7 Habits Reading/Response

1. 7 Habits Reading/Response Read pages 8 (What Exactly are Habits?) through page 9. Change the Bad to Good!! Make a list of Bad Habits you currently have in the following categories and then think of a Good Habit you can replace it with. In School (list 3) With My Family (list 3) With My Friends (list 3) Other (list 2)

2. 7 Habits Reading/Response • Read pages 11-16 (Paradigms of Self) • Stop before Paradigms of Others • After reading, answer the following questions/prompts: • Some positive paradigms I have about myself are: • If someone were going to name something after me, it would be: • Some negative paradigms I have about myself are: • Paradigms that my parents or guardians, boss at work, or teachers at school might have about me are:

3. 7 Habits Reading/Response • Read pages 16-18 • Answer the following prompt about paradigms of others – • Someone I may have judged inaccurately without having all the details is: • I will change that paradigm by (describe the actions you can take immediately): • Answer the following prompt about paradigms of life – • What is the driving force of my life? What do I spend my time thinking about? Who or what is my obsession? * Whatever is important to you will become your paradigm, your glasses, or your life center.

4. 7 Habits Reading/Response • Read pages 19-25 • Think of principles as your life center and your hobbies and interests as spokes on the wheel. • Make a wheel with 8 spokes at least (like the one on the board). Write the word principles in the middle and fill in the spokes with your principles • What are some principles you identified that you would like to “grow” or “make more of”? • I will make more of them by: (list some actions you can take to develop these principles more) • The date I will begin doing this is:

5. 7 Habits Reading/Response • Read pages 27 (A word about Baby Steps) and 28 • Choose 3 baby steps you would like to start taking and list them. • What do you think you will learn in life from taking these baby steps?

6. 7 Habits Reading/Response • Read pages 31-33 ( The Personal Bank Acct.) • Complete this sentences: • If I could change one thing about the world, it would be … • One change I could make in myself that might help bring about that worldwide change is… • I think that an inside-out change could help others around me because…

7. 7 Habits Reading/Response • Read pages 34-35 and STOP after “keep promises to yourself” • Answer the following prompts/questions: • When I promise myself I will do something and don’t keep the promise, I feel… • The promise to myself I wish I could keep, but keep failing to do is… • The reason I can’t keep this promise is because… • The 2 or 3 little promises to myself that, if done, would help me keep the big promise are: ____________, _____________, ______________

8. 7 Habits Reading/Response • Read the “Do Small Acts of Kindness” section on page 35-37 and complete the statements below. • Three people in my life who could benefit from an act of kindness are: • 1. • 2. • 3. • An anonymous act of kindness I could do for each of the 3 people I listed is: • 1. • 2. • 3.

9. 7 Habits Reading/Response • Read pages 37 (Be Gentle with Yourself) through page 44 • Have you ever watched those TV shows that search for the worlds most talented person? Have you seen other shows that encourage you to send in a home video of yourself doing something outrageous? • If a TV camera crew came to my home to film me doing a crazy talent, I would start doing: • My closet friend would say that my craziest talent is: • My closest friend’s craziest talent is: “All of us are crazy good in one way or another.” – Yiddish Saying

10. 7 Habits Reading/Response • Read pages 48-50 (Habit 1 – Be Proactive) • Answer the following prompts: • I tend to be most reactive: (when & where) • I tend to be the most proactive: (when & where) • The difficult challenge in life I’m faced with right now is: • I can face the challenge today and become a change agent by: (describe your actions)

11. 7 Habits Reading/Response • Read pages 51 and answer the following questions • I think my language is mostly: • A phrase I use a lot that is proactive is: • A phrase I use a lot that is reactive is: • I can replace my reactive phrases with the following proactive phrases: • Someone in my life who is a really good example of how to use proactive langauge is:

12. 7 Habits Reading/Response • Read pages 52-55 • Make a circle of control as seen on page 55 • In the inner circle, list some things you can control in your life • In the outer circle, list some things you can’t control • One thing in my Circle of No Control that I constantly worry about is: • I can stop worrying about that one thing by:

13. 7 Habits Reading/Response • Read pages 56-60 • Complete the following prompts for response to your reading: • One habit that has been passed down to me that I would like to change or improve is: • The history of the bad habit is: (where did it come from and how has it affected your family’s life) • This bad habit has affected my life in these ways: • By changing that bad habit, my life will be different in these ways: • To change that bad habit, I can do the following every day:

14. 7 Habits Reading/Response • Read pages 61-65 • Answer the following prompts: • A Can Do person I admire is: • This person is a “can do” person because: • Their “can do” attitude helped this person overcome the following obstacles: • By having a “can do” attitude, this person has had the following successes: • An obstacle in my life that is preventing me from accomplishing my goal is: • I can use the “can do” approach to overcome this obstacle by:

15. 7 Habits Reading/Response • Read pages 66-70 • Sometimes you don’t think about what you are doing…you just do it! Someone pushes yu and you push back. To make smarter decisions, use your toolbox of human tools! • Choose one of the human tools. Imagine you are a personal trainer for the human tool that you chose. Design a training program on your own program to strengthen the human tool.

16. 7 Habits Reading/Response • Read page 74 – The Crossroads of Life on page 76 • Daily you face questions about issues that will affect your future beginning right now. Decide now how you will respond to these questions before you face them and have to decide without thinking. • Schoolwork: • Sex: • Drugs:

17. 7 Habits Reading/Response • Read, beginning on page 76, What About Friends, and continue reading to page 80 • My best friends and friends I hang out with are: • The fun stuff we do together is: • The interests we have in common is: • Someone I know who values education and learning in school is: • Having a vision of who and where you want to be in the future is important because: • The consequences of not having a vision are: • The choices I make as a teenager can affect me when I’m older in the following ways:

18. 7 Habits Reading/Response • Read pages 81-84 “A Personal Mission Statement” • In your book, complete pages 86-89 in “The Great Discovery” section • Craft your own mission statement! Answer the prompt: I will make a difference everyday by …

19. 7 Habits Reading/Response • Read pages 90-93 • Imagine you are walking down the hallway in your school. A girl/boy whom you’ve never seen before is walking in the opposite direction. Most likely the first thing you will notice about them is: • Does what you notice about them make you give them an instant label? Why or Why not? • What if your observation about the girl/boy is not right? How can you mentally remove the label you gave them? • A label I have put on someone in the past is: • I gave that person the label because: • The label affected the way I treated him/her because:

20. 7 Habits Reading/Response • Read page 94-101 (Go For the Goal) • Complete the statements below about how goals helped David: • Goals helped David get where he wanted to go because: • Some things that might have happened if David hadn’t set goals are: Now answer these questions for yourself: • My life can be different by setting goals because: • Setting goals helps me Begin with the End in Mind by:

21. 7 Habits Reading/Response • Read pages 106-109 (Habit 3 – Put First things First) • One way to fill your precious time with worthwhile activities is to identify your most important priorities RIGHT NOW. Then you can do the activities that support those priorities. • List 2 of your highest priorities on the left side of your paper and list the activities you will do to fulfill those priorities on the right side of the paper.

22. 7 Habits Reading/Response • Read pages 110-114 • Complete the survey to think about how much time you spend on each item in an average week • Attending classes • Attending religious events • Doing chores • Doing extracurricular activities • Doing homework • Dressing/Hygeine • Eating • Sleeping • Time with family • Time with friends • Studying • Working other Do I actually have more to do in one day than I have time for?

23. 7 Habits Reading /Response • Read p. 114-118 • Where do you spend your time? Do the things that matter the most to you fill up your day? • Where do you waste time? • When are you the most productive?

24. 7 Habits Reading /Response • Read p. 118-121 • Think of a time when you acted in the face of fear and took a risk to move outside of your comfort zone. What did you learn?

25. 7 Habits Reading /Response • Read p. 121-125 • Under what circumstances do you need ot step outside of your comfort zone and exercise more courage? • What holds you back form moving itno your courage zone? • How can you act more courageously?

26. 7 Habits Reading /Response • Read p. 125-127 • Congratulations! You are half way done with the book! • How much impact does peer pressure have on you? Identify the person or people who have the most influence upon you. Ask yourself, “Am I doing what I want to do or what they want me to do?”

27. 7 Habits Reading /Response • Read p. 131-135 “The Relationship Bank Account” • What is the most powerful deposit someone has mad into your RBA? • Copy the list of RBA deposits and RBA withdrawals from p. 134 into your journal. Star the 3 deposits that are your greatest strengths.

28. 7 Habits Reading /Response • Read p. 135-140 • “One kind word can warm three winter months” Japanese saying • Identify three small acts of kindness you can complete this week.

29. 7 Habits Reading /Response • Read p. 140-143 • Copy the baby steps (in bold) from page 144. • Identify one baby step you can complete for each of these 6 baby steps.

30. 7 Habits Reading /Response • Read p. 146-151 • Write about an experience where you had a win-lose mentality. How did you feel? Would you do things differently now?

31. 7 Habits Reading /Response • Read p. 151-154 • Write your definition of win-win thinking. • Complete the following sentences: • It is hardest for me to think win-win when: • It is easiest for me to think win-win when: • When I practice win-win thinking, I enjoy the following benefits:

32. 7 Habits Reading /Response • Read p. 154-158 • Competition is healthy when it’s approached with a good attitude. How has competition helped you? How has it hurt you? How do you handle competition?

33. 7 Habits Reading /Response • Read p. 159-162 • Think about your general attitude toward life. Is it based on Win-Lose, Lose-Win, Lose-Lose, or Win-Win thinking? How is that attitude affecting you? • Think of a person who you feel is a model of Win-Win. What is it about this person you admire?

34. 7 Habits Reading /Response • Read p. 164-167 • When was the last time you tried walking in someone else’s shoes? What was the experience like- actually trying to consider another person’s point of view or idea before sharing yours? • Describe what happened and what you learned

35. 7 Habits Reading /Response • Read p. 168-171 • Write your own definition of the following listening styles: • Spacing out: • Pretend listening: • Selective listening: • Word listening: • Self-Centered listening: • Genuine listening:

36. 7 Habits Reading /Response • Read p. 172-175 • Mirroring is repeating back in your own words what another person is saying and feeling. You don’t judge or give advice. • Write a mirroring response for each of the following situations. • “No, you are not going out tonight!” • “You said I was the only one you wanted to be with, but that’s not what I heard!”

37. 7 Habits Reading /Response • Read p. 176-180 • When do you have the most difficult time giving feedback to others? Why? • If you genuinely listen to another person, what happens when you then express your feelings, ideas, suggestions, or opinions? • What can you do to improve your practice of the second half of Habit 5, to be understood?

38. 7 Habits Reading /Response • Read p. 181-184 • To build and create synergy you have to look for it. You have to see that each individual is unique and value that uniqueness. Name some synergistic relationships in nature, in your school, and in your home.

39. 7 Habits Reading /Response • Read p. 185-189 • Complete the exercise on p. 187, add up your totals. • Find your fruit on p. 188-189 and review what this may mean to you. • Copy your fruit description in your journal entry today

40. 7 Habits Reading /Response • Read p. 190-193 • When have you gotten caught up in ignorance or prejudice? When someone makes a derogatory comment, how do you react? Write about how you view diversity in the world and what it means to you.

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