EXCELLENCE IN LIFE

1. EXCELLENCE IN LIFE Dr. NAVNEET ARORA Associate Professor DEPARTMENT OF MECHANICAL & INDUSTRIAL ENGINEERING INDIAN INSTITUTE OF TECHNOLOGY ROORKEE

2. Why I am here ? • To give a Talk not a Lecture • To remind you which you may know already • To share my experiences and to advice

3. Advice Advice is seldom welcome and those who need it the most, always like it the least.

4. Remember • It is better to have a successful exit than a favourable entrance. Because what matters is not being applauded when you arrive, but being remembered when you leave. 2. It is the message which is important not the messenger.

5. Aim TO ACHIEVE EXCELLENCE IN LIFE AND IMPROVE INTER-PERSONAL RELATIONS Not through Knowledge but through Realisation

6. Real Teaching • I never teach my pupils, • I only attempt to provide the condition in which they can learn. - Albert Einstein

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9. STAGES OF LIFE Teen Age –Has time and energy, but no money. Working Age –Has money and energy, but no time. Old Age –Has money and time, but no energy.

10. Life and 3 T’s • Tension • Time • Target

11. Problems in LIfe • “The problems which may press down on humanity may be mostly political, economic and ecological, but their background remains moral and meta-physical.” - Paul Brunton

12. Excellence in Life Excellence is not a DESTINATION But a JOURNEY that never ends.

13. Excellence Vs Attitude It is not only APTITUDE But ATTITUDE Which can take you to ALTITUDE* *Here ALTITUDE stands for Rising Higher In Life

14. Why Positive Attitude ? Remember that all the water in the world won’t sink your boat if it doesn’t get inside.

15. QuoteWinston Churchill had framed on the wall of his office “ I do the very best I can, I mean to keep going. If the end brings me out all right, then what is said against me won’t matter. If I’m wrong, ten angels swearing I was right won’t make a difference.” - A. Linclon

16. Criticism • If people criticise you, hurt you or shout at you, don’t be bothered. • Just remember in every game audience make the noise and not the players.

17. Excellence vs Success • Success is the bye product and the result. • Excellence always creates Success and it is a process of continual improvement. • Never run after success. • Let it happen automatically in life.

18. Stress • Means Pressure ncko/Tension ruko Whether stress is a boon or curse. Depends upon the basis. Is it based on Positive Feelings or Negative one. Achieving Excellence without Stress is possible with Positive Feelings in Heart.

19. What is More Important ? Your Standard of Living Or Living a Life with Correct Standard

20. What Counts in Life “Not everything that counts can be counted and not everything that can be counted counts.” - Albert Einstein

21. Basic Human Instincts :TO EXCEL & TO SURVIVETo fulfill these Instincts Man has Struggled a lot and is still Struggling Today. But • Question : Why We Have ? • Taller Buildings Shorter Tempers • Wider Freeways Narrower Viewpoints • More Knowledge Less Wisdom • More Medicines Less Health • More Food Less Nutrition • Answer : Because We Have • Conquered Outer Space Not Inner Space • Higher Income Lower Morals • Split the Atom Not Our Prejudices • Added Years to Life Not Life to Years • Learnt Financial Management Not SELF-MANAGEMENT Solution Lies in Cultivation of Human Values

22. Human Values Values in our SOUL play the role of Valves in a HEART

23. DefinitionHuman Values Human Values are those values or attributes in character that add value to a human being. The human values need to be incorporated in all thoughts and emotions.

24. Essence of Education “ The highest education is that which does not merely give us information but makes our life in harmony with all other existences.” - Dr. R.N. Tagore,

25. Lift Oneself Up One should lift oneself up by one’s own efforts and should not degrade oneself, for one’sown self is one’s friend and one’s own self is one’s enemy. (The BhagavadGita VI – 5)

26. Flow of Goodness The best of men is he from whom good accrueth to humanity. - The Holy Quran

27. Fragrance of Goodness • The fragrance of flowers, spreads only in the direction of the wind. • But the goodness of a person spreads in all directions.

28. Human Values 1. Self Oriented Values 2. Family Oriented Values 3. Society Oriented Values 4. Nature Oriented Values

29. Self Oriented Values 1. Self Knowledge 2. Self Sufficiency 3. Self Control 4. Self Education 5. Self Discipline 6. Self Esteem 7. Self Confidence 8. Self Appraisal 9. Self Sacrifice 10. Self Transcendence

30. Family Oriented Values • 1. Maternal Love • 2. Paternal Love • Reverence • Caring and Sharing • Gratitude • Co-operation • 7. Spirit of Service • 8. Harmony and Peace • 9. Mutual Trust • 10. Chastity • 11. Mutual Respect • 12. Tolerance

31. Society Oriented Values • 1.Spirit of Total Social Responsibility • 2. Spirit of Service and Reform • 3. Spirit of Reverence and Gratitude • 4. Spirit of Respect for Life • 5. Consideration for Rights of Others • 6. Spirit of Enthusiastic Performance of • Constitutional Duties, Specially Fundamental • Duties • 7. Love for Noble Social Environment • 8. Spirit of Harmony with Human Beings • 9. Spirit of Special Service to Benefactors and Elders

32. Society Oriented Values(contd.) • 10. Faith in Equality, Liberty and Fraternity • 11. Faith in Humanism, Social Justice, Democracy • and Value Saturated Secularism • 12. Power of Oration and Value-oriented • Leadership Development • 13. Spirit of Cooperation and Healthy Competition • 14. Spirit of Missionary Life • 15. Spirit of Pride in Composite Culture • 16. Reverence for Famous Educationists, Statesmen, • Reformers, Scientists, Spiritualists and Patriots • 17. Respect for Charters of Human Rights, • of the Child,Rights of Women and the Aged • 18. Spirit of Removing Defects and Deficiencies • in Society

33. Nature Oriented Values • 1. Love for Knowledge of Nature • 2. Willing Obedience to Laws of Nature • 3. Development of Scientific Method , • Scientific Faith and Belief • 4. Love for Understanding Laws of Nature • 5. Development of Scientific Temper • 6. Spirit of Conservation of Nature • 7. Spirit of Preserving Purity of Nature • 8. Compassion for all Living Beings • 9. Spirit of Service of all Human Beings, • Animals, Birds, Trees and Plants • 10. Good Care of Physical Things • 11. Hatred of Polluting Environment • 12. Love for Truths and Beauties of Nature

34. Symptoms of Morality 1. To Be Good is to Feel Related 2. To Be Good is to Feel Concerned 3. To Be Good is to Be Affectionate 4. To Be Good is to Seek Harmony 5. To Be Good is to Have Reverence 6. To Be Good is to Have Gratitude 7. To Be Good is to Make Amends 8. To Be Good is to Respect to Other Existences 9. To Seek Harmony is to Cultivate Altruistic Feelings

35. The two wolves • An elderly man was teaching his grandchildren about life. He said to them, “A fight is going on inside me … It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One wolf represents fear, anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, pride and superiority.The other wolf stands for joy, peace, love, hope, sharing, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, friendship, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith. This same fight is going on inside you and every other person too.” • They thought about it for a minute and then one child asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win ?” • The old man simply replied, “The one I feed.”

36. Feelings in Life • Feelings are important in our life, as they come from heart. • If you respond back they grow, if you ignore they die. • If you respect they stay forever.

37. Relations in Life Never try to maintain relations in your life, Just try to maintain life in your relations. And the life in relations is achieved through Human Values

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39. Approach World always say – Find good people and leave bad ones. But I say – Find the good in people and ignore the bad in them. Because no one is born perfect.

40. Negative Thoughts • Negative thoughts and tensions are like birds. • We can’t stop them from flying near us. • But we, can certainly stop them from making a nest in our mind.

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44. Priority in Life “Ever since childhood, I have scored the common place limits so often set upon human ambition, possession, outward success, publicity,luxury. To me these have always been contemptible”. - Einstein

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47. A Call for Us Let us make the place of work/home a seat of Harmony. It is not being beautiful that counts …….. But, being a beautiful person.

48. Problems in Life GIVE US TWO ADVICE 1. We know how to solve it. 2. We know how to avoid it in future.

49. Face Difficulties in Life • It is not because things are difficult, that we do not dare. • It is because we do not dare that things are difficult.

50. Real Life Life lived for OTHERS is a LIFE INDEED. Life lived for SELF is a barren WASTE.