POLITENESS. Hanifa Rahmawati Bella Stita R. Firnant i a Lara L. Weni Agustiningrum Dwi Est i J.N. DEFINITION OF POLITENESS. Polite social behaviour within a certain culture.
Bella Stita R.
Firnantia Lara L.
a) Off- record askfor help indirectly, and say, in a voice loud enough for your neighbor to hear.
“I forget where I put my car key.I wish I could remember it.”
b) On- recorda speaker makes a suggestion request over or invitation in an open and direct way.
“Put your jacket away.”
c) Apology and Hesitationa question giving them the opportunity to say no.
1.“Sorry to bother you. I have been looking for my car key three times but I cannot find it. Do you mind to help me looking for my car key if you have nothing to do?”
2.“Wouldyou mind to help me looking for mycar key?”
Speakers can minimize the imposition by making it seems smaller than it is, or by adding devices such as hedges that mitigate the imposition.
“Would you mind moving just slightly? I can’t see the screen very clearly.”
Strategies aim to save positive face, by demonstrating closeness and solidarity, appealing to friendship, making other people feel good, and emphasizing that both speakers have a common goal.
“I know you hate live music concert, Anne, but, please come anyway. We’ll all be there. Daniel and his girlfriend are going to come too. Come on-can’t wait for Dream Theater concert! Rock the night!”
maximize benefit to other; minimize benefit to self.
“You relax and let me do the dishes.”
b) Approbation and modesty:
minimize dispraise of other; and maximize praise of other.
“You’d better go with Daniel, his car is more luxuriousthan mine.”
c) Agreement:“minimize disagreement between self and other” and “maximize agreement between self and other”
“Yes, yes, but if you do that it will make her dissapointed.”
d) Sympathy:“minimize antipathy between self and other” and “maximize sympathy between self and other”
“I am sorry to hear that.”
e) Overlaps and Gaps:one utterance can contain both positive and negative politeness.
“You may make a party tonight in your roombut don’t be too noisy.”
Politeness lies not in the form and the words themselves but in their function and intended social meaning. The form is polite, but the intention is not polite.