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Managing Interpersonal Conflicts. Chapter Summary. The Nature of Conflict Conflict Styles Conflict in Relational Systems Constructive Conflict Skills Constructive Conflict: Questions and Answers. Looking Out , Looking In 12 th Edition. The Nature of Conflict. Conflict Defined.

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managing interpersonal conflicts

Managing Interpersonal Conflicts

  • Chapter Summary
  • The Nature of Conflict
  • Conflict Styles
  • Conflict in Relational Systems
  • Constructive Conflict Skills
  • Constructive Conflict: Questions and Answers

Looking Out, Looking In

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the nature of conflict

The Nature of Conflict

  • Conflict Defined
  • All interpersonal conflicts share certain characteristics:
    • Expressed Struggle
    • Perceived Incompatible Goals
    • Perceived Scarce Resources
    • Interdependence
    • Interference from the Other Party

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the nature of conflict1

The Nature of Conflict

  • Conflict is Natural
  • Every relationship of any depth has conflict.
  • College students report that they take part in about seven arguments a week.
  • You can always change the way you deal with conflict.

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The Nature of Conflict

  • Conflict Can Be Beneficial
  • You cannot avoid conflict.
  • You can handle conflicts differently.
  • Many satisfied couples think and communicate differently when they disagree.

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conflict styles

Conflict Styles

  • Four Types
  • Avoiding (Lose-Lose)
  • Accommodating (Lose-Win)
  • Competing (Win-Lose)
  • Compromise (Lose-Lose)

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Conflict Styles

  • Avoiding (Lose-Lose)
  • Avoiding occurs when people ignore a problem.
  • Avoidance displays a pessimistic view conflict management.
  • Avoiding may keep peace temporarily, but it doesn’t lead to satisfying relationships.

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Conflict Styles

  • Accommodating (Lose-Win)
  • When you allow others to have their way rather than asserting your point of view
  • “Taking one for the team” is different than a lifetime accommodator.
  • Culture
    • High-Context
    • Low-Context

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Conflict Styles

  • Competing (Win-Lose)
  • Clear-cut winner and loser
    • I get what I want or you get what you want.
  • Passive Aggression
    • Expressing hostility in obscure or manipulative ways
  • Direct Aggression
    • Criticism that threatens the face of a person

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Conflict Styles

  • Compromise (Partial Lose-Lose)
  • Both parties get some of what they want.
  • Much like meeting halfway
  • Although it seems like the most effective sort of conflict management, it is not.
    • How happy would you be with only half of what you needed?

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Conflict Styles

  • Collaborating (Win-Win)
  • Collaborators show a high degree of concern for themselves and others.
  • The goal of collaboration is to find a solution that meets the needs of everyone involved:
    • Requires competent communicators
  • Win-Win solutions change depending on the parties involved.

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Conflict Styles

  • Which Style to Use
  • When facing a conflict consider the following:
    • The Relationship
      • When some has more power than you, accommodation might work.
    • The Situation
      • Different situations call for different conflict styles.
    • The Other Person
      • Sometimes the other person isn’t willing to collaborate.
    • Your Goals
      • Sometime your concern will calm a situation down.

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conflict in relational systems

Conflict in Relational Systems

  • Styles
  • Complementary Style
    • The parties use different but mutually reinforcing behaviors.
  • Symmetrical Style
    • Both parties use the same behaviors.
  • Parallel Style
    • Both partners shift between complementary and symmetrical styles.

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Conflict in Relational Systems

  • Intimate and Aggressive Styles
  • Nonintimate-Aggressive
    • The parties fight but are unsuccessful at resolution.
  • Nonintimate-Nonaggressive
    • The parties avoid conflict and each other.
  • Intimate-Aggressive
    • Upsetting to outsiders but works within the relationship
  • Intimate-Nonaggressive
    • Low amount of attacking or blaming

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variables in conflict style

Variables in Conflict Style

  • Gender
  • Men and women approach conflicts differently.
  • Adolescent boys tend to use direct aggression.
  • Adolescent girls tend to use indirect aggression.
  • Gender conflict style is stereotyped and not always the same.

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Variables in Conflict Style

  • Culture
  • The way we handle conflict depends on cultural background.
  • Individualist cultures value the opinion of the person.
  • Collectivist cultures tend to focus on the groups needs.
  • Culture is an influence on conflict style - not the cause.

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constructive conflict skills

Constructive Conflict Skills

  • Identify Your Problem and Needs
  • Before you speak out, find out what is important.
  • Realizing a problem is yours makes a big difference.
  • Sometimes the task of identifying your needs is not as easy as you thought. It’s better to complete this step on your own.

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Constructive Conflict Skills

  • Make a Date
  • Decide when would be the best time to discuss your problems.
  • Allow both parties time to prepare so neither feels ambushed.
  • If you cannot set a date, ask probing questions:
    • “Something's been bothering me. Can we talk about it?”

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Constructive Conflict Skills

  • Describe Your Problem and Needs
  • Once a problem has been stated and described, it’s important to make sure your partner has understood.
  • You cannot expect your partner to paraphrase all of your thoughts, so allow the discussion to flow freely.
  • Be absolutely sure your partner understands the whole message before proceeding.

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Constructive Conflict Skills

  • Your Partners Point of View
  • Consider your partner’s point of view.
    • Once you’ve made your position clear, make sure you understand your partner’s position.
  • Your partner has just as much right to feel satisfied as you.
  • Asking isn’t enough; remember to listen.

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Constructive Conflict Skills

  • Negotiate a Solution
  • Identify and define the conflict.
  • Generate a number of possible solutions.
  • Evaluate the alternative solutions.
  • Decide on the best solution.

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Constructive Conflict Skills

  • Follow Up the Solution
  • Try the solution first.
  • If the solution doesn’t work, go back the last step that did.
  • Remember how you arrived at this solution.
  • Follow each step in order.
  • Sometimes Win-Win solutions are not possible.
  • Be realistic about conflict resolution.

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constructive conflicts questions and answers

Constructive Conflicts: Questions and Answers

  • Questions and Answers
  • Isn’t the Win-Win approach too good to be true?
    • Not only is it a good idea, it actually works.
    • Research shows it produces better results than the Win-Lose.
  • Isn’t the Win-Win approach too elaborate?
    • Sometimes the approach is not as effective as others.
    • If the process seems time consuming, consider the alternative.

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Constructive Conflicts: Questions and Answers

  • Questions and Answers
  • Isn’t the Win-Win approach too rational?
    • If you’re too angry to attempt the Win-Win approach, you may need to take some time to cool down before the process will be successful.
    • If you cannot control your emotions, let your partner know that what you’re about to say does not need a response.
  • Is it possible to change others?
    • You will not always be able to convince others to try this method.
    • The key lies in showing that it’s in your partner’s best interest.

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Managing Interpersonal Conflicts

  • Chapter Summary
  • The Nature of Conflict
  • Conflict Styles
  • Conflict in Relational Systems
  • Constructive Conflict Skills
  • Constructive Conflict: Questions and Answers

Looking Out, Looking In

12th Edition