at least 1 AP
What are the qualifications of an accountability partner?
Your AP should be older than you. They should be able to understand what concerns you face on a day to day basis. He/She must be the same gender as you, and must be growing or mature Christian (not someone who is stagnant, cold, or backslidden). He must be willing to take responsibility as your AP. He must also know the seminar material. You need to be able to talk to him/her, and you are not afraid to approach him/her with sensitive issues.
You may encounter some problems with the AP you selected, but this should not discourage you. Satan will do his best to keep you from reaching your goal.
Prayer for ForgivenessEach person who will commit a lifetime of purity to God is encouraged to ask for forgiveness, and have a moment of silent prayer at this time.
Psa 37:5 Commit thy way unto the LORD; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.
Pro 16:3 Commit thy works unto the LORD, and thy thoughts shall be established.
1Co 10:13 There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.