The Significant Other: Working With Parents. Hillary Holmes Itinerant Teacher of the Deaf and Hard of Hearing Rainbow District School Board.
Itinerant Teacher of the Deaf and Hard of Hearing
Rainbow District School Board
George Oberlander Jr.
Director of Syska & Hennessy Engineers (N.Y.)
Profound Hearing Loss
The Itinerant Teacher’s Handbook
Special Education Consultant
Applies to many aspects of life
which involve pain or loss.
Elizabeth Kubler-Ross - On Death and Dying
Strong feelings as the shock wears off
Overwhelmed –too much information
Confused –too many options
Need to over-protect the child
Anger -at the child
- at self
Shopping for cures and miracles
Angry with doctors and other professionals
Parents become active in politics of “deafness” while avoiding own child
“I have a deaf child and he will always be deaf.”
Measured by condition of child’s hearing aid
Seek professional counselling
“Come out of the closet”
Child offers parents a chance to grow
Recognition that deafness is not the end of the world
Move on with their life and focus on other children
Stages of Grieving
This child is not your child.
This parent is not your friend.
This journey is not yours to make,
But you may walk along for a time.