THE DYNAMICS OF MULTIGENERATIONAL CARE IN SINGAPORE. LENG LENG THANG NATIONAL UNIVERSITY OF SINGAPORE. Seminar on Family Support Networks and Population Ageing, 3-4 June 2009, Doha, Qatar . INTRODUCTION. Cycle of care Parents support the younger generation
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LENG LENG THANG
NATIONAL UNIVERSITY OF SINGAPORE
Seminar on Family Support Networks and Population Ageing,
3-4 June 2009, Doha, Qatar
Cycle of care
Source: Singapore Departmentof Statistics (2008) and UN data <http://data.un.org>. *As percentage of total population
Source: MCYS Survey on Social Attitudes of Singaporeans (2005).
C: “[She] had a very hard life…She look after…brought [us up]…My father passed away…my elder brother was only 11, I was 7, the third one is 3…the fourth one she was expecting…That’s why…how can I leave her alone? That’s the reason!” (Chinese daughter, Huang 2002)
“Yes I am close, close (to my grandchildren). For example, with my grandson here, when he was still young, my wife and I took care of him. We sent him to school, picked him up from school. My wife would prepare his meals. Because his mother was working, so I took care of his wellbeing. I also took care of another grandson when he was very young. My wife took care of him and of his meals. His mother was working too: sometimes going in the morning and coming back at night, going in the afternoon and coming back at night. My wife and I took care of him, so that we will always have strong relationships with our grandchildren and children.” (L1, GPP)
“Well, of course…..taking care of the grandparent also, of course I want to give the best to I can give to them…. if you can survive until now, now is the time for us to repay back on what they have done for us. And its time for us to…and we know that life is ….. very short…so I want to give the fullest attention to them.” (N2, GPP)
“ Grandmother: I don’t want to have that responsibility. I am done raising five, so that grandchildren, I should have the luxury of (enjoying them), you know?
“It feels different when your own child looks after you and other people...It’s different, when [they] bathe me, wipe me…[The maid] would be in a hurry to do it. [My daughter] will take her time to do it. [She] does a more thorough job. (Elder Parent, FCP)
J: “I have to work, then she pass urine, vomit…fall ill…I’m unable to do all these myself. Sometimes I’ll feel burnt out, I’ll lose temper…With a maid will be more relieved, not so pressurized and stressful.” (FCP)
Help facilitate elder parent-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship as maid becomes the ‘go-between (“triangular” communication pattern)
“It’s either I worry about the person all the time, or I let go a little. It’s like even now when I’m out of the house and I know my (maid)
caregiver is completely, totally reliable. My dad trusts her. I think that trust is a very important thing.” (Chinese son, Hwang, 2002)